A little update on me... after a lot of soul searching and talking with dh, I think we won't be pursuing fertility treatments. We will probably ntnp until Nov/Dec and then I'll either get an iud or dh will get the snip. I feel really at peace with this decision and know it's what's best for us.
Jess that is wonderful that Melody took to the bottle well! DH does get a little upset when I step in but you make a wonderful point that since I am not changing the expectations it isn't really undermining, just adding a different approach.
Krissie I am glad that you have a plan, I am sure it will be nice to have a plan in place and not feel like it is so much of a roller coaster. Can I ask why you are choosing to prevent come Nov/Dec instead of just going with not trying? Just curious haha
As for me baby is doing well. They want to do another ultrasound because she was measuring about a week behind where we should be at this point. I'm really not concerned, I told them already I didn't ovulate until approximately cd26 so I am surprised they are even wanting another ultrasound since she is actually measuring about the size she should be considering the late ovulation but whatever floats their boat haha. Her kicks are getting much stronger and now I actually feel her while I am at work, usually with all the moving around and doing stuff I wasn't focused enough to feel the movements, now they are strong enough that I notice throughout all the chaos which has been fun haha. She also popped this week. Up until now I have pretty much just looked chubbier but now my stomach has seemed to round out quite a bit and I am actually looking pregnant haha. I am already getting super anxious about my maternity leave Probably because it is discussed pretty often. We have way less patients in the summer and then it really picks up again when school starts again in the fall so they definitely want me back by the time school starts which will give me about 8 weeks off. I was planning on 6-8 weeks so that actually works but yea, I'm rambling. Anyways that is life for now
Shan- great to hear from you and that baby is doing well. I saw your ticket and can't believe how fast time is flying! That's great they are working with you and that your leave will work out for you.
To be honest- I'm not sure I even want another baby at this point. The age gap is getting too large and we are pretty happy with how things are with our family of 3.
The primary reason to just prevent all around is because I can't do the maybe thing, I just need to know it's not an option. I'm trying not to make any rash decisions right now but if I don't have any urges to try soon I might move up the stopping date to April when I have my annual exam.
Hey everyone! Glad your babes are doing well, i'm with y'all when it comes to the sleeping issues. I held my guy to sleep for 8 months and then we finally crib trained him. He is currently sitting in his crib screaming, so obviously that is going great But I think he is in the 8 month sleep regression so not much I can do but let him fight it out in his crib.
Krissie i'm glad you guys have come to terms with your situation. If it's meant to happen for you I hope it does, but i'm glad you guys have a plan either way.
Shan I would suggest the parenting class or counseling, some guys have to hear it from someone else before they really decide to listen haha.
I can't believe i'm saying it- I think there is a SMALL chance I could be pregnant. If not, then apparently I am ovulating or something (haven't had a cycle since Parker was born, but we are just starting to have longer stretches of no nursing at night so it could starting). Loads of EWCM (for over 4 days straight now), very minor cramping on and off for several days, and today I am finding I need to pee more frequently, despite barely drinking any fluids. It could just be my imagination, as hubs was fixed in mid December (but it takes 3 months for everything to clear the tracks so to speak). But who knows. If it doesn't stop in a few days, i'll probably do a test just to ease my mind. No way in hell i'm gonna tell hubs though haha.
Oh Heather!! Wouldn't that be crazy!! I hope LO settles soon for you. Those early days are hard.
So... Apparently I ovulated CD 15 (Monday) out of nowhere. And of course we had no baby this weekend so we were enjoying ourselves. I am not overly excited but I am excited I ovulated so early and on my own. Who knows maybe this one will be our giving up miracle.
That's great krissie! Good to hear you're at peace with your plans. But also, sounds like you had excellent timing, i'm having my fingers crossed!
Heather, my baby girl sleeps fine at night in her cosleeper crib, but during the day, only in my arms as well.. i'll start getting her in her big crib in her room for one mid day nap next month when she's close to 4 months. I feel like her nighttime routine has settled well and she is usually fast asleep 10 minutes after i put her down. I stay next to her until she's asleep. Very rarely i have to go back in and replace her dummy. It's actually fascinating to see her watching her light mobile and then just turning her head away and slowly closing her eyes and falling asleep so peacefully as if it was the easiest thing ever. I often wonder why she can't do just that during the day as well hahaha but then i remember, she'll have to fall asleep at night forever, she won't always need so many naps though so i'm glad her nighttime sleep is good instead of the other way around.
