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sam#3 · Jan 15th, 2010, 10:39 AM

i just had a look on that co-parent match - it fascinates me as i never knew sites like that existed?
is it expensive to do it that way? do the donors charge?
xxx

LunaBean · Jan 15th, 2010, 16:47 PM

Some of them charge, if they do, dont use them! Donation usually means free!!

day_dreamer · Jan 19th, 2010, 13:09 PM

Urgh.

Things aren't going so great here at the moment -- OH has just been told she may be being made redundant. Won't find out for definite until the end of the week, so that definitely scuppers our plans

Still, I've ordered a couple of books from Amazon, including one about being the none-biological mummy, so hopefully that'll help. After all this is over with I'm going to suggest we have a chat about the +ves and -ves of having a baby, for both of us...think out -ve might surprise each other!

LunaBean · Jan 19th, 2010, 15:17 PM

aww, I'm sorry things are goin crap for you, hope all goes well! What's the name of the book for non-bio mummies? Must get OH one!!!She's currently reading The ultimate guide to pregnancy for lesbians, Ive already read it!

LunaBean · Jan 19th, 2010, 15:27 PM

found it!

Edensmum · Jan 19th, 2010, 16:48 PM

Sam, to find my co-parent/donor I'm using
http://www.co-parents.net/indexeng.php?lang=english
and also http://www.co-parentmatch.com

I've paid on both of these (they are about £25 each so not very expensive) that gives you access to the profiles and you can send/receive as many messages as you want to.

There are a few other sits out there who more specifically deal more with donors than co-parents. You can find a few through google.

The only donors that I've seen that expect payment as those wanting travel costs. They are technically not allowed to charge for their swimmers, I think the ones that do this are the more excessive donors who claim success storys of lots and lots of babys. They may even be telling the truth, but there is an obvious reason why official sperm banks cap the number of successful pregnancys to 8. The thought of too many unknown half siblings out there is just not something I'm comfortable with.

LunaBean · Jan 20th, 2010, 16:09 PM

Hey girls, I made us a forum! Feel free to use it (or not lol), cus I think there's a few topics we wouldn't feel comfortable about talking on here! It's only new, so PM me with any suggestions for sections etc, theres loads Ive forgot!!!

Rainbow Mummies

sam#3 · Jan 21st, 2010, 10:40 AM

we have been speaking to someone on co-parents site and he sounded like the perfect donor and is only up the road but then he said he would not meet couples wishing to use AI face-to-face............ to us that seems a bit weird as surely then he could be anyone and look completely different to what he said??
We are both new to looking into this and it seems rather odd that he will donate either NI/AI but will not meet if AI, he said you give him your address and phone number and he will ring when delivering a fresh donation at the door.
Any thoughts anyone???

Nimyra · Jan 21st, 2010, 13:36 PM

I don't think I'd be comfortable using a donor who wouldn't agree to meet face to face. I guess it depends if you think you can trust him. I checked my donor's identification to match to the name on his STD test results. I don't know how you can do that without meeting face to face. Maybe I'm less trusting than others.

LunaBean · Jan 21st, 2010, 13:54 PM

I wudn't trust it either, and I def wudn't be giving out ur address and number to a stranger!!!! It does sound odd, maybe he's just covering his back? I say get his number and arrange a time when you can call him, he should be ok with that, if not then Id stay well clear!
I do know that one donor we used, we only had contact when he was bringing the 'stuff' cus he lived near us, maybe he doesn't wat you to be able to identify him in the street?

Jan 15th, 2010, 10:39 AM	#31
sam#3 Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Aug 2008 Location: Northampton Posts: 5,047	i just had a look on that co-parent match - it fascinates me as i never knew sites like that existed? is it expensive to do it that way? do the donors charge? xxx

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Jan 15th, 2010, 16:47 PM	#32
LunaBean Other BnB Addict Join Date: Jun 2009 Location: Belfast, Northern Ireland Posts: 6,352	Some of them charge, if they do, dont use them! Donation usually means free!!

