and sorry for all of the errors lol im using my phone and it formatted it really wierd so i wasnt able to really go back and fix all of the errors so hopefully these posts make since lol. Babydust

The incision site really didnt look bad at all post-op. I mean it was really red and sore and a little swollen for like a week or so afterwards, maybe a little longer, but once the swelling went down and the redness went away it really wasn't bad-looking at all.

I didn't have the trouble with healing that I have heard stories about from some women I have known who had other methods of closure. For example my sister-in-law had 2 c-sections and they closed her with staples and she hates her scar, she had it crack and blister on her when it was still new.

Now, 3 years later I am pretty happy with how mine healed and looks. It's gotten lighter and lighter as time goes on. It is a low scar, my panties pretty much hit right above it unless they are super low-cuts in the front. The only complaint that I have is that it definitely increased the amount of pooching of my tummy. I am probably 10-15 pounds overweight for my height according to the medical charts or standards and have always been a bit soft in the middle, but it's kind of exaggerated the dimple of my tummy a little bit. Nothing terrible, or that I wouldn't expect. I'd say glue is a great closure method. (Also, I was at a big hospital, and my incision was laser-cut so that might be better for the healing/appearance than say a scalpel cut.)


Pacificlin- I know exactly what you mean about TTC making you manic. I feel the same way.I get absolutely crazy symptom spotting or cycle analyzing sometimes. I have noticed spotting and hoped it was IB a few times.

However 6dpo really is about the time IB could be a realistic possibility, I believe. Staying hopeful it what pulls us through, so don't feel too crazy, but just try to keep it in check so you don't convince yourself before you know a bit more. I'm really hoping that it's IB. I'd say wait maybe another 4-5 days if you can before testing. That would probably be the earliest I would even start to take a negative seriously anyway. Baby Dust!

Wow I had no idea that they did that. Or laser cut . that sounds so futuristic lol. I hope you get your bfp this month best of luck ladies

I know, when I came out of anesthesia and was talking with my hubby about it later and he told me that they cut me with a laser I was really surprised. I'd never heard of such a thing. It reminded me of a sci-fi movie or something.


So I am a bit frustrated today. I was really hoping for a BFP this cycle, but I think our timing might have been just a bit off. With a 3 year old DS and DH working crazy alternating 12 hour shifts sometimes we just can't make our schedules work for us. I think we were too late to catch the egg. I would have liked to have BD'ed a few time in the days leading up to O, but we were only able to BD twice so far this cycle within my fertility window and according to Fertility Friend the first time was actually the day after my O day.

I have had pretty irregular and long cycles, and have been having late O (like around CD 22) so I was at first thinking that we were pretty early, but knowing that I have more days to consider possibilities I thought we'd start early and go every other day until I saw the temp spike or AF.

This is my first month seriously temping and keeping in a good routine with it. I also have been paying close attention to CM and other 'secondary' signs. A few of my temps might have been a little off, as there were a couple of days the time that I took my temped was an hour or two later or earlier than usual, but nothing too dramatic and most days I stayed very close to the same time.

The crosshairs on my chart showed up after I entered my temp this morning putting my O day on CD 11 (earlier than I expected, but not too suprising if I factor in some past cycles and other fertility signs this cycle) and we didn't actually BD till CD 12 and 14. We dtd today after I woke up and took my temp, but before I entered it and got the crosshairs. I noticed only one day of EWC on CD 13 (though it was pretty wet/thin on CD 12 and maybe CD 11). My cervical position felt low, softer, and sort of open on CD 12 and 13. I also had some twinges that feel familiar for O time on CD 12 and noticed a VERY slight pink tinge to my CM on CD 13, and today.

The optimism I felt for this cycle has been sucked out of me. I know that FF is not perfect and that human error with my temping could have confused my O date. I also know that BDing after the O probably isnt effective, and if the prediction is right we almost definitely are likely to have missed the egg. My non-temp signs coincide with fertility around the time, although I still have slight hope that the O date prediction is off by a day or two and that maybe there is a chance we were lucky and caught the egg somehow. I also know that this is only one cycle, and that we can do better to get in more BD before/around time of O next time, it's just a bummer.

Sorry for the looooong rant, just needed to vent a little. Good luck ladies, hope your timing is good this cycle and keeping fingers X'd to see some BFP's in the next few weeks.

P.S. Chart if anyone is interested.

My Ovulation Chart

How does the glue work? Do they put it inbetween the incision or on top of the skin? And no its ok this is why i creatd the thread is so ladies like ourselves can have a place to vent, rant, chat and show and give support and do you think that the pink cm was possible implantation bleeding? My cycles are pretty irregular. My shortest cycle was 22 and the the longest was 32 . According to my period tracker app my average cyxle day is 31. So i honestly never knoe the except day but i can tell when im about to start soon because i start cramping. I hope you caught the eggy this month!and i bd twice this cycle so hopefully ones of those times worked. Also since my periods are irregular i know that ovulation is possible whenever. I ovulate soon after my period. Babydust to you hun

I have been lurking and reading, but haven't had the gusto to post recently. I've been stressed over unreasonable hopes and concerns, but oh well. I had gotten my hopes up that this could be our month. I romanticized that if we conceived this month it would have been on our nine-year anniversary. Then I had that crazy spotting on 6dpo (NEVER have had anything like that on a previous cycle, EVER) which was accompanied by a rise in my BBT (my chart went triphasic). Then starting two days ago temps came crashing down and yesterday that AF showed up. So, I think I'm going to "celebrate" her return with some sushi and a big ol glass of wine, BECAUSE I CAN!

