Went for my two week follow up yesterday-I can't even believe it's been two weeks...anyway, turns out the baby had Trisomy 16 (an extra copy of chromosome 16). Trisomy 16 is actually the most common abnormality in pregnancy loss. it happens completely randomly. My boss was so "happy" this was the case. The absolute "best case scenario of a shitty scenario". Has absolutely zero implications for us and future pregnancies. Completely unavoidable, completely no one at fault and an extremely low chance that it would ever happen again.
Rachel, I'm so sorry to hear about your wrist issues! Prayers and FX'd that it feels better soon!
Cassidy, I'm so glad to hear your DH is doing better, yay! Prayers and FX'd that he continues to mend swiftly!
AFM: I've been feeling overwhelmed and struggled with depression the last couple of days, although I feel much better today after scheduling my consult with the FS for Friday May 3rd. They are award winning specialists in endo and fertility, have great success rates without turning people away, and people travel from across the state to see them, so I have confidence in them to do as good for me as possible and I feel like I'll be in good hands. They even have information videos on youtube and they seem friendly and confident and the staff seems real nice (the people I've talked to on the phone have been super nice and got back with me right away). They also have a money back IVF program (if I need that and hopefully I should qualify).
I've also got DH's SA scheduled for Mon May 6th, and we plan to go out to eat at the restaurant of his choice to salve the embarrassment.
Then on Fri May 10th I have a regular checkup with my gyno (I thought my last appointment was supposed to be a regular checkup and fertility checkup but they didn't do the pap smear and whatnot). My gyno ordered the SA but wasn't filling me with confidence wrt handling the fertility stuff (the lab he referred me to for the SA doesn't do that kind of stuff any more), so I went ahead and scheduled the FS appointment (my insurance is "open access" for seeing a FS so I didn't need him to refer me). Plus, since I'd need to go to the FS for the lab work, anyway, I might as well just see them and save some steps and do it all with them, and I'd rather have the FS take care of the fertility stuff to begin with.
I don't know what my chances are going to be, right now. What I most hope for is that I can carry a PG, whether my own or donor embryo. Of course, I also hope my eggs and DH's sperm are usable. And it would definitely be nice if all we needed was meds. FX'd
Cassidy-They are so cute! Super big props to you for doing that! I would love to do something like that but I don't think DW would go for it lol
Amanda-I believe that when it's hard it feels like the tip of your nose, when it's soft it feels more like your lips. I can't reach mine, so I can't really tell you for sure, that's just what I've read. I look at mine with a speculum, so I just check to see if mine is open or not. They say you should check it for a full month to really see how it changes. I only check mine from cd10 until I O now, but I checked it everyday for the first few months to really see what the pattern was.
Nikki-How is your friend doing, the one who made the suicide call?
AFM-Went for my cd21 bloodwork yesterday, so I should know about my progesterone levels sometime next week.
I got my meal plan for next week. I eat the same thing everyday (boiled egg, 1/2c of plain oatmeal, turkey sandwich, yogurt, fish, brown rice, asparagus, protein shake, no condiments). I'm ok with that though, it's just going to be hard reducing calories that much! I talked to her about why those certain foods were recommended not to eat. Basically everything has to do with my mineral ratios. My body is not using things like it should. So, certain foods are avoided bc I have too much of that mineral or things with fat are avoided right now bc my body is breaking that down correctly either. So, she's basically going to help level my minerals back out. After that I can start adding those foods back in. She gave me 3 basic rules:
1. Eat every 2 hours and within an hour of going to bed (slow metabolizers burn up to 400 calories at night if they eat protein before bed).
2. Eat protein at every meal.
3. Drink 96-108 oz everyday of non-caloric beverages.
I'm going to be eating and drinking much more often than I'm used to lol I'm excited to get started though
Cassidy- I literally went SQUEE! when I saw the pics of the kittens I always melt when it comes to kittens. You saving them and finding them a good home is amazing. My family use to foster animals when I was younger. We always had a house full of puppies and/or kittens. All of my animals have been rescues. I have so much respect for you
I am the same way with my CP. I can never tell the firmess. It always kind of feels the same to me. I guess I feel some softness when O is coming but I don't put it because I am really not sure.
ST- I am sorry you have been feeling depressed The specialists sound really promosing! Keep us posted on what they say and the results on your DH's SA.
Julie- Wow, that's all really interesting. I was always told don't eat 3 hours before bed. When you say eat protein before bed, do you mean like a hard boiled egg or a greek yogurt? I always drink 100oz of water a day. I got into the habit from when I lost all that weight a few years back. Get ready to go to the bathroom ever 1/2 hour
Good luck on your weight loss! It is definitely a hard thing but so worth it. I need to start working on my diet the most. I have been having a massive sweet tooth lately. It also doesn't help that I have my family members requesting baked good since they know I love to bake. I HAVE to try what I bake to make sure it's good lol.
I created my own weight loss motivation wall. I wrote out the numbers 215-150 so I can X out every pound I lose. Put up saying likes 'The few minutes of happiness junk food brings doesn't compare to the lifetime of joy being healthy and thin will bring' and 'If my husband can fight through cancer, I can fight through 30mins of exercise'. I wanted to post pictures of clothes I really want but cant fit but I ran out of color ink.
AFM- nothing new, just waiting to start testing on opks. My temp went down a little and are looking pretty uniform so far. I am super excited by this. My temps are looking like an O month . Keeping my fingers crossed that they stay like this.
Nichole - that sounds like a very inspirational wall! Good job! I hope you O this month!! Fx for you!
STG - I hope you get some answers when you go to the FS. I went in March during my 8th cycle. So far they have been great and I've gotten mostly good answers. I'm still waiting for them to tell me about my blood work even though I know the results...Thats good that you are going to award DH with dinner out....maybe I should try that.
Cassidy - OMG I love cats!!! Those kittens are soooooo cute! I almost wanted to pet my computer screen.
Julie - mad props to you for trying out the diet thing. Ahhhh I love food too much. But I have been packing on the pounds myself lately. I got off work early so I am headed to the gym in a bit.
Kara - Yay for being cleared for BD! Also glad that you got back good "bad" results. Where are you at in your cycle?
AFM, my wrist is feeling so much better! I took 2 doses yesterday while I was at work, nothing last night and nothing today. I figured that I'm only going to take it if it gets bad again since it can cause fertility issues. I should O tomorrow, but I'm not OPKing or temping so who knows. I do have ewcm though so I know it is coming. As far as checking the CP, I used to do it a lot but I've given up on a lot the last few cycles. I can tell the difference in the position and whether it's firm or soft, but usually can't figure out the open vs closed. To me, if I can push it and it moves or feels squishy, then it's soft. Anything else is firm. I rely more on my CM now.
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