I'm actually really scared for the 4 month sleep regression.. i hear so much about it and i don't want her nighttime sleep to change monday night was the best yet, an 8 hour stretch from 7-3, bottle and then another 5 hours and then up for the day. I would be very sad if she started waking up a lot more and not due to being hungry. She might not sleep through the whole night but i am spoilt in that she only wakes to eat and falls back asleep quickly haha
Hello ladies! How is everyone? We are doing fairly well, Melody is just over 6 weeks now and starting to get into a rhythm. (Pic attached!) I'm finally feeling like I have a little bit of a handle on things and I'm getting to know her and what different cries mean, etc. She has a pretty decent temperment now that I've figured out that she can't handle more than an hour or 90 mins awake even though she often won't show signs of sleepiness. So if I watch the clock and start her sleep/nap routine after ~75min of wake time she usually passes out quickly (<5 mins) and things have been so much easier since! Of course, with two parents who like to go to bed early (we're in bed around 9-9:30pm every night), I would end up with a kiddo whose only major fussy time ("witching hour") is late! Around 9-9:30pm, no matter what she's doing or what her mood, she starts to fuss and scream bloody murder and it lasts anywhere from 30min - 2 hours.
Thankfully DH usually takes and walks her at that point until she calms. We did find that turning on the shower stops her screaming immediately (it's like magic, shower on and her screams just stop mid scream. Instant fix as long as the shower's running). But I'm not a fan of standing all night in the bathroom
Other than that, things are good. I'm scheduled to go back to work in a month BUT I'm trying to get more time off at least a couple weeks. We've had several snow days that will be made up at the end of the year, so I'll have to work the extra days even though I wasn't paid for the days we had off for snow, so I'm asking that my leave be extended to account for that (and according to my union rep it will be).
And then I found out my mom was just diagnosed with lupus on top of her crohns. The sudden onset (as a result of her crohns meds) has left her with debilitating joint pain. She can barely walk and can't lift more than 8-10lbs .... which is a problem as she was supposed to be Melody's care taker when I returned to work in April. If they can't get her pain and swelling under control I won't have care for April (in May my sister can do it full time, but she has classes through the first week of May). I can request additional time off and as long as my job approves it then I'll keep my job, I will just have to pay my entire insurance premium myself ($1300 ish). It's a little insane, and a lot of money, but I'm considering asking them to just give me the extra month and have me return in May just so I don't have to stress out my mom.
Anyway, that's me.
Krissie - I'm sorry that you haven't been able to get your BFP, but you know what is best for you and your family and as long as you are comfortable with your decision and you know it's the right one for you and your family then that is what matters. I'm glad that you've reached a decision that you are at peace with.
Early O on your own, that's awesome! Good luck!
Shan - I can't believe your far along you are by now! I'm glad you aren't worried and all seems well with baby. Another ultrasound is nice. 6-8 weeks of Maternity seems so short! I was just thinking about that today, because some of the women in my birth group are going back to work around now (6-8 weeks) and I can't imagine going back right now. I'm just barely starting to feel "normal" again. I wish we lived in one of the countries that gave a long paid Mat Leave as a normal thing. *sigh* At least you have a great job though, that will make it easier.
Heather - Wow! That would be crazy! Definitely keep us informed! As for crib training... hearing everyone's stories, I'm beginning to think I need to make sure I don't wait too long with Melody! It's so hard to figure out where the balance is between being too young to really self-sooth and waiting too long!
I went back when ds was 6 weeks old. It was incredibly difficult. But my circumstances wouldn't allow for more time. Thankfully we had a good child care situation that helped. I'm sorry about your mom, I hope she gets her health back and can help.
Afm, thanks for the support ladies. It's so hard. I'm pretty indifferent about this cycle. Just waiting it out. Trying like crazy not to symptom spot since it literally makes me crazy.
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