Leah that's all just horrible. I'm so sorry you're both going through this.
I guess that's the methotrexate shot then? I was following a girl on youtube who had an ectopic pregnancy. It was all very sad and emotional and she had the shot to help the body..... reset and start again.
She had to wait a few months too. I think I remember her saying the methotrexate leaches minerals and stuff from your body so it's best to wait and to keep taking your prenatal supplements to build up your stores of folic acid among other things so when you do get pregnant again you have all the right vitamins and minerals in the right balance to get that pregnancy off to a healthy start.
If it gives you any comfort she went on to conceive a perfectly healthy baby boy and they're both doing fabulously now. He's about 6 months old! There is light at the end of the tunnel, it's just you've only just gone in the entrance, there's a bit of road to travel before that pin prick of light gets bigger and closer

Lola, we didn't have a pregnancy test before the HSG. DW had a regular cycle. We had no indication that she might be pregnant.

Coco, thanks for your kind words. As usual you are a great source of support and info. I appreciate you taking time to cheer us on.

omg! I am so very sorry! I had had a normal cycle too and the nurse told me it was "part of the procedure and everyone gets one" if you are TTC they should have had you take one. On the bright side, you know there isnt anything wrong, fertility wise!

I'm not usually one to pull this card but I think that because we are a same-sex couple that is TTC they may have just assumed we would know because you aren't the first person that has asked that question.

did the HSG cause the ectopic?

Our LO was all snuggled down and firmly implanted before the HSG. We were 5 weeks for the HSG so I'm sure there wasn't much the HSG could do. It did cause some spotting for the few days after but I don't know if that was from them prying into DWs tightly closed cervix or the fact that they really had to push the dye to get it to flow on one side (neither DW nor I can reacall which side that was. We assume it is probably the tube with the pregnancy though) Shortly after the HSG DW started complaining of some cramping and discomfort. We really just thought her body didn't like the dye or something. Wednesday was just supposed to be a diagnostic u/s for unexplained infertility. In fact, we had started our inseminations for this month on the Sunday before. It was like being hit by a truck. There was only about 3 seconds of joy at her being unexpectedly pregnant followed by a lot of medical info about methotrexate. The whole thing was a fiaso. They didn't have any methotrexate in the Dr's office so we had to take the script get it filled and go back to the office for the injections. Then the pharmacy misread the script and didn't give us enough so we had to do it all over again. My poor DW. SHe has been so strong but my heart is still broken for both of us.

Leah, I just don't have words. I am so sorry you and DW are going through this. What a shock

Thank you all for your kind words. DW and I are doing as well as can be expected. We found a fabulous thread on here that linked us to the best information we have found and now we understand a bit more about what has already and has yet to come. We are going to have her blood drawn today to check the HCG numbers. I have a hard time believing we are only 4 days into this process. Right now it feels a bit endless but we will just have to keep on keepin on. There is no way forward but through so on we go.

Leah, hope you both keep getting better

Leah so sorry for you and all the troubles.

Taking December off so I can drink my sadness away. i've had enough of not drinking! Sorry gals, 18 months being dry is too fucking long.