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Old Feb 5th, 2018, 14:38 PM   11
LeeMcMee
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omg I'd be pissed!! I got mad when my sis in law rushed to have a baby before us. They were dating for less time than us and rushed to get married before us and then have a baby before us. We are finally TTC now, but I'm not telling her out of fear that she will rush and get prego with baby #2 lol and I can't believe the comments your friend is saying to you!! Props to you for having patience. I'd be a total bitch.



 
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Old Feb 5th, 2018, 14:44 PM   12
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I actually agree. She could be a toxic, horrible person. And if that is the case, I would also advice the OP to move on. No one needs insensitive, unsupportive "friends". It's just that it's hard to tell with these things from just one post. I figure the OP knows their history so knows if it is worth trying to talk to her or not. It sounds like they are both going through difficult times right now, so it's possible that both have said things/taken things wrong. And if that's the case, then a good talk could help. On the other hand...

to the op: Does the "friend" have a history of this kind of behavior toward you?

She really does. She found out the week of my wedding that she was pregnant and I swear she made my whole wedding about her pregnancy. Don't get me wrong either, I am/was very happy for her, but I did tell her to give me a couple weeks to process the news and get over my jealousy before we could talk about it ALL the time. I know when I get pregnant, I'll want to talk about it all the time too! haha! But she announced on the night of my rehearsal dinner without saying anything to me first. Like stood in the front of the arch that I was to be married under the next day, said "Can I have everyone's attention?" And proceeded to literally announce her pregnancy to all my guests. I was only a little annoyed by this because then we were trying to rehearse and everyone just wanted to hug her and congratulate her while we had a time limit on our dinner reservation.
Then she asked if she could wear tennis shoes under her dress, and I told her no. She proceeded to ask at least 20 more times, and she kept using her pregnancy as an excuse, even though I wasn't saying she had to wear heels. I said she could wear flats or a nice pair of sandals or something. Then she showed up with converse. The morning of the wedding I told everyone they needed updos as I was doing mine half-down and wanted all the bridesmaids to be different. They all said okay. I had made appointments for all of us to get our hair done at the same salon at the same time. She said she wanted to go somewhere else, which was fine. She came back with the exact same hairstyle as me.
She also said during her speech at dinner "Wow you're married now and I'm the first one to have a baby. Isn't that crazy?"

All of this happening at the same time plus the comments she makes toward me just is so overwhelming. Its an emotional time so I know these may just be little things and I'm just really sensitive and annoyed, but it just makes me feel really jealous/hurt/angry/annoyed.. I dont even know the word to use! And I am not mad BECAUSE she's pregnant, only the way she's been acting about it. And its a combination of everything as well.

Thank you all for your responses!

WOOOOOOOOOOOOOW she is insane!!!! That's such a horrible thing to do to you at your rehearsal, regardless of whether or not you are jealous. That's so messed up. I think it's time for a new friend!



 
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