I am not really sure how to answer your thread, besides telling you that I have been there recently myself and I know how awful and scary it all is. On March 27th, I went in for a scan with some left sided pain which continued down my leg. They found an empty "pseudo sac" in my uterus and a yolk sac in my left tube but (after much drama and an awful few days of them telling all sorts of things from prepping me for immediate emergency surgery to them me there was hope they were wrong because the blood work wasn't matching up) eventually I was told I would miscarry naturally.
I started bleeding that day, which heavy bleeding continued for 7 days with contractions on the 3rd day to pass the pseudo sac in my uterus. It was an awful and heartbreaking experience, so I know how terrible that must have been for you! I am still very raw about it emotionally, but for myself and my DH all we want to do is jump right back into TTC and get pregnant again right away as we see that as the only way to heal. We won't even be waiting my first natural AF as my doctor said it wasn't necessary if we were emotionally ready and it was really more for dating purposes on a future pregnancy.
But my advice would be that if you don't feel ready and you need time to heal you should take all the time you need. I think the biggest concern is that you feel strong enough to handle the fears that are going to come with another pregnancy (which are many and very overwhelming, I know, I feel the same way!) and so you should wait until you feel comfortable.
I don't really have any other advice on how to get through it, I find that letting myself vent on here or to my DH or just really FEELING the emotions rather than avoiding them has helped, and I am allowing myself to grieve. But to be honest, the only thing that is really keeping me holding on is the idea of TTC again, but this was my first pregnancy and first loss so I can't fathom the heartache you are experiencing with this being your 4th.
If you ever need to chat, I am here and feel free to PM me.
I have had two but I did have a daughter in between them. I lost the tube and nearly died during the first one, and was treated by methotrexate the second time.
At least you have 2 tubes, and can try again when you are ready. I goit prescribed clomid and fell pregnant with my daughter.
Its very painful but remain positive. xxxxxxx
I also had an ectopic however it resolved itself just as yours has. It is an awful experience to know that a possibly perfectly healthy baby didn't even get a chance because it ended up in the wrong spot. It took me a couple months to finally start to feel better emotionally. Now I want go try again and of course I am scared that it may happen again, but I know OH will help me through. He wants to wait a bit longer, as he said we have a chance now to properly prepare (ours was a little accident but we were happy) but I know that to try again will be the best therapy for me.
After my ectopic, I ended up with an infection so if the pain becomes unbearable be sure to get checked up. Almost 3 weeks after my loss, I ovulated and that was also painful and it has been every month since. Because your body took care of itself, there may be some scar tissue so if you do get some pains in a few weeks try not to be alarmed.
I'm so sorry this has happened to you 4 times! I hope that when you try next, you get your rainbow!
Hey girl, I found out i was pregnant last year in april and a few day after finding out i was struck with the sharpest pains and dropped to the floor.. i thought it would resolve itself so i tried laying in bed, i tried laying in the shower and was sweating and fainting and so i had to call an ambulence when i knew in my heart i was going to die. I said my goodbyes to everyone i loved that night and passed out in my bathtub. I woke up in the intensive care unit the next day and they told me that my tube had burst and i lost my left tube and ovary. The surgeon came into my room and had tears in her eyes and said if i didnt know before this happened if i was supposed to be here on this earth that i should know now. I almost bled to death!! i have a bout 5 untits of blood in my body and i lost four..
Good news (kinda) is.. even tho i did lose half of my girly stuff i did concieve 3 cycles later without really even trying.. no opk's or charting and very irregular cycles too.. i have 40-60 day cycles still now. The pregnancy made it to 13 weeks and they told me the heartbeat had stopped and i had to get a D&C. Now i have to be very very careful and pay very close attention to my cycles to know if im pregnant or not b/c if that ever happens again i would be unable to have children. its so sad im only 24 this month.
I know this is your 4th loss and as sad as it is, there is hope. You obviously dont have much trouble concieving so one lil bean has to stick right? thats what im hoping for too!!
Becci, it is probably just little bits of residual blood from the m/c. Have you dtd or anything since you stopped bleeding? I know I had a small bit of brown spotting 2 days after my bleeding stopped after DH and I dtd, but it was just a little bit of old blood so I would assume that is what it is.
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