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Old Jan 24th, 2013, 13:55 PM   11
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Hey MrsPhez!

That sounds really positive about conceiving both pregnancies quickly, although obviously I'm really sorry to hear about your loss. Fingers crossed you get another BFP soon xxx
I'm 10 or 11 dpo an just started my usual pre AF spotting so another month bites the dust. Thinking positively, we have our FS follow up on 1st Feb to get the SA and AMH results so maybe we will have a bit more to go on then. If the FS still isn't minded to take any action I think I'm going to get a second opinion from anothe clinic I've had recommended to me. I just feel like walking in somewhere and saying 'give me IVF! I have the money!!!'. I keep going from convincing myself this month could be it, to daydreaming about IVF giving me twins, to worrying that I might not have any good eggs left and my DS might be an only child. I'm going ever so slightly mad...
Boo to AF. Even when I was sort of hoping for mine this month, as a sign things were back to normal, I still felt totally crushed - as I do every month - when it arrived.

Will be keeping fingers crossed for you for 1st Feb. I'd think with the length of time you've been trying they will have to get things going with IVF, won't they? And yes, it's frustrating if you are willing to pay and you are still waiting. I am sure things will get going soon.

I know what you mean about going through scenarios... I have almost identical thought processes. I do sometimes think this nightmare could just be over and the next pregnancy could be fine. I also have this internal debate about whether it's worth going through loads of tests, potentially some serious medication and possibly more heartache. I have already convinced myself the NHS will find nothing wrong and then I have the decision to spend 2000 we don't have on private treatment, and I'm not sure if I could do that if there were no guarantee of a baby at the end of it. Some days I decide I could be happy with what I've got, and others I have that fire in my belly to do whatever it takes for another shot at motherhood.

I do find this dominates my waking thoughts, unless I'm distracted by work. I am sure that's not healthy, but can't be uncommon. Glad I can come here and talk to people who understand.



 
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i totally empathise hinky. EVERY waking moment. and there are far more waking moments because of it - i've been suffering with insomnia for months. I lie awake just thinking all sorts of nonsense - not just TTC stuff - until 3, 4am. it is killing me.

I also had a medical before christmas and found out last week that i am quite badly anaemic and have a heart murmur, so i'm going for more blood tests and a cardiogram to make sure all is OK and it is just that i need some strong iron supplements. The doctor said with my haemoglobin levels, I would be exhausted even without the 60+ hour working weeks and ongoing insomina.

god i'm getting old and rickety




 
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hi I'm 38 well at least for the next 2 days. My DD is 4 and ive been trying for no2 ever since. Find it hard as only took 2 months to get pregnant then.



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i totally empathise hinky. EVERY waking moment. and there are far more waking moments because of it - i've been suffering with insomnia for months. I lie awake just thinking all sorts of nonsense - not just TTC stuff - until 3, 4am. it is killing me.

I also had a medical before christmas and found out last week that i am quite badly anaemic and have a heart murmur, so i'm going for more blood tests and a cardiogram to make sure all is OK and it is just that i need some strong iron supplements. The doctor said with my haemoglobin levels, I would be exhausted even without the 60+ hour working weeks and ongoing insomina.

god i'm getting old and rickety

Cripes, captain, that's all you need From what you've said before I know that you work bloody hard, zipping all over the place, then trying to make the most of your time off with your LO, then all this ttc on top of that - it is no wonder you are run down. If you're not getting much sleep on top, well that is not good Sending you loads of and hope you manage to get some rest soon xxx



 
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hi I'm 38 well at least for the next 2 days. My DD is 4 and ive been trying for no2 ever since. Find it hard as only took 2 months to get pregnant then.
Hi Dylis! Sorry to hear that you are still waiting for your bubba, 4 years is a long time It's just so hard to accept there might be a problem when the first time was so easy - we only took 3 months to conceive our son, and I had absolutely no problems with my pregnancy and no inkling that I would ever be 'one of those women'. You sort of feel you're home and dry, don't you.

Welcome, and thanks for posting. It's great to feel there are others in this boat and hope we will all be lucky this year x



 
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How is everyone? I'm thinking of going to see my GP just to see if they can do any tests in advance of the miscarriage clinic. Not sure if it's a waste of time though. I am always wary of sounding too knowledgeable as they are understandably cynical of people self-diagnosing etc, but on the other hand if you are not knowledgeable they will just fob you off. I had all this with my son's allergies; they were so reluctant to test him at all and kept just churning out the same old phrases. I am starting to wonder if these GPs in my surgery are all just rubbish - whichever one you see, you have to really persuade them to take you seriously. Is this all doctors or just my ones??



 
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hi I'm 38 well at least for the next 2 days. My DD is 4 and ive been trying for no2 ever since. Find it hard as only took 2 months to get pregnant then.
Hey Dylis, a belated welcome to the thread from me! Must be really tough to go from 2 months with DD to the long haul with #2. I took 7 months with DS so it is I suppose less of a shock to find myself on cycle #17 now with no sniff of a BFP, although still really tough going.

My consultant cancelled his clinic this week so I haven't had the results of my AMH bloods and DH's SA yet. We are going on Wednesday now. Then get my iron/vitb12 deficiency tests back on Thursday night, then having my echocardiogram on 15th feb. fun fun fun. Although I'm looking forward to Wednesday as at least it should be a step forward in the process one way or another...

X hope everyone else is ok and having a nice weekend x



 
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Not been on here for a while. Sorry some of you are struggling, the pressure is intense when you get to our age isn't it?
I am currently 4 dpo (confirmed o on FF by) and feeling a few niggles low down but not daring to hope at this stage. Also tired but with a 2 year old, who wouldn't be? Hugs to you all



 
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How is everyone? I'm thinking of going to see my GP just to see if they can do any tests in advance of the miscarriage clinic. Not sure if it's a waste of time though. I am always wary of sounding too knowledgeable as they are understandably cynical of people self-diagnosing etc, but on the other hand if you are not knowledgeable they will just fob you off. I had all this with my son's allergies; they were so reluctant to test him at all and kept just churning out the same old phrases. I am starting to wonder if these GPs in my surgery are all just rubbish - whichever one you see, you have to really persuade them to take you seriously. Is this all doctors or just my ones??
My doctors are very efficient, polite, good at bedside manner and respectful of busy lifestyles in trying to schedule appointments. They were very much as you describe when DS had his lactose intolerance though - fobbed me off as a new mum overreacting 4 times before they finally had to listen to him screaming his head off for 90 minutes when they were running late for his 16 week jabs. It was only then that they believed me she I said he cried hard for hours and hours every day and nothing would console him, not even feeding. They didnt jab him, gave me an on the spot drs appointment, and immediately diagnosed him with lactose intolerance.

On the sub fertility issue, they have been helpful in that they did initial bloods after 6 months for FSH and were happy to refer me private, but I doubt they would have done anything else by now except maybe given me clomid had I stuck just with Nhs. Ovulating isn't my problem though, think it is quality not quantity. X



 
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Captainj1 sounds like the the next 2 weeks should give you some answers .

Mrs phez I'm also 4dpo and its so hard to ignore niggles, my body seems to try different niggles and symptons each month to keep me on edge



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