Last week my best friend told me she is pregnant. I honestly and truly am BEYOND excited for her and her DH. Heck, I have already bought presents for the new baby! We currently live on opposite sides of the country, unfortunately. Next month my boyfriend and I are going out-of-town on vacation. About half way through the trip we're being joined by my best friend and her DH. I'm hoping I'll be so ecstatic about traveling and visiting with my best friend that I won't be too emotional about her baby bump and my empty uterus. She knows we're TTC so I know she will be sensitive about it (she and her DH were TTC longer than my bf and I have been). But I also don't want to rain on her parade, I want her to be able to be excited around me!

We're also going to be visiting with some other old friends, most of which have had kids within the past couple years. These friends do NOT know we're TTC. In the past they have teased us with "you're next!" or "when are you guys having kids?"; those statements never bothered me when were were not TTC, but now that we are... I just really hope they keep those thoughts to themselves It amazes me that people with kids say things like that, you would think they realize TTC can be a stressful process and just because people don't have kids doesn't mean they're not trying! Maybe they're just the lucky ones who conceive easily... I'll be smack dab in the middle of my TWW during our visit... Needless to say, I was really hoping to get a BFP to make this upcoming trip a little less emotionally stressful! I'm still looking forward to it and who knows, maybe I'm over-analyzing everything...

So anywho, I'm officially out this month. Fingers crossed for October! I've also realized that at this point I will officially be in my 30's before I have my first child (I'm 29, turn 30 in April). I always thought I would have my first before I turned 30, not gonna happen. This is bothering me more than it probably should. Mainly because we want to have two kids (ideally a few years apart) and 35 is that "evil" age when everyone and everything warns of extra decreased fertility and high-risk pregnancies. See, I'm worrying about things five years in the future now... Is it too early for wine...at work?

Hope you ladies are doing well!

I'm so sorry I hope that October be your month!!! That's good that you're still happy for your friend as well.

I'm doing ok , I hope your doing well

Cycle day 14 for me keeping my fx for this month

Rainbow - I'm pretty sure the glue was sort of IN the incision, not on top of the skin. It seemed (after the swelling/redness went down) that the two sides were almost perfectly fused back together.

Fertility Friend moved my O to CD 12. I dont think the pink CM was implantation, I was thinking it was O spotting maybe, but I had sort of a GUSH of bright RED blood later on the same day i noticed the PINK CM. It went watery pink and then disappeared by the same day, but I've been having spotting on and off since O, so confusing. My temps have stayed up though, except for a SLIGHT dip, but still above the coverline.

Pacific, you seem to be staying as positive as you can for your friend, and I really admire that. I know it's hard to be excited for her, when you just want your own so badly. Since she knows your TTC and will likely be sensitive, I'm sure she wont be rubbing it in your face and will understand that even though your happy for her you might need to stay a bit aloof.
It does suck that you'l be in the TWW while traveling, I don't envy that one tiny bit. I also agree that people with children/who don't understand the feelings of TTC or don't know your struggling with it can say the worst possible thing. I generally chalk it up to ignorance rather than facetious intentions, but still, those comments can be like a punch in the gut. Hang in there.

As for getting pregnant in your 30's, although it might not be ideal for you, it's not as ominous as it might feel. My mother was 32 when my youngest brother was born, and he was a total surprise. She needed Provera to ovulate and get pregnant with me and my brother who is only 2 years younger than me, but ten years later she got a surprise baby. Also, my aunt didn't have children until her second marriage and with her daughters she was 33 and 35 and they are perfectly healthy beautiful girls (although the latter was a few weeks preemie).

I was just discussing this with my oldest childhood girl friend. She is 26 and just got married a few months ago. They do want a baby, but her husband is still in training with the military and they don't feel quite ready yet. She says she'd like to have a baby or at least get pregnant before she turns 30. I told her while that is a great goal, she shouldn't let it feel like a limitation. She had some issues with HPV and her reproductive health and is worried that it will take her a while to conceive, but I told her to try not to stress, as she'll be doing plenty of that once they are actively trying.

No matter what, feel free to lurk if that's what you feel like doing, or if you want to talk about it or vent or just chat to try and keep yourself busy I'll be around and always with an ear open.

Thanks, ladies

My mom was actually 38 when I was born! We've never talked about it specifically, but I would be extremely surprised if she had any kind of medical assistance. She has major doctor/hospital/needles/drug/etc anxiety so that would be waaaay out of character for her

Once the initial blow of AF wears off it seems to feel a lot better, for me at least. It's kinda nice to have a "break" from TTC before the waiting to O and then the TWW begins again...

Well, I just started seriously bleeding. This really blows. AF is here and packing a serious punch. So, my luteal phase was only 6/7 days this cycle. Yuck.

I know what you mean, even though I'm seriously bummed out right now I'm thinking that at least I can stop obsessing about this cycle/symptom spotting and relax a little before I start waiting for the O. I have a big paper to write for my literature class for next week, so after I spend today brooding and moping a bit I can focus on that and get it done.