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Old Sep 6th, 2017, 16:25 PM   10721
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Are you pregnant Claire?! Congratulations!!


Lily, I'm so down about my marriage right now, anytime I think I can work through my marriage he starts lying to me and being a jerk. I'm so un-attracted to him right now... I don't know if I will ever become attracted to him again.



 
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Old Sep 6th, 2017, 16:26 PM   10722
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You never kno what may happen ashley dont be sad just keep a few special things you like the best x
Congrats again rics soooo pleased for you!!



 
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Old Sep 6th, 2017, 16:30 PM   10723
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I get that totally ashely - every time i fall for it and think maybe we will be ok he lets me down again or raises his voice and im back to square one. I have found the best way is just to not let it bother me and not get too close emotionally so im not as hurt everytime it goes wrong x



 
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Old Sep 6th, 2017, 16:42 PM   10724
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Thank you girls!!



 
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Old Sep 15th, 2017, 12:32 PM   10725
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Lily, how are you? Any news??

Claire, how are you feeling?


So after DH tells me to get rid of baby things I have started to slowly, then he tells the girls that there might be another baby one day...
I mean yes I'd love another baby, but right now the attraction for my hubby is at a zero.



 
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Old Sep 15th, 2017, 14:07 PM   10726
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Ashley thats crazy, why would he say that to them and not you? Sorry if this is a bit personal but how long has it been now since uv slept together?
My relationship is on the rocks again, why iv been mia this week sorry! Hes been so agressive towards me again i think that may be it this time



 
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Old Sep 15th, 2017, 14:24 PM   10727
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Ashley it sounds to me like it's a control thing! Have you had a conversation yet about the state of your marriage? Are there any good times? Xx
Jo sorry your having s hard time too! Definitely don't stand for him being aggressive that's not on xx

I'm ok thanks Ashley feeling very bloated but positive about this pregnancy I had a scan on Tuesday and they put me forward a week and I have another in 2 weeks. 😃

Lily how's you? Xx



 
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Old Sep 15th, 2017, 16:47 PM   10728
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Jo, its ok I don't mind telling all on this forum! the last time we dtd was either sept or oct 2015.... so like two years ago, and its been even longer since we'd kiss... like before I was pregnant with Cassidy was the last time we kissed then he just told me he didn't like it.

I tried talking to him last year about our marriage and that was when he had freaked out at me. First saying everything was fine and why would I even say that. Then started accusing me of cheating on him, all because he read my diary where I just put down that occasionally I crush on random people... which is true sometimes it'll be some waiter or something like I'll never see them again. Then after that he kept asking me if I wanted a divorce, and I told him that I will not start anything that I want to work things out.
Now every now and then he tells me we need to talk but wont exactly tell me WHAT it is, like I will ask him and he wont tell me!! He'll just tell me that I know. But I need to know what exactly it is he wants to discuss. Then he started whining about how we never chat online anymore(We met online) and I'm like we're in person.... we can never go back to chatting online!
There hasn't been any good times in a long while Like before when I loved him I felt unwanted and ugly, like he NEVER wanted anything physical if I even tried to hug him in bed or cuddle up to him he'd push me away or walk out of the room. Like this went on for YEARS, until finally in 2015, something changed and I just fell out of love with him.
I know he is controlling but I don't know how to deal with it. Because anytime I confront him on anything he'll tell me no that's not true, then I end up feeling dumb.
Sorry for this long whiny rant!



 
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Old Sep 15th, 2017, 16:58 PM   10729
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Oh Ashley it's sounds awful I'm so sorry!! Something has to change you deserve to be happy! Find out what help your untitled too and make a plan. Xx



 
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Old Sep 15th, 2017, 22:04 PM   10730
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Hi ladies! I've been so preoccupied these last few days and just waiting for this baby to come. I wish I didnt have to rush him, but doc already said I will need an induction if he doesnt come at 39 weeks due to GD. Damn GD. On thursday I had a cervical exam and he said I am 2 cm dilated and very soft so he thinks baby can come any day now. I will be 37+3 tomorrow and not really feeling anything, not even braxton hicks so we'll see.

Sorry you're going through all that Ashley, and I agree