Soon to be 34 and feeling pressured, anyone else?!?! - Page 768

onebumpplease · Feb 15th, 2013, 11:44 AM

I know how you must feel about telling DH, but he will feel what you feel, no matter what it's not your fault. You both really need each other now. Wish I had more for you

wookie130 · Feb 15th, 2013, 12:49 PM

Joeys, I just saw your news on Coco's journal, and I had to drop by.

First of all, I'm so sorry. It is NOT your fault, and there was NOTHING you could have done to prevent this. One thing I've learned from my miscarriages, is that it really is a game of odds. Most of the time, early pregnancies fail due to a chromosomal thing that could not have been prevented, and it was destined to go wrong in the first place. I know that this is not a great comfort to you, after you just experienced the excitement of a BFP, but honestly, what this means, is that it IS possible for you to become pregnant. And one chemical pregnancy does not mean that you will continue to miscarry. I think your chances of conceiving with IVF are excellent.

Again, I'm so sorry. If you have any questions, or just want to vent, please PM me, or stop by my journal. There are so many women on here that conceive after miscarriage and chemical pregnancies, even if they need to go the assisted route, and go on to have healthy full-term pregnancies. I am living proof of that!

babybemine · Feb 15th, 2013, 16:55 PM

Oh no Joey.....large hugs for you. Hope it is wrong. We are here for you.

DHime · Feb 15th, 2013, 21:04 PM

Ditto what wookie said!
Hold fast to each other for strength. You can do this!

joeys3453 · Feb 16th, 2013, 09:15 AM

Thanks ladies for all the support. I am sad about this but I think hey and I r sticking with ivf in April. Since we have it paid for and everything. Plus our schedules for the traveller works best. I had a good time with family last night and just laid around. Hope u r all doing well!

wookie130 · Feb 16th, 2013, 09:38 AM

I have a lot of faith that IVF may be the ticket for you joeys...particularly since the chemical pregnancy has your body hormonally primed to some degree for a new pregnancy. I pray you get a lovely set of twins or trips out of it!!!

joeys3453 · Feb 16th, 2013, 09:42 AM

Thanks wookie! I kind of want to try on our own but trying to I've set up again and our schedules just doesn't work. So maybe this is a good sign. I am just staying positive and no matter what it will work. Yes we would be game for twins or more. I have a friend that was carrying twins and lost them at 20 weeks. I feel so bad for them.

wookie130 · Feb 16th, 2013, 09:52 AM

Yeah, I mean as wonderful as multiples are, they are typically almost always considered high-risk pregnancies. The female body is much better suited to carry a singleton, but seriously, how cool would having twins be?

joeys3453 · Feb 19th, 2013, 07:33 AM

thanks for the support ladies i had a hard time on friday with the news but like hd and i both have said at least we know we can get a bfp that is a good sign. so now i just wait and go in on friday to see what my hcg is and then wehn i get my period then i can start the bcp for ivf in april!

DHime · Feb 19th, 2013, 08:27 AM

Hang in there Joeys. That day when you get you witch is a slugger. It makes everything physically hit you so just be ready and take the day off from work when it happens. It was one of the worst days of my life trying to work while going through that and no one knew I was prego so they just thought I was taking walks and crying for no reason. It;s easier when you don't have to make up some story about allergies to keep the gossipers at bay.'Hang in there honey.
Oh twins sounds marvelous!

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onebumpplease Pregnant (Expecting) BnB Addict Join Date: Jan 2012 Location: Scotland Posts: 7,040	I know how you must feel about telling DH, but he will feel what you feel, no matter what it's not your fault. You both really need each other now. Wish I had more for you

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wookie130 Other BnB Elite Join Date: Jun 2011 Location: Iowa, USA Posts: 13,435	Joeys, I just saw your news on Coco's journal, and I had to drop by. First of all, I'm so sorry. It is NOT your fault, and there was NOTHING you could have done to prevent this. One thing I've learned from my miscarriages, is that it really is a game of odds. Most of the time, early pregnancies fail due to a chromosomal thing that could not have been prevented, and it was destined to go wrong in the first place. I know that this is not a great comfort to you, after you just experienced the excitement of a BFP, but honestly, what this means, is that it IS possible for you to become pregnant. And one chemical pregnancy does not mean that you will continue to miscarry. I think your chances of conceiving with IVF are excellent. Again, I'm so sorry. If you have any questions, or just want to vent, please PM me, or stop by my journal. There are so many women on here that conceive after miscarriage and chemical pregnancies, even if they need to go the assisted route, and go on to have healthy full-term pregnancies. I am living proof of that!

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babybemine Other Active BnB Member Join Date: Oct 2012 Location: USA Posts: 724	Oh no Joey.....large hugs for you. Hope it is wrong. We are here for you.

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DHime Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Jul 2011 Location: Sunny South Florida Posts: 1,468	Ditto what wookie said! Hold fast to each other for strength. You can do this!

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joeys3453 Pregnant (Expecting) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Nov 2011 Posts: 1,839	Thanks ladies for all the support. I am sad about this but I think hey and I r sticking with ivf in April. Since we have it paid for and everything. Plus our schedules for the traveller works best. I had a good time with family last night and just laid around. Hope u r all doing well!

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Feb 16th, 2013, 09:38 AM	7676
wookie130 Other BnB Elite Join Date: Jun 2011 Location: Iowa, USA Posts: 13,435	I have a lot of faith that IVF may be the ticket for you joeys...particularly since the chemical pregnancy has your body hormonally primed to some degree for a new pregnancy. I pray you get a lovely set of twins or trips out of it!!!

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Feb 16th, 2013, 09:42 AM	7677
joeys3453 Pregnant (Expecting) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Nov 2011 Posts: 1,839	Thanks wookie! I kind of want to try on our own but trying to I've set up again and our schedules just doesn't work. So maybe this is a good sign. I am just staying positive and no matter what it will work. Yes we would be game for twins or more. I have a friend that was carrying twins and lost them at 20 weeks. I feel so bad for them.

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Feb 16th, 2013, 09:52 AM	7678
wookie130 Other BnB Elite Join Date: Jun 2011 Location: Iowa, USA Posts: 13,435	Yeah, I mean as wonderful as multiples are, they are typically almost always considered high-risk pregnancies. The female body is much better suited to carry a singleton, but seriously, how cool would having twins be?

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joeys3453 Pregnant (Expecting) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Nov 2011 Posts: 1,839	thanks for the support ladies i had a hard time on friday with the news but like hd and i both have said at least we know we can get a bfp that is a good sign. so now i just wait and go in on friday to see what my hcg is and then wehn i get my period then i can start the bcp for ivf in april!

Status: Offline

Feb 19th, 2013, 08:27 AM	7680
DHime Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Jul 2011 Location: Sunny South Florida Posts: 1,468	Hang in there Joeys. That day when you get you witch is a slugger. It makes everything physically hit you so just be ready and take the day off from work when it happens. It was one of the worst days of my life trying to work while going through that and no one knew I was prego so they just thought I was taking walks and crying for no reason. It;s easier when you don't have to make up some story about allergies to keep the gossipers at bay.'Hang in there honey. Oh twins sounds marvelous!

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