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Jan 19th, 2010, 13:09 PM	#33
day_dreamer Trying to conceive (TTC) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Midlands Posts: 1,444	Urgh. Things aren't going so great here at the moment -- OH has just been told she may be being made redundant. Won't find out for definite until the end of the week, so that definitely scuppers our plans Still, I've ordered a couple of books from Amazon, including one about being the none-biological mummy, so hopefully that'll help. After all this is over with I'm going to suggest we have a chat about the +ves and -ves of having a baby, for both of us...think out -ve might surprise each other!

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Jan 19th, 2010, 15:17 PM	#34
LunaBean Other BnB Addict Join Date: Jun 2009 Location: Belfast, Northern Ireland Posts: 6,352	aww, I'm sorry things are goin crap for you, hope all goes well! What's the name of the book for non-bio mummies? Must get OH one!!!She's currently reading The ultimate guide to pregnancy for lesbians, Ive already read it!

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Jan 19th, 2010, 15:27 PM	#35
LunaBean Other BnB Addict Join Date: Jun 2009 Location: Belfast, Northern Ireland Posts: 6,352	found it!

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Jan 19th, 2010, 16:48 PM	#36
Edensmum Trying to conceive (TTC) Active BnB Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: Manchester, UK Posts: 18	Sam, to find my co-parent/donor I'm using http://www.co-parents.net/indexeng.php?lang=english and also http://www.co-parentmatch.com I've paid on both of these (they are about £25 each so not very expensive) that gives you access to the profiles and you can send/receive as many messages as you want to. There are a few other sits out there who more specifically deal more with donors than co-parents. You can find a few through google. The only donors that I've seen that expect payment as those wanting travel costs. They are technically not allowed to charge for their swimmers, I think the ones that do this are the more excessive donors who claim success storys of lots and lots of babys. They may even be telling the truth, but there is an obvious reason why official sperm banks cap the number of successful pregnancys to 8. The thought of too many unknown half siblings out there is just not something I'm comfortable with.

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Jan 20th, 2010, 16:09 PM	#37
LunaBean Other BnB Addict Join Date: Jun 2009 Location: Belfast, Northern Ireland Posts: 6,352	Hey girls, I made us a forum! Feel free to use it (or not lol), cus I think there's a few topics we wouldn't feel comfortable about talking on here! It's only new, so PM me with any suggestions for sections etc, theres loads Ive forgot!!! Rainbow Mummies

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Jan 21st, 2010, 10:40 AM	#38
sam#3 Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Aug 2008 Location: Northampton Posts: 5,047	we have been speaking to someone on co-parents site and he sounded like the perfect donor and is only up the road but then he said he would not meet couples wishing to use AI face-to-face............ to us that seems a bit weird as surely then he could be anyone and look completely different to what he said?? We are both new to looking into this and it seems rather odd that he will donate either NI/AI but will not meet if AI, he said you give him your address and phone number and he will ring when delivering a fresh donation at the door. Any thoughts anyone???

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Jan 21st, 2010, 13:36 PM	#39
Nimyra Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Maryland, USA Posts: 2,109	I don't think I'd be comfortable using a donor who wouldn't agree to meet face to face. I guess it depends if you think you can trust him. I checked my donor's identification to match to the name on his STD test results. I don't know how you can do that without meeting face to face. Maybe I'm less trusting than others.

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Jan 21st, 2010, 13:54 PM	#40
LunaBean Other BnB Addict Join Date: Jun 2009 Location: Belfast, Northern Ireland Posts: 6,352	I wudn't trust it either, and I def wudn't be giving out ur address and number to a stranger!!!! It does sound odd, maybe he's just covering his back? I say get his number and arrange a time when you can call him, he should be ok with that, if not then Id stay well clear! I do know that one donor we used, we only had contact when he was bringing the 'stuff' cus he lived near us, maybe he doesn't wat you to be able to identify him in the street?

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