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Old Feb 1st, 2014, 23:53 PM   31
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I had to drive to Delaware/Philly this morning so I'm just getting back to write my story and then I'm going to get my nails and toes done!

Me:39 Hubs: 38 Met: January 2012
TTC #1 since August 2013, Married 10/12/13

No issues as of now, but I'm going back the doc this week for my annual checkup and may have her do the HSG next cycle if this isn't our month.

Good to see everyone here!
Nice! Have fun!
I wish I could have my toes done. They do those things here, of course- but they are very expensive as you usually have to go to a spa.

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Hi Everyone!!

I am 36 (will be 37 in May) and my DH is 33. We met on OKCupid in 2010. We began TTC #1 for both of us since October 2013. I have not had any fertility testing done besides the home FSH test which came back normal. So far, every month, DH is shocked we are not pregnant. My family is super fertile with lots of twins, so I don't know what to think. But I am trying to stay hopeful because my grandmother had her last child at 44.
It's pretty amazing how many couples meet online, nowdays. My little brother met his wife that way.

Garfie- Have fun with your sis, lady!!



 
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Old Feb 2nd, 2014, 06:07 AM   32
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Ladies this is a long post - so grab a cuppa

Me - 42 hubby 34 been married almost 4 years been trying longer. Have two boys from a previous marriage aged 13 and 11 - 13 year old is autistic and challenging

Started our journey if it happens it happens - we fell pregnant was over the moon, never forgot his face when I told him - lost that baby (was in the middle of a house move) so blamed myself went through the if onlys - but I did it once right? the hospital believed I was about 6 weeks - anyone have a m/c in a caravan - not exactly easy or discreet

Fell pregnant again - this time no problems (or so it seemed) symptoms nice and strong HCG levels rising nicely - scans all showing a developing sac and then sac had stopped growing, HCG levels dropping - was diagnosed as a blighted ovum - A WHAT????? any way I had my first ever DNC whilst not pleasant it was okay - I think I knew something was amiss in the end (had joined this site by then and to be honest to much knowledge was certainly dangerous)

Before I knew it I was pregnant again - this time I never told hubby and had booked myself in to have bloods taken - they came back but HCG was very low - barely pregnant. I bled that week and once again I had lost (I did tell hubby eventually)

We had now had 3 m/c so in the UK that qualifies us for testing (woopy fckng doo!) so off we went we had basic testing done - we checked for chromosomal differences, blood clotting, and a few other tests - hubby had 2 vials of blood I think I had about 7 maybe more anyway we got our results back all clear - so I asked for a second opinion - when a supposedly FS says to hubby it's ok to smoke and also the fact I have endometerosis (no this won't effect TTC/MC) again the knowledge is power came into effect.

So we was referred to a recurrent M/C specialist and I have to say they were lovely they wanted to carry out all these tests on me CD1-3, HSG, Ultrasounds, Progesterone Tests, blood tests etc (the only downfall I don't drive - hubby had to take me) this involved taking time off work as this place was in a different county Guess what I never got back for my tests I fell pregnant again and sadly lost it - they said they couldn't do any tests on me for a least 3 cycles as my hormones would be out of whack! - at this point I had short cycles 22 days so tried to explain I would see them soon - they gave me a month which would have meant I had nearly six cycles So hubby and I sat down had a chat and decided seen as though the basic tests had come back ok - lets just see what happens - so now we are a full circle waiting and seeing

Lo and behold it was not much longer in fact the next month I became pregnant again - so this time the Dr's were on my case - a pos preg test 6 May (8DPO) had prog and hcg tested the next day - p61 H50 then tested again 13 May P52 H1079 again knowledge came into play the P was dropping - I decided I would have one more test and make my mind up - 15 May H1660 P44 so I contacted my Specialists and asked for Progesterone (what a faff) my own Dr wanted to know why I would want it - errrr doh and the specialist was away on holiday So I was sent for a very early scan on 17 May I was 4 weeks ish and we saw the sac and beginning of yolk sac () I had another scan on 24 May - sac had grown to 14mm so everything was progressing nicely. On 3 June at 6w their was a sac an embryo and a fetal heart (I got a scan picture - my first one in many many years) I also got to speak to an on call dr - explained my concerns about progesterone levels, he said I had PMA and that of course he would prescribe progesterone for me anything to keep that little one safe The specialist finally got in touch and requested I went for another scan on June 5 so they could sign me off their papers I went and saw the sac, embryo again the fetal heart and little one had grown I went for a final scan on June 19 when when the man who was doing the ultrasound said "I'm sorry F..... it doesn't look good" there was a lot of crying and swearing - it was me so I was scheduled for a DNC I asked if I could let nature take care of itself - they gave me a deadline of 26 June - 26 June I went for a DNC.

The DNC itself was okay - and I asked for some testing to be carried out on my baby - they refused - I was upset the nurse inserted the tablets (normal procedure) and said just relax we will be back for you soon - I didn't feel great but put that down to hormones.

