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Old Mar 9th, 2013, 16:03 PM   611
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Hey welll more news - dh and I have decided after this month we will be ntnp until the adoption meeting in June. We think it'll allow mainly me to come to terms with us not having a conceived child and preparing ourselves for adoption. Dh is so excited about adoption because he has hated seeing the effect stress of ttc has on me and then us and all for a possible. I know what u mean smash - there was a profile of a little blonde 4 yr old boy with glasses and the most gorgeous smile and I could have taken him home and been happy forever and I think that made me realise how easy it is to love a child even if its not urs biologically. We're not even going to do the tests now just ntnp until the meeting in June gives us a few months to adjust and just incase we get chilly feet we can warm them bk up!

How exciting about the home visit! I've already started moving furniture and painting in my head! Smash that is so exciting congratulations! Ur on a baby journey

How long will u be in America rcaf? Is dh on board with adoption if its an option for u? I don't tend to use opks they never seem to go positive although temps seem to indicate o on every cycle?! I think I o'd yesterday but I won't know until the day after tomorrow I suppose. I will be pleased when I no longer need to shove a thermometer in my mouth as soon as I crack my eyes open!



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Old Mar 11th, 2013, 01:04 AM   612
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We'll be here for another 3 years and 3 months, then back to Canada. He's more OK with adoption than I am, so I suppose he's on board. I am trying to imagine what it would be like to love someone else's child, and not constantly think that we didn't conceive him/her. I guess I'm not there yet, at the adoption route.

BBT = stress first thing in the morning! About 3 days after O, I stopped taking it hehe



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Old Mar 11th, 2013, 03:02 AM   613
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Oh it took me a while to get here. I never thought adoption was for me but the stress of ttc is too much and if we stop we risk never having a baby or child and the most important thing I realised was to have a family. Obviously we'll be ntnp up until a certain point and then use protection whilst the kids settle in (we would like a sibling group - if u know u want a big family then why not?!) and then ntnp after that point and see what happens. Mother's Day was an odd one and seeing pics of me as a baby were a bit sad because we might not ever be able to have babies that look like us but we will still have a family

Rcaf at least with 3 years u have time to adjust to adoption if that's a possibility for u when u move back? Or 3 years to bd like crazy! Despite dh's reservations!



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Old Mar 11th, 2013, 23:27 PM   614
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Ladies to you! I was adopted at the age of 6 and my sister at 4. Even though the family I went to was not great I at least had a place to call home and I got to grow up with my sister! I know that in my future I plan on at least adopting a couple of children. I feel like I need to give back!



 
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Old Mar 12th, 2013, 00:25 AM   615
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Aw thanks for sharing that ashntony Dh was adopted too, so maybe he'll also feel the need to give back too

AFM, I applied to an internship today so we'll see which answers first: job or the baby :P



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Old Mar 12th, 2013, 09:53 AM   616
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Hey all, sorry I've been MIA for the past couple days. My family was in town and its been pretty hectic.

It's cool to hear that some of you have personal experiences with adoption. While I know of people who have been, or who adopted, it's nobody who is close to me. So far, the process just seems really overwhelming and so much to do! I feel guilty every time I just sit and relax because I could be working on getting paperwork done or working on the profile or working on our training hours and you can't go any further in the process til it's all done. But I have to make myself take breaks and remind myself that it's okay to take a few weeks to get it all done, otherwise I will drive myself crazy!

Even though we're doing the adoption thing, I'm still a little sad sometimes that it won't be my biological child. Yesterday was one of those days though it was rather eventful.... My period started, my high school bff gave birth to her first child, and I had a really vivid dream about how I went to the ob/gyn for my 20 week pre-natal appt and got to see the baby and hear the heartbeat and found out it was a girl. Granted, to get to the appt, we had to go through the meat section if a grocery store and everyone was yelling so it wasn't completely realistic, but still made me wake up feeling a little sad.

I don't know. I'm happy we're adopting and I don't feel like its just a substitute, but I guess there will always be a part of me that wishes things worked out differently.

Hope all is well for all of you!



 
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Old Mar 12th, 2013, 14:39 PM   617
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Ah, I know about those dreams. It's even weirder when other people are having baby dreams about you! No pressure, right? Ugh...



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Old Mar 12th, 2013, 19:56 PM   618
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Hi ladies! I know I haven't posted on here in awhile, but I have been stalking to keep up! No BFP for me, still ovulating WAY late (CD 27 is the earliest in the past 6 cycles) and for the past 2 cycles I have started spotting on 8dpo through 12 dpo and then AF comes. I know that isn't normal, I have always had spotting the day before AF but never for 4 or 5 days before, this is new. I called the dr. on Friday about this issue and about not getting pregnant for 8 months now and they got me an appt. for tomorrow morning. I'm glad I'm going, but I'm really nervous, I'm afraid to find out something really is wrong and we can't have any more kids. I'll let you all know how it goes.



 
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Old Mar 12th, 2013, 21:10 PM   619
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Yes, keep us updated Brit! Best of luck to you for tomorrow Spotting for that long is quite weird...maybe it's a hormonal imbalance?



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Old Mar 13th, 2013, 13:43 PM   620
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Hey ladies! Well I had my dr appt today and he did an ultrasound. My ovaries are not functioning properly and have cysts on both. I have to go back for blood work tomorrow and he said once we have the blood work results he will either start me on a low dose of clomid or meformin to move up my ovulation day. He also said my progesterone levels are falling too soon after o so he will give me progesterone for that as well. He said I am ovulating consistently on my own so that means I could get pregnant on my own but it may take a long time. The medication could help me get pregnant sooner. Dh also has to get a sperm analysis just to make sure there isn't a problem there as well. I got to see the cysts on my ovaries too it was crazy looking. Smash I know you are talking adoption now but have you been to the dr yet? Maybe it's just an easy fix like mine might be?



 
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