I thought thats what u meant ashley but think u wrote ' i dont drink' which confused me! I like a drink too im afraid i probly drink far too much. I do quit when pregnant but have to get fake wine for the placebo effect lol. Or i just hav a really weak lager shandy. I kno what u mean about missing out tho.
Lily did he actually promise u that then? To be fair to him tho u did just get pregnant with number 3 lol hes probly thinking lets see how this goes first! I also like the idea ( i think iv mentioned before) of leaving a bit of a gap then going back in for round 2 of babymaking! Would u or he go for that idea do u think as maybe a bit of a comprimise?
You're right Jo. I think its hard to think about another baby when I am currently pregnant with one lol. When we were still dating, dh said he wanted 3 and I said I wanted 4. I finally persuaded him to have 4, but after the reality kicked in with out first kid (raising a kid is not easy as you know) dh started to change his mind along the way. When I was pregnant with Jayden, he said if we're having a girl, we should stop, well he ended up a boy, so we both planned for no. 3. I have a high feeling this is a girl for us, so as dh put it "our mission is complete" so there really is no need for a 4th child.
Dh and I are travelers, we always go on one big trip once a year, adn dh said traveling with 4 kids is too much. He also wants to buy a house after this one, thats on his top priority, because space is getting small for 4 of us (soon to be 5), much lesss having another. The boys are getting big and need more space to run/play and have their own rooms. He wants to get a house before this baby turns 2. Also, our apartment only allows 5 occupants max, so having a 4th while living here is out of the question...
Dh found me upset and he said if I really wanted another, we'll go for it, but it wont be until we get into a house at minimum because if I get pregnant again and we're still living here, we'll be violating the rules and we'll be doomed...so no house, no baby not even the thought.
So there goes my vent. Kinda have a feeling 3 will be it for us though, because I might change my mind as well once baby is here and the years go by...especially after I go back to school. I might not be interested in repeating the baby years again. Dh said we wont be doing anything permanent such as getting my tubes tied so at least its not final.
I'm ok just plodding along til Wednesday. It's so hard to no weather I should be optimistic or not. I mean I still feel pregnant my boobs still hurt and I woke up feeling sick this morning, but I'm scared to think anything of it! I feel very much in limbo. Xx
aww Lily, I understand!! after I was pregnant with Cassidy my dh had said no more, even after I had her he said no more, it just didn't seem fair since we had decided on 4 before kids.
And when you're all hormonal with pregnancy or a new baby the thought of not having another is hard to deal with!
I would say just enjoy your baby as if its your last, and if it isn't then ok
I find the longer I wait without being pregnant the better I feel about stopping I mean I AM broody, but mostly its just the talk the thought of going through pregnancy again... I dunno.. and then when I think about labour and birth its like omg how did I ever do that twice
Jo, bahah oh yes I drink! Not a LOT, but frequently... some foods its hard to eat without drinking a glass of wine with it! I almost feel guilty for saying that, I mean obviously alcohol doesn't come first... but still
Claire, I feel like I'm on pins waiting for news about your baby! I'm so hoping that everything is ok!! Update as soon as you know anything!
Thanks for your advises ladies! By the time I am 30-31 and we're still no where near ready, I think I am going to just come to terms with not having a 4th. I was on another baby forum and there were women in my birth group the same age as me or slightly over and they had babies with abnormalites and it kinda scares me. I know that generally having babies before 35 is safe, but personally I never wanted to go past 30, I'm just a chicken lol. I guess I'm scared with all my pregnancies regardless of age. I guess after this baby, I'm going to work more so we can have enough income to get a loan for a house, wont have time to think about babies. I get an early scan this Wednesday to check the length of my cervix and will be finding out the gender then. Cant wait!
Claire - we're all anxious for your result! Hope everything goes well this wednesday!
Is that because of your previous early birth? Yeah im 30 now and scared im running out of time to ttc another. Think thats why im so broody! Rics how old are u if u dont mind me asking? Did u start early i cant remember?
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