I was wheeled down and I asked what's that box for - the baby said a nurse - I thought he wasn't going to examine it? - he changed his mind the nurse said she had some concerns over your health

Anyway I had the DNC this wasn't as smooth sailing and I had to stay in over night - I honestly felt like I had just given birth - usually in a DNC you get the smallest stretch and they clear you out. This time I was stretched to 10cm - no wonder I was sore - I had given birth

We got our results back - everything was fine - no reason for fetal demise - I could not get my head around this at all - baby had been growing, had a strong heartbeat, okay I looked like I was a lot further on and also my health was not as strong as it could have been - but surely that's pregnancy right? perhaps my age.

Out of the blue we get a phone call asking us to attend the hospital - there we were told "sorry there had been a mix up - my paper work had gone somewhere else" the rest is a bit of a blur - but what he did say was the baby was poisoning me, it wouldn't have lived, and basically mother nature worked in my favour this time

I was just beginning to move on to be told this news - that my instincts were correct - I then went through the whole grieving process again - then I went through guilt/relief etc.

My journey is still ongoing - and I live in hope that maybe this month - but you know the rules ladies sssssshhhhhh don't tell hubby



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Old Feb 2nd, 2014, 07:05 AM   33
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Thank-you for sharing, Garfie. You have had a tragic journey.
You are very, very strong.

I hope you don't mind me asking, but what did they mean when they said the baby was poisoning you? Did they mean eclampsia?



 
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Old Feb 2nd, 2014, 07:16 AM   34
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Older - To be honest he didn't elaborate and I didn't ask - just if you saw pics of me at 6 weeks I already looked further on - we think (and it's only from what I have read) that a baby that dies inside of you (if not removed can start to decompose) which he was

He also had trisomy 22 which meant he was very poorly from the beginning - worse than a baby with downs - so maybe that had something to do with it?

On my paperwork it gives the sex of the baby and also what he died of - but then to cover their ass it also says this could have been due to mother's age etc and the risks are higher etc etc (as if I didn't know this) but what I can't wrap my head around is that both me and hubby had been genetically tested and it all came back ok

I know the risks (I'm sure all of us do) but then to be told your baby was just one of those things to be then told actually it wasn't was a bit hard to grasp.

You can see my avatar has a candle holder with 5 candles in it - one of them is blue

I guess I will never know the reason - he mentioned poisoning - maybe it was because my health declined quickly I don't know

I am fighting fit now though and waiting to test



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Older - To be honest he didn't elaborate and I didn't ask - just if you saw pics of me at 6 weeks I already looked further on - we think (and it's only from what I have read) that a baby that dies inside of you (if not removed can start to decompose) which he was

He also had trisomy 22 which meant he was very poorly from the beginning - worse than a baby with downs - so maybe that had something to do with it?

On my paperwork it gives the sex of the baby and also what he died of - but then to cover their ass it also says this could have been due to mother's age etc and the risks are higher etc etc (as if I didn't know this) but what I can't wrap my head around is that both me and hubby had been genetically tested and it all came back ok

I know the risks (I'm sure all of us do) but then to be told your baby was just one of those things to be then told actually it wasn't was a bit hard to grasp.

You can see my avatar has a candle holder with 5 candles in it - one of them is blue

I guess I will never know the reason - he mentioned poisoning - maybe it was because my health declined quickly I don't know

I am fighting fit now though and waiting to test



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Thank-you for telling me. I am so sorry for your losses.
It was just confusing (all losses are, I guess), eclampsia is pretty rare so early. But it is treatable.... I wonder if early loss magnifies the effects?
I like your candle holder, it is beautiful.

Yeah, I already can't wait to test. *sigh* No rest for the crazy, I guess.



 
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Old Feb 2nd, 2014, 07:51 AM   36
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Older and Garfie - your stories are amazing... I am sorry for your losses... You both are encouraging the rest of us to just keep trying!!
Thank you for sharing your stories...



 
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Old Feb 2nd, 2014, 10:43 AM   37
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Garfie and Oldermom- Those were some tough stories to share. I am so sorry for all that you have been through as well, but like they say, 'what doesn't kill us makes us stronger' and you two are definitely superhuman!

Garfie-I love the big secret we're keeping. Be careful and don't get caught. hee hee.



 
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Garfie and Oldermom- Those were some tough stories to share. I am so sorry for all that you have been through as well, but like they say, 'what doesn't kill us makes us stronger' and you two are definitely superhuman!

Garfie-I love the big secret we're keeping. Be careful and don't get caught. hee hee.
Staying alive!! (just got a vision of a young John Travolta...)



 
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Old Feb 2nd, 2014, 11:09 AM   39
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Ah ah ah Staying ALIVE!!!!!

I Really wonder why Drs say the things they do but don't give answers ..... Like its a slip u think us Being the Moms we should know EVERYTHING!!!
I too have a lot of unanswered questions about my Loss



 
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Old Feb 2nd, 2014, 11:17 AM   40
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Ah ah ah Staying ALIVE!!!!!

I Really wonder why Drs say the things they do but don't give answers ..... Like its a slip u think us Being the Moms we should know EVERYTHING!!!
I too have a lot of unanswered questions about my Loss
Agreed.
Sometimes (not all of the time, but sometimes) doctors don't take our questions too seriously. An explanation is not too much to ask....



 
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