Happy Weekend Everyone Hope you all have some plans to relax or maybe get outside in the spring weather!

I bought some new running shoes so I am actually looking forward to going on a short run (my new approach to exercise is to take it easy so that I might actually enjoy it rather than feeling exhausted)

Counter to exercising: I am also excited to choose another bottle of wine to open and drink hehe

Thanks, Susan! It's raining here, and is supposed to continue to rain all weekend. Nothing a little wine tasting won't cure. Good attitude towards exercising. Mine is just to do what feels good, and not to push it too much. But also not to act like I'm pregnant already and stop doing things.

Where is everyone? It's been so quiet in here lately...

mmmmmmm wine lol The older I get, the more I like wine....not sure why! I just can't handle multiple bottles of Smirnoff Ice anymore....makes me too bloated! Oh well, it's icky here now too, so I'm off to watch "Twilight" and maybe hunt around for some wine....it's got to be here somewhere!

Happy Weekend!

Hello ladies! Over 30 and ttc #1 here. So glad to find a chatty forum. Just mc-ed last month after 7 months of trying. Feeling mostly OK though....

I think I am 7dpo. Not really supposed to be trying but we're not actively preventing.

Rosa - it has been quiet on here recently. Weird. It is beautiful here in the UK and I have spent all day reading and relaxing in the sunshine. Trying hard not to think too much about ttc and it is working - but I have to check in here to see how everyone is.

SMFirst - I love, love, love wine. At the clinic they told us to drink less we didnt drink much anyways, but it does suck to act pregnant when you're not.

Welcome Birdie dorf.

Also, meant to say I have started exercising again. I stopped in Jan in case it was stopping us ttc, but I miss it. So have just started get fit classes again. Feels good

mrsmax - gald you are enjoying the weather!

Welcome Birdie - sorry for your loss. I found it took a couple of months to really feel like I was over my loss and ready to try again (which is now for us). Feel free to post whatever is on your mind - we are here to support each other! Best of luck to you

Thanks for the welcome ladies. I just feel like not trying is more of a punishment than what actually happened. I try to keep telling myself at least i know I can conceive independently and I now know what the first 8 weeks feels like...

I think my OPKs are zany however. It was dark last Friday and now also today... guess this is just the month where we figure things out. Have to go back to MW on Tuesday to make sure everything is OK. Dreading another visit but glad to feel like we're moving forward.

hemmygirl and Birdie Dorf. Sorry to hear of your loss Birdie Dorf.

It is Autumn here in Oz and the nights are getting cooler but today is the most gorgeous sunny day and not super hot. Gotta love Autumn and Spring.

Had a lovely night with friends and some wine the other night which was great but then yesterday (probably cause I was really really tired after the late night) I had a mini meltdown about TTC. DH was up for some more BD'ing but I just couldn't be bothered as I feel like I am out for this month (not sure if I actually o'd even if my ticker says I am 3dpo). Cue the tears Sigh. I hate this feeling of no control. Some tips on not thinking about TTC would be great as it just seems to be in the back of my mind most of the time

I have been going to Zumba classes on a weekly basis since Sept last year. Love it - it is my pick me up for the week as I am so busy trying to follow the instructor I forget about just about everything else. My GP said it was fine for me to continue Zumbaing when I fell pregnant as I had already been doing it before I fell pregnant - I just toned the moves down a bit. I also try to walk regularly (when it is not raining as it just keeps drizzling lately - we seem to have stolen the British weather ). I figure it is better to keep active and exercising before I fall pregnant as I want to keep active while pregnant (well as much as I am allowed to anyway).

Welcome Hemmysgirl and Birdie!

Birdie Sorry to hear about your loss. I agree, It is hard to wait like the doctors say. Have you had an AF yet?

Susan- I just got new running shoes too! I was hoping they'd inspire me. They are the kind by Nike (free run +2) that are supposed to make you feel like you don't have shoes on. I don't know why I got them- cute and thought if other people like to feel like they don't have shoes I bet I do too. First time I wore them my shins hurt, which never happens! I'm gonna assume it's because I was on a tread mill and not outside. We shall see!

MsJ- I went to a Zumba class one time and totally sucked! I was so bad! I love dancing and love to exercise so I thought, perfect! I'm apparently uncoordinated at choreographed dance! I guess my girl band dreams are out.

