Hi ladies,

I'm just coming to the end of a mc...first pregnancy. I have to go back to the EPU in a week or so for another scan when I think they check that everything's cleared out.

I was just wondering if anyone else has had one of these follow-up scans and whether they can tell you anything other than whether the mc is finished? I know they can't tell me why it happened, but I was wondering whether they might be able to see anything that tells us how far along I might be in my cycle or anything...? Clutching at straws maybe, but I just want any information I can get my hands on!

Thanks xx

Hi cherrytomato,

I also had a mmc, the miscarriage started 16 days ago. I had a scan last week to check how it was going as I didnt think I had passed my baby. The scan showed mixed echoes which they guessed we're blood clots. Also they measured my endometrial thickness to see how it was clearing and it was still quite thick at 10mm. Besides that there isn't much they told me. I don't think they can tell you anything about how far along you are in your cycle. But it can help to give you a bit of closure, I at least know now that I have passed my baby. And I also know that there wasn't a problem with the thickness of my uterus lining.

I don't know if that helps any. So sorry for your loss though and wish you lots of baby dust for the future xxxxx

Thanks Baileybubs. I had a scan when things started to go wrong a week ago - saw the baby, the heartbeat. They couldn't see anything wrong but by that evening we were in A&E. The next morning they scanned again and couldn't see baby or heartbeat. It had only measured 6 weeks and I seem to have stopped mc-ing now, so I think this stage is over. Thanks for sharing your experience, I just find it helps to know what to expect...I hadn't really planned for this to be part of the story. I'm really sorry you're going through this...fingers crossed we'll never have to do it again xx

Hello cherry and bailey, we sound like we're in a similar position. It's so hard isn't it - I know I need to accept that sometimes these things just happen but I want answers too!
I miscarried my first pregnancy on Tuesday, I was 9 weeks but baby measured only 7 weeks 4 days. I had been bleeding on and off since 5 weeks 3 days and had a scan only a couple of days before it died showing all good with a heartbeat, so we thought we were good to go. Then heavier bleeding at the weekend with a natural m/c in the early hours of Wednesday. I'm pleased I didn't have to d&c and I do feel like its all gone but not sure whether to get scanned to check anyway? Do you have to do this?
I sort of felt that the whole thing wasn't quite 'right' but I didn't want to admit it to anyone.
What are your plans now? We're going to ttc straight away - I know that's the only way I can get over this. I have booked my first acupuncture appointment for next week & I'm going to see the doc to see if I have a UTI. I have a huge tray full of vitamins too - leaving nothing to chance this time! Hugs to you both x

Hi pebbles,

You don't have to have a follow up scan, the nurses at the EPAU seem to think that once the bleeding stops everything is fine, it's just if the bleeding continues that if indicates your uterus might still have some placental tissue or something like that. I am still bleeding but fingers crossed it seems to have slowed almost to a stop today (yay!) I just hope that's it now!! Otherwise I have to phone the hospital again on Monday for yet another scan. Also they said don't worry too much about everything "coming out" as your body can absorb some of it anyway and it won't be harmful. Hope that helps a little more!

I am letting my body get back to its natural menstrual cycle by waiting 2/3 AF's. I had just come off the pill after 10 years when I found out I was pregnant so think I need to let my body relax and be normal before I start trying again. Plus me and oh have zero savings, no mortgage and crap jobs so I'd like that to change. On the other hand I want to get pregnant before Xmas too, I have another fear that it will take a while to get pregnant again so don't want to wait too long!! I need to have a baby or I will forever feel like a woman who miscarried....if that makes sense!!

Hi Pebbles,

I was told to go to the EPU the morning after my A&E visit for a scan, when I was 'in the throes of a miscarriage' as the sonographer so gently put it. I think if you go to hospital and they say you're having a mc, they automatically book you in for another scan a couple of weeks later (or maybe that's just our local EPU)? They gave me a couple of leaflets, and there's some info on this page of the Miscarriage Association website. Some of it is a bit unpleasant to read, so the bit I'm referring to says: 'The hospital is likely to invite you back for another scan or scans over the next few weeks to monitor progress and ensure that the womb has emptied.'

I'm sorry you had the same rollercoaster we did with a promising scan followed by mc....it sucks. I hope you're doing ok and the acupuncture helps.

We were told that we can ttc straight away, they suggest waiting one cycle but purely to make dating easier if you manage it first time. We're going to start as soon as we can, we were ready before and we're ready now so we're happy to start trying again. I'm a bit worried about how long it could take for my insides to get back to normal, but I'm hoping the fact that this was a relatively early mc will mean it won't take too long....

Baileybubs I know what you mean. I'd come off the pill after 9 years and my body was still sorting itself out when I got pregnant, so I totally understand waiting til it feels like your body is more stable. We just don't feel like we can wait those extra few months...patience is not something that has come easily during this whole process! At least it doesn't look like having an mc affects future chances

xx

Thanks for your replies. I totally see where you're coming from Bailey, you and your body need to be ready. 2 or 3 months really isn't that long at all, it will fly by. I totally know what you mean about being "the woman who miscarried". The hospital were so positive about our healthy embryo at 7 weeks that we told everyone & now feel like I have a massive neon sign on my head saying "Failed, couldn't even manage 7 weeks".
As you say Cherry we were ready before & even more ready now. I am really worried about a 2nd mc but we won't know unless we try again. My actual miscarriage was fairly 'good' (that is the wrong word but you know what I mean) and the bleeding has really tailed off today so I hope we can start trying soon. Sounds like yours is similar, which is great.I have no idea where my cycles will be or when I ovulate though... All i know is I simply have to be visibly pregnant by my original due date at Halloween! Psychologically this is probably not healthy however I'm past caring! X
Ps/ does your miscarriage coud as cycle day 1 or do you pick up your pre- miscarriage cycles?

It makes it worse being surrounded by pregnant women, I feel like the one that is a failure! Even though 2 of my pregnant friends miscarried last year and are doing fine now, my brain seems to ignore that info and just says "you are the one right now who couldn't keep your baby!". It's weird how logic means nothing at the moment!

And i was wondering that too about cycle day. If its the first day of mc then I'm on cycle day 18 already, I'm trying not to count as I know I'll be upset again by day 28 when theres no sign of AF but I just want to get back to normal so I can have 2 normal months and ttc again. My due date was end of sept and I dont know how I'll cope if I'm not pregnant again!

Have either have you had friends and family thinking you can "get more prepared" this time? A lot of people around me seem to think that I can save more money and stuff but I just dont care about that, I want a family!

Yup! My mum has been great but she did say "ooh well at least you can pay a bit more of your credit card off"!
I have lots of preg friends at the moment but there is one who was due the day before me. She is a lovely girl but I just know I won't be able to see her as that should have been me. I feel extra bad because they tried for over a year and we caught first month but I'm still so jealous of her now.
I'm going to count the day of my mc as cd1 and see how it goes I think.

Yeah my mum said a similar thing, I'd seen a job I really wanted, was my dream job but as I'd been pregnant I couldn't go for it. After the mc she said "at least you can apply for that job now" she meant well coz I know she was devastated too by the loss but I don't think she knew what else to say bless her. And ironically I did appy for the job and didn't even get an interview grrrrr!

And yeah from what other posts I've seen I'm sure day one of the mc is counted as cycle day one. Let's all keep our fingers and toes crossed for the next few months xxxxx