Hi All,

Well, since many of us have hijacked the Considering at-home insemination with donor sperm...? thread, I thought I'd start a group for us!

If you're in a lesbian relationship, a surrogate helping a gay family, transgendered still trying to get pregnant, or just like rainbows, this is the team for you!

Feel free to grab the blinkie that Lizzie_Moon made.

*subscribes*

am not TTC yet but want to follow everyone on their journeys so I'm even better prepared next year(NEXT YEAR!!)

RainbowMum - I love your avatar, and I have to agree but in my world it's "Love is having two daddies"

Just wanted to bring some and well wishes to this new team.

Woot! I was gona start one, but was trying to see how many of us there were first, we've about 10 now!!!!

Come on BFPs!!!!!!

There are quite a few of us kicking around. I think we tend to have a different kind of experience than heterosexual couples have. I know every once and a while I wish I had another lesbian ttc to talk to.

Yeah me too, just to see if things are normal, getting freaked out by sperm etc lol. I can't really talk to my sis about it!

Alright, so first question - if you are the one going to be the biological mother of the child, this one is more for you.

How is your partner's family viewing your child? As in, will they accept this child as part of their "family"?

My in-laws have said that they won't recognize the child as part of their family at all. This many have to do with the fact that they don't recognize our relationship to start with (after 8 years of being together, 3 of them legally married).

If you were in this situation, how would you deal with it on a pregnancy level (as opposed to when the child is here, which is a whole other topic!)? Do you encourage them to discuss it? Do you show them scan pictures?

Hello -- I'm pretty new around here, been lurking since I joined last month but as soon as I found this thread I had to say hi!

I'm 26 and my girlfriend is 23. We've been together for 4 years, lived together for 3 and bought our first house 18 months ago.

I've been broody for as long as I can remember, but this past year or so it's become unbearable. My girlfriend started off not so bothered about having children, but is slowly coming around to the idea...if I stop talking about. It's all I think about and I find not talking about it really hard. I totally understand that if I talk about it too much then she feels pressured...but at the same time, talking about it keeps it real for me and reminds me that it will happen, one day.

This probably sounds silly, but just lately I want a baby so much it actually, physically hurts...there's an ache in the middle of my chest that just won't go away. It's got a so much worse lately as my friend who sits next to me at work found out she was pregnant in April, so she's just gone on maternity leave. My other friend, who sits the other side of me, his girlfriend is due in March and to top it all off, my bestest friend in the whole world has just found out she's pregnant!!! Don't get me wrong, I am sooo happy for them, but I'm also extremely jealous. So so jealous. My best friend keeps saying "oh your time will come" but sometimes I lose hope that it will.

We've agreed to start TTC before the end of 2010, but I really want to bring it forward and start at the beginning of 2010. The main reason for waiting so long, is my girlfriend and her not feeling entirely ready...but I'm hoping we can sort that out. I would love for us to have a baby by Sept/Oct next year, because then I would be on maternity leave with my best friend (she's pretty much my only friend outside work) and that would be awesome. Plus, our child would have lots of little playmates all around the same age, and that's very important to me too.

Still...it's hard to cope with on a daily basis...seeing people's bumps grow and only feeling emptiness inside

I get really annoyed at times because for hetero couples it very often 'just happens' and even if they're not ready, they get used to the idea and it's all fine. It's never going to 'just happen' for us -- and what if she's never ready??

Sorry for rambling...wish me luck trying to get her to bring out TTC date forward...how on earth do I do that without pressuring??

WOW...this is basically my life right now!

I'm so, so ready...but my gf isn't.
We agreed to wait a bit to be in a better place financially and also we haven't been together *that* long yet

I work with children and have pregnant people around me all the time...my time will come too

Anyway...sorry for my hijack - welcome to the team *ha*

Hello
Not TTC but definitely a rainbow mummy