I can't give you guys any advice on not thinking about TTC as I am horrible myself. I did stumble upon a thread on BnB that was a list of things to do during the 2ww, which made me laugh. Hope you guys enjoy it as much as I did:

The Two-Week Wait Activity List
14 Things To Do When 14 Days Seem Like Forever
by Lynn Steen

As any woman who is trying to get pregnant can tell you, the two weeks from ovulation to the due date for your next period are pure torture. You promise yourself you'll just wait it out, distract yourself with other activities and you won't even THINK about taking a pregnancy test until you're at least a day overdue. Then something happens - your breasts start hurting in a slightly different way than they did before, you get slightly nauseous, you have some spotting …Or nothing happens, but you find yourself waking up wishing you could go to sleep again so that it would be another day closer to knowing. You can't think, you can't sleep, you can't work, you start taking HPTs days before they are even possibly meaningful. You are deep in the abyss of THE TWO-WEEK WAIT!

In my opinion, it's no use advising women to stop obsessing, it's impossible. Instead, I give you a list of more productive ways to obsess. Please note, however, that there is a limit that each woman must define for herself, between indulging in some baby-daydreaming and going overboard. I've included some examples below:

1. Take a walk around your neighborhood and figure out what will be the best route for strolls with the baby. Find areas with nice sidewalks and easy curbs. Go ahead and daydream. But do NOT buy a stroller for the dog.

2. Clean out your closet to make room for the maternity stuff you'll be buying soon. Try on anything you haven't worn for six months. Yes, if you wish, you may put a pillow in your undies to see what will work as maternity wear. But taking a picture of yourself like that is going too far.

3. Start a journal. Write down everything you're feeling. It will be a great opening chapter for your child's baby book. If you can't put your feelings into words draw something, try to create a symbol that expresses the frustration you're feeling. Don't get that symbol tattooed on your ankle.

4. Plant a hope garden. Or a hope rosebush. Or a hope citrus tree. You want to grow something inside of you, well start by growing something outside of you. Nurture it. Feed it. Give it water. Talk to it. But do not send out birth announcements.

5. Get better at photography. Really learn how to work all the buttons and settings on your camera. Experiment! If you have a digital camera, get all the downloading and editing stuff worked out. You will be well-prepared once you have a baby, and will be able to get some great shots and get them emailed to your family before the child's graduation. Do not take photos of your cervical mucous, even if Toni Weschler begs you.

6. Make an appeal to the committee meeting going on inside you. Sperm, egg, uterus, corpus luteum, progesterone…they are in there either making a baby or not. Treat them like any other unruly committee you've ever addressed. Yes that's right, go ahead and talk to them. Put your hands on your stomach and tell them how much you respect them. Make your best argument in favor of a baby, and then let them decide. It's out of your hands. Addressing the committee within earshot of normal people is not recommended.

7. Paint your toenails. Imagine how difficult this will be when you are pregnant. Go shopping for the perfect pink and blue nailpolish in preparation for a celebration polish. Alternating colors on the day you find out you're pregnant, or a single color for the day you find out the baby's sex. Don't be tempted to paint a cycle day countdown on your big toes.

8. Make a cup of herbal tea. It is a nice ritual: boiling the water, adding the tea leaves, pouring into a nice china cup, adding some milk or sugar, sipping peacefully. Ahhhh. There's nothing that a nice cup of tea won't help. Yeah right. Well it does kill a little bit of time.

9. Swim laps. Think about the sperm and how they need to swim to your egg. Imagine that you are a sperm, the end of the pool is the egg, then GO, GO, GO! Don't wear a tail or anything. Just imagine it quietly.

10. Make lists. List who you will tell when you get pregnant and in what order. List all the chores you need to get done instead of obsessing about this. List all the healthy activities you intend to do this week. List all the girl and boy names you like. Lists are helpful for all sorts of things, most of all for passing time rather than actually doing something.

11. Create a fertility dance. Choose whatever music speaks to your soul and make up a dance routine as a prayer to the universe for the growth of an embryo. Move your hips, rotate your belly, let your arms flow… but close the curtains.

12. Prepare a folic acid feast. Cream of broccoli soup appetizer, followed by spinach lasagna, enriched whole grain garlic bread and frozen orange juice sorbet for dessert. Dedicate the meal to your baby-to-be. Just don't set a highchair at the table in his or her honor.

13. Delegate the burden of the two-week wait. Clearly someone has to worry constantly during this time, but does it have to be you? Divide the days up among your best friends and closest family. On their assigned day they are required to think,wonder, and worry all day about whether you are pregnant or not. At the end of the day they have to call or send you email describing how agonizing it was. Also they have to report to you if they had any "symptoms," such as sore breasts, excessive urination, nausea, bleeding, fatigue…You will be surprised how many people, male and female, have early pregnancy symptoms if they just look for them.