Soon to be 34 and feeling pressured, anyone else?!?! - Page 4

sunshine1217 · Jul 22nd, 2011, 13:00 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by DHime

I didn't get scared till my gyno said, "you know you don't have alot of time left... Don't you?"
I never even considered the possibility of time running out.

That's rude of your gyno to say! She should just do her job of helping you conceive.

I am totally joining you guys in this because I am also turning 34 in september. It's scary and I feel so alone with all my friends either my age with babies or a lot younger.

I do want to say though that it could be worse...imagine if we haven't found our OH by now and are still searching for that.

just a thought to lift us all up...

MrsBea23 · Jul 22nd, 2011, 16:40 PM

Evening Ladies,

I have just found this thread and would love to join you, haven't managed to read all the posts yet but I will get there.

I am 34 in December and I can feel my time slipping by quickly, I went off the pill in November (after 17 years) and didn't get a cycle until about 4 months ago. I am cd9 today so hopefully will O next week.

Anyway I just wanted to introduce myself I will go back and read all of the posts now, looking forward to getting to know you all.

Cheers

christine7611 · Jul 22nd, 2011, 18:48 PM

Sunshine1217, you make an excellent point about the fact that at least we have all met our significant others. I have two good friends, one almost 35 and the other just turned 34, and neither is even dating anyone right now. They both work with kids and very much want children. I would probably be having panic attacks if I were in their shoes

/

And I have to remind myself to think back to when I was in my mid and late 20's and EVERYONE I knew, except me, was getting married and some were starting to have kids, and I kept hoping and praying that I would find the right guy, all the while fearing that it would never happen for me. It took me until I was 29 to meet him, but he was TOTALLY worth the wait. Every.Single.Second of the wait. He's amazing. So I need to believe that it will be the same way with baby, that just because I don't have that now doesn't mean it won't ever happen, and that he or she will be totally worth every single second of the wait.

((HUGS)) to all of you during our waits!!!

DHime · Jul 22nd, 2011, 21:18 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by MrsBea23

Evening Ladies,

I have just found this thread and would love to join you, haven't managed to read all the posts yet but I will get there.

I am 34 in December and I can feel my time slipping by quickly, I went off the pill in November (after 17 years) and didn't get a cycle until about 4 months ago. I am cd9 today so hopefully will O next week.

Anyway I just wanted to introduce myself I will go back and read all of the posts now, looking forward to getting to know you all.

Cheers

Great to meet you! I know what you mean about it slipping. I am just trying to be patient now. I was on BC pills 15 or so years. Got ovarian cysts rupuring w/in a month of stopping. Doc said that it was because my ovaries hadn't ovulated in so long that they went into overdrive. Didn't know they could do that. how did coming off bc pills work for you?

sunshine1217 · Jul 22nd, 2011, 21:59 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by christine7611

Sunshine1217, you make an excellent point about the fact that at least we have all met our significant others. I have two good friends, one almost 35 and the other just turned 34, and neither is even dating anyone right now. They both work with kids and very much want children. I would probably be having panic attacks if I were in their shoes

/

And I have to remind myself to think back to when I was in my mid and late 20's and EVERYONE I knew, except me, was getting married and some were starting to have kids, and I kept hoping and praying that I would find the right guy, all the while fearing that it would never happen for me. It took me until I was 29 to meet him, but he was TOTALLY worth the wait. Every.Single.Second of the wait. He's amazing. So I need to believe that it will be the same way with baby, that just because I don't have that now doesn't mean it won't ever happen, and that he or she will be totally worth every single second of the wait.

((HUGS)) to all of you during our waits!!!

I was in a relationship all through my 20s but none that were right, some were just awful but being the serial monogamist I am, I was always in one. Then i started dating my OH (whom I've know for a long long time actually) and realized that no wonder I didn't want to marry of the previous ones! I am grateful everyday that I am with DH and there's never been a dull moment...sometimes sad moments because of our TTC journey but he's always given me a lot of support.

To wisdom in our 30s ladies!

aleja · Jul 22nd, 2011, 22:21 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by karine

inpghttc.. i'm the 27th

at the beginning of this year i told myself that i had to be pregnant by my birthday.. now i'm just months away.. don't know where the time has gone!

aleja.. on one hand i'm ecstatic for anyone who is successful, then on the other hand, when i hear the news it's like a knife to my heart

my cousin recently got married and announced just last week that she is 2 months along. SO happy for her but everyone in my family is on my case now because DH and i have been married 2 years +. my mum has even suggested i take some herbal remedies, lol.. and once even attempted to give me tips on babymaking which was mortifying because we never talked about those things before

think i ovulated on wednesday but we didn't BD because DH was away

did manage to on tuesday tho so we'll see, but i'm not getting the feeling that this is my month.

and i feel like i'm going crazy because the week i ovulate til AF comes my body gets so weird

right now i'm getting a pinching feeling in the ovary area and my mouth keeps springing water.. it's just maddening!

anyhoo, as PositiveUs said, i'm going to stay positive because it's got to happen sooner or later, right? will just ignore that ticking clock in my head and really give it all i've got.

GL and

to everyone!

he he he..my mum also gave me a 'talk' recently and suggested that i go see a doctor as she was a bit concerned that nothing is happening in the ttc department...and guess what i am already on the herb remedies !!!

not sure if it will do anything but i guess it makes me feel that i am doing all i can. like you it seems that EVERYONE in mine and DH's family are reproducing like rabbits..we are starting to be the odd couple out :wacko

aleja · Jul 22nd, 2011, 22:23 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by MrsBea23

Evening Ladies,

I have just found this thread and would love to join you, haven't managed to read all the posts yet but I will get there.

I am 34 in December and I can feel my time slipping by quickly, I went off the pill in November (after 17 years) and didn't get a cycle until about 4 months ago. I am cd9 today so hopefully will O next week.

Anyway I just wanted to introduce myself I will go back and read all of the posts now, looking forward to getting to know you all.

Cheers

welcome and best wishes

aleja · Jul 22nd, 2011, 22:25 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by ReadynWaiting

Hi Everyone!
I hope you don't mind if I join? I just signed up to BnB today after a week of (obsessively) reading different forums and this one is exactly what I feel. I have a 7 year old son from a previous relationship that "just happened" with no stress, no symptom checking and no expectations. I was actually 13 weeks before I realized and POAS. And now I'm 33, documenting every twinge, pain, vein, CM, CP...it's making me CRAAAAZY! I m/c in April (unplanned) at 6wks which devastated me because every month that goes by and no pg happens I feel like I'm running out of time.
I'm currently 5dpo and the clock seems to have stopped moving. lol I need to locate my sanity!

hello there welcome onboard and hope you have a positive month

Ambree · Jul 23rd, 2011, 06:38 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by sunshine1217

Quote:

Originally Posted by DHime

I didn't get scared till my gyno said, "you know you don't have alot of time left... Don't you?"
I never even considered the possibility of time running out.

That's rude of your gyno to say! She should just do her job of helping you conceive.

I am totally joining you guys in this because I am also turning 34 in September. It's scary and I feel so alone with all my friends either my age with babies or a lot younger.

I do want to say though that it could be worse...imagine if we haven't found our OH by now and are still searching for that.

just a thought to lift us all up...

I'm going to put the man side of things to the side.
Only because from the time I was 20 until 32 I was with an 'OH', who as it turns out also had lots of other 'OH's', including my best friend.
I have since met a lovely man, but I am wary about conditioning my life happiness on having an OH.
Sometimes in reflection, I see by comparison what it means for two people to care about each other; what is normal behaviour and how much I missed out on with the previous OH. But at the same time I am also responsible for allowing it to go on for as long as it did and not making better choices.
My new OH is a good man and has showed me what normal people do when they care about each other and what a relationship is. Actually it is his care and family values that helped me see motherhood as possible and integral

Ambree · Jul 23rd, 2011, 06:51 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by DHime

Great to meet you! I know what you mean about it slipping. I am just trying to be patient now. I was on BC pills 15 or so years. Got ovarian cysts rupuring w/in a month of stopping. Doc said that it was because my ovaries hadn't ovulated in so long that they went into overdrive. Didn't know they could do that. how did coming off bc pills work for you?

I went off bc when I broke up with my OH so I wasn't really paying attention to my cycles for a few months before and after.
In retrospect I think going off bc made my cycles a bit wayward: where it used to be every 27 or 28 days, it went all over the place from 19 - 42.
My cycles have settled back to what I assume is normal for me at 33, with my cycles on avergage being 25 or 26 days with the occasional 35. (The sporadic longer cycles always follow an international long haul flight).

Jul 22nd, 2011, 16:40 PM	#32
MrsBea23 Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Feb 2011 Location: Scotland Posts: 754	Evening Ladies, I have just found this thread and would love to join you, haven't managed to read all the posts yet but I will get there. I am 34 in December and I can feel my time slipping by quickly, I went off the pill in November (after 17 years) and didn't get a cycle until about 4 months ago. I am cd9 today so hopefully will O next week. Anyway I just wanted to introduce myself I will go back and read all of the posts now, looking forward to getting to know you all. Cheers

Status: Offline

Jul 22nd, 2011, 18:48 PM	#33
christine7611 Trying to conceive (TTC) Active BnB Member Join Date: Jul 2011 Location: Ohio Posts: 37	Sunshine1217, you make an excellent point about the fact that at least we have all met our significant others. I have two good friends, one almost 35 and the other just turned 34, and neither is even dating anyone right now. They both work with kids and very much want children. I would probably be having panic attacks if I were in their shoes / And I have to remind myself to think back to when I was in my mid and late 20's and EVERYONE I knew, except me, was getting married and some were starting to have kids, and I kept hoping and praying that I would find the right guy, all the while fearing that it would never happen for me. It took me until I was 29 to meet him, but he was TOTALLY worth the wait. Every.Single.Second of the wait. He's amazing. So I need to believe that it will be the same way with baby, that just because I don't have that now doesn't mean it won't ever happen, and that he or she will be totally worth every single second of the wait. ((HUGS)) to all of you during our waits!!!

Status: Offline

User Name		Remember Me?
Password