Hey everyone,

I had a mc last September at 7.5 weeks...my DH and I had been TTC our first for 3 months when I got my BFP. The doctor said that since we got pg so fast that time, that we shouldn't have any trouble when we try again. Well...it's been about 6 months since we've been trying again and still nothing.

My question is more about life than the process of trying...I have been thinking about going back to school at some point in the future (probably once we are past the point of newborns) but as I wait and wait and wait...I'm wondering if I should stop putting that on hold since who knows when or if I'll be having a baby in the near future..?!? My concern is if I register for classes then end up pg, how will that work?

My DH says I'm being pessimistic and that we will get pg soon...but I'm just having a hard time figuring out what I'm supposed to do while waiting...any of you experience this?

Yes! I am suppose to be starting Nursing school in August of this year. I had a miscarriage in January and we started ttc again recently. I definitely don't want to pass up this opportunity for nursing but I also think about what if I get pregnant. Nursing is 5 semesters and there are no breaks in between semesters and the clinicals can sometimes be crucial and stressful. I've been in Nursing School before and had a rough time but I'm giving it another try and plan to succeed. I'm just so worried about a pregnancy. When I was in nursing before, there were two women in my class that were pregnant, had the baby on the weekend, and came back to school on Monday. I'm not sure if I can do that!!

What if you sign up for classes and if you do get pregnant, decrease the semester hours or do online classes?

I hope you get your BFP soon!

Hi there, sorry for your loss

I am in a very similar position, I miscarried 2 weeks ago and still waiting for my body to get back to normal, but I am also unsure how long it will take me to get pg again and in the meantime should I put my career on hold?

I had considered doing a Phd and also am desperately looking for a new job so I can progress my career. I dont want to start a new job and become pg and end up being told I'm not suitable for the job after my 3 months probation. On the other hand I also don't want to stop any chances of me becoming pregnant!! It's hard and unfair that we as women should feel we have to choose but it's the way of life.

I have decided to take a "que cera" kind of approach to it, to continue trying to progress my career and I'm looking into Phd courses and applying. In the meantime I'm going to enjoy a normal sex life not preventing pg (once my body has had a couple of months to recover) and what will be will be. I don't want to give up trying for a baby but at the same time don't want to feel like time has stopped until I get pg again.

I hope that helps any, I just think that life has a way of working out for the best, even when we can't see a clear path ahead.

Best of luck with everything xxxx

I agree it's so hard to choose! I have just taken a new job even though I want to keep trying. But on the other hand I am thinking should I just put the trying on hold for a bit. The mc has taken its toll on me. X

I think for me I'm going to definitely give my body a rest for 2 to 3 months and just see how I feel then, my emotions are quite high now and I just want to be a mum, but maybe in 3 months time I'll have a different view.

Part of me wants to just say "sod it" and ttc as soon as I can because I've always only ever wanted to be a mum, but I also wanted to be in a good position to provide a good life for my child and so part of that would be getting a better job and I have to keep that in mind.

I think in the end it boils down to how much you really want to have the new job/do a course and whether you would be bothered if getting pregnant would end that job/course, if that makes any sense lol!!

i think the worst thing the society did to the women of today is make them believe that having a baby AND having a career is impossible. of course, having to manage two responsibilities instead of one is a bit more demanding, but it's all a matter of organization and of how much you really want it.
there are soooo many working moms out there, also single working moms who manage to have both, every single day. and the roles of the dads of today changed drastically compared to the generation of our fathers (how many of our dads assisted a childbirth?), they do way more for the baby now and can all be managed. the fact is that when you are a mom, you have this extra "mom-gear" which does the things you alone wouldn't be able to

my folks had my brother when they were at their second year of college, now they are both medical doctors and they even manage to squeeze me in before graduating. and there are so many people out there who do it, don't let the world discourage you from both!

Hi lovewithin,

I love that way of thinking!! We definitely shouldn't think we can't have it all. My only problem is the finances! Myself and my partner are both on UK minimum wage, so if I were to have a baby I wouldn't be able to afford child care in order to go back to work, which is why I want a better job and I'm more than qualified for, but in the UK at the moment better jobs are harder to come by.

Saying that though I'm still not giving up on having it all.....if you don't try you'll never know if you can I guess!

exactly! that's the spirit! if you don't try nothing will ever change! and if you do - something ALWAYS comes up!