Sad day today, we lost Dexter Rabbit. No idea why, as he was totally himself last night when I fed them but I guess these things happen. The hardest part was trying to explain to Thomas, in some ways he was quite matter of fact and said lets get another bunny and the other I don't think he really understands he's gone forever.
Hey ladies, glad to see everyone is doing well. Yay for Claire being on Facebook finally!
My NY Eve was terrible. DH had too much to drink and then if he gets mad about something he just goes off his rocker... ended up leaving the house and walking to my mom's and staying the night there. Luckily Jackson was already staying overnight at the babysitter's house but I cried all night because I was so sad and then I missed my boy so much and wanted to snuggle him. Things have gotten better since then but things just aren't the same since we had the baby and there just isn't any romance in our house, I'm tired, I don't really even want my husband to touch me anymore.
Please tell me some of you mothers that have had kids for a while have gone through this and that it does get better
Another question- anyone shower with their babies? I swear there just isn't enough hours in the day, Jackson is too big for his baby bathtub anymore so I've been giving him baths in the sink, but he doesn't mind getting sprayed with water so I was going to sit him in the tub while the shower is going and kill two birds with one stone. Our bathtub has high walls around the bottom so I can't just put him in there and lean over and bathe him because its too high to lean over comfortably so I have to figure out something for him.
Hi kendra, sorry you're having problems with DH After what happened with my BFF splitting up with her DH & Claire & her DH it really worries me how parenthood affects people. I don't want things to change with my DH I hope you two can sort it out, but your dh really needs to kerb that temper! And perhaps cut down the drinking x
Yeah, the drinking thing has been going on for a while, and he really hasn't been drinking a lot, so it was frustrating, cause we went out with the intent to drink more than we usually do and that's why we left Jax with a sitter, but now I guess he realizes that he can't drink like that, maybe ever. He needs to me on medication, in my personal opinion, he's got some depression issues. He goes through the veteran's medical here, and they contact him every six months for an appointment, so he should be getting another appointment soon, and I hope they can help him.
Yeah babies definitely change things. Our lives couldn't be more different. Going from going out all the time, to oh never wanting to now and me just every so often! There's days where I think omg my life is so boring (not sure if oh thinks that ever) maybe not as he works We do more or less the same thing every night, sex is much less. Had a surprising bd this morning though in fact, with Thomas shouting Mummy during it! (from his room I must add, not at the end of the bed or anything!)
I do get fed up with me having to make all the effort for us to anything, book a meal or night out etc.. and he doesn't help me much with boys or house.
HOWEVER that aside I still love him and love our little family and i'll put up with the downsides as deep down the man I fell in love with is still there. We're both trying to get fit as well now, so that has given us something shared to focus on and I think brought us closer again. I did feel we were drifting a bit for a while.
I think you just need to decide whether the ups are more often than the downs. Maybe take up a hobby or something to have something fun away from Jaxson to do?. Also whether he's willing to try and change and make sure he doesn't go drinking that amount again and address the depression issues?.
Rach so sorry about Dexter, so so sad losing a pet, my heart goes out to you and the boys
Kendra, Sorry to hear that you and DH arent the best at the minute, yes things certainly change when you have children! I thought my DH was my soulmate until i got pregnant then he just went off his rocker and decided too he wanted too be a single man again and things have got no better for us and we seperated....i wish i could tell you that things do get better but sadly for me they havent, but dont lose hope as ive heard lots of stories of relationships going through a lot of stress and strain in the first year then things just work themselves out, big hugs too you hun
Well XDH has been over today, he was suppose too be having Poppy tonight but due to the snowfall we are due too have i dont want too leave her with him incase i cant get back into our village tomorrow, id be past myself with worry so hes buggerd off back too his mates. We've had a good chat and he said he dosent want too think this is the end of us, or call divorce or put our house on the market just yet so we've decided we will continue seperated as we are and will re-evaluate in June (when our mortgage is up for renewal) too see if we will give things another go or not, seems so bloody far away but hey were almost into Feb already! So ive agreed as id only be wanting a divorce for a quick end to all this iykwim rather than just taking babysteps too see if we can work things out. Uggghhhh so fucking confused again We cant live together but cant live without each other, life is such a bitch at times isnt it
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