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Old Oct 1st, 2013, 14:57 PM   321
CantHrdlyWait
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awwww!! it's so sweet that your hubby is so excited though!! I'm having a really hard time figuring DH out. I know he wants kids, and obviously he's ready as we are BD with no protection, but we don't really talk about that ACT of TTC. Like, I haven't said "wonder if i'm pregnant" or "i'm worried I might be pregnant at my marathon".. It's kind of sad to me. I don't know why I feel like I can't say anything. He just had those couple freak outs when we were WTT and i'm afraid if we talk about it too much, he'll freak out again. Maybe he doesn't bring it up because I dont? I dont' know.

When my first period comes (or doesn't Fx!!!) i'll see how he acts..



 
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Old Oct 1st, 2013, 15:10 PM   322
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When my first period comes (or doesn't Fx!!!) i'll see how he acts..
THIS was how I found out he was ready. Last summer we had an oops (our first real oops in ten years of dating - pretty good actually! lol). And then my period was 8 days late! When AF finally arrived I was sad, but was hiding it from him since I didn't think he would be sad - I thought he'd be over joyed. The 8 days we waited for AF to arrive he was up/down/sideways about me being pregnant. One second it was like, "wow, you're so pregnant!! " then it was, "oh shit, you're really pregnant, aren't you!?".

But once AF actually arrived I mumbled that I was a little sad since I had really psyched myself out that I actually was pregnant.....and he sat down and looked at me and with the saddest eyes asked me if I was sure I wasn't pregnant. I told him I'm positive and he stood up, walked around a bit, hugged me and said he was actually sad and that scared him. It was the "wrong" time for us to get pregnant, but we would have been happy if I was.

Fast forward to our honeymoon/after honeymoon - when AF arrived I was crushed! I knew it was such a smallllll possibility that I could get pregnant, but still I held out hope. He was pretty disappointed too. But see, the whole time during the TWW, he acts funny. Anxious, excited, nervous, upset/pissed...everything. But both times AF came he's sad.

Didn't mean to make this a novel - but I think some men are so torn because they're just scared. And I know better than to go around talking about babies 24/7 or bugging him to BD because timing is right. He's a smart cookie, he knows what's up. lol



 
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Old Oct 1st, 2013, 15:28 PM   323
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Awe.. you are so right!! This is why I don't say anything. I haven't said the word pregnant, baby, or anything TTC related since way before the wedding. LOL



 
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Men are such scaredy-cats! Its not like the baby comes out of their tiny area!



 
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Old Oct 1st, 2013, 15:42 PM   325
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LOL!!! RIGHT!!!! He's admitted several times that he can't wait for kids, but he's scared of the change, and the responsibility, and the cost. I worry about that too, but i'm 27 years old. I'm not getting younger. Men don't have that URGE for babies like we do. I know he'll be happy as can be when he finds out i'm PG, but until then, I think he'll always be a little nervous at the thought of it all.



 
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Old Oct 1st, 2013, 18:13 PM   326
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Well I'm out for this cycle so on to my third and hopefully lucky one, think we'll try smep and see how that goes



 
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Old Oct 1st, 2013, 18:13 PM   327
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Aww, sorry Buttercup!!

Lot's of for the next cycle!!



 
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Old Oct 1st, 2013, 19:11 PM   328
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Sorry Butterup!!



 
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Old Oct 1st, 2013, 22:54 PM   329
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buttercup - sorry about af but crossing my fingers for you for next cycle.

mara and canthrdlywait - you too are really getting into baby making mood. i am really excited for your bfp this cycle.

canthrdlywait - when hubby and i tried for baby 1 i even put in my phone a reminder not to talk about babies. haha i just felt it was too much for him.

i don't remember all that you two wrote...but in regards to making it a fun surprise etc when telling your hubbies, i can share my experience with our dd. i really didn't say a whole lot prior to testing day but when it was time to test i always asked oh to come in the bathroom so that we could take a look at the result together. i must say since the baby is yours and your hubby's it makes sees that they find out first before anyone else. ) but i guess it is up to everyone to do what works for them best.

nothing new to report. waitinf for ovulation day. untile then we are bedding as much as we can.



 
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Old Oct 2nd, 2013, 03:46 AM   330
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Hi ladies,

Tested this morning and got two faint lines, tested this evening and got a darker one. All on different brands. I'm pretty sure this is the start of my bfp - best birthday present ever!

http://www.countdowntopregnancy.com/...lleryid=181673



 
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