Feels like I've got another mountain to climb

jaykay · Apr 7th, 2012, 07:53 AM

Hi,

I lost my baby boy at 22 weeks and 2 days last September, it had taken over 3 years to get prg. During that time, I had one failed IUI, and then got prg the next month. We have been trying since October, but nothing yet

We are about to go back to our consultant to start more treatment, but I am feeling very nervous about it. I feel as though I've already climbed a mountain to get prg, and now I have to climb one all over again. People keep telling me that I'll catch again quickly, but I am finding it increasingly difficult to stay positive. Sometimes, I feel so low I think that I can't cope anymore, and that really scares me, I'm usually a optemisitc person.

I just wondered if anyone could give me any advice about how to stay positive and conquor my anxiety. I want to be a mum so much, but with each month that passes, I get more scared that it won't happen.

lovewithin · Apr 7th, 2012, 17:12 PM

i don't know if this can be helpful, but i was under anxiety attacks for the 1st weeks after my mc, and also suffered from them in the past. the only thing against them that works, and against anxiety in general, at least for me, is mental discipline.
you really need to learn how to hold the reins of your own thoughts when they start galloping that way, this is is the only cure i know. i know well how hard it is, but once you catch and tame them, it gets easier the next time.

regarding your physical treatments, have you tried acupuncture? there was a success story thread on this forum, i think it is pretty interesting to look at, not only because of getting pregnant, but because it is a holistic treatment and could benefit you on all the levels, not only physical but also emotional.

i know lots of people don't give much credit to it, i had it done personally a couple of times and it does improve the general well being, this i can assure you!

and all the best to you!

jaykay · Apr 8th, 2012, 04:13 AM

Thank you for your message, I will look into acupunture. I have reflexology about once a month, and I do find that it helps me sleep better. Maybe meditaion might help, I find it really hard to switch my mind off, and the issue seems to be constantly in my thoughts, and I often get flashbacks to losing my baby. We are going on holiday in a couple of weeks, and I am determined to relax then, I'll also be ov at around that time, so fingered crossed!!!

Thanks again for the advice xx

lovewithin · Apr 8th, 2012, 08:34 AM

i wish you good holidays then! and yeps meditation is of great help

keepin my fingers crossed for u!

Apr 7th, 2012, 07:53 AM	#1
jaykay Trying to conceive (TTC) Active BnB Member Join Date: Jul 2010 Location: Devon, UK Posts: 83	Feels like I've got another mountain to climb Hi, I lost my baby boy at 22 weeks and 2 days last September, it had taken over 3 years to get prg. During that time, I had one failed IUI, and then got prg the next month. We have been trying since October, but nothing yet We are about to go back to our consultant to start more treatment, but I am feeling very nervous about it. I feel as though I've already climbed a mountain to get prg, and now I have to climb one all over again. People keep telling me that I'll catch again quickly, but I am finding it increasingly difficult to stay positive. Sometimes, I feel so low I think that I can't cope anymore, and that really scares me, I'm usually a optemisitc person. I just wondered if anyone could give me any advice about how to stay positive and conquor my anxiety. I want to be a mum so much, but with each month that passes, I get more scared that it won't happen.

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Apr 7th, 2012, 17:12 PM	#2
lovewithin Other Active BnB Member Join Date: Mar 2012 Posts: 406	i don't know if this can be helpful, but i was under anxiety attacks for the 1st weeks after my mc, and also suffered from them in the past. the only thing against them that works, and against anxiety in general, at least for me, is mental discipline. you really need to learn how to hold the reins of your own thoughts when they start galloping that way, this is is the only cure i know. i know well how hard it is, but once you catch and tame them, it gets easier the next time. regarding your physical treatments, have you tried acupuncture? there was a success story thread on this forum, i think it is pretty interesting to look at, not only because of getting pregnant, but because it is a holistic treatment and could benefit you on all the levels, not only physical but also emotional. i know lots of people don't give much credit to it, i had it done personally a couple of times and it does improve the general well being, this i can assure you! and all the best to you!

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Apr 8th, 2012, 04:13 AM	#3
jaykay Trying to conceive (TTC) Active BnB Member Join Date: Jul 2010 Location: Devon, UK Posts: 83	Thank you for your message, I will look into acupunture. I have reflexology about once a month, and I do find that it helps me sleep better. Maybe meditaion might help, I find it really hard to switch my mind off, and the issue seems to be constantly in my thoughts, and I often get flashbacks to losing my baby. We are going on holiday in a couple of weeks, and I am determined to relax then, I'll also be ov at around that time, so fingered crossed!!! Thanks again for the advice xx

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Apr 8th, 2012, 08:34 AM	#4
lovewithin Other Active BnB Member Join Date: Mar 2012 Posts: 406	i wish you good holidays then! and yeps meditation is of great help keepin my fingers crossed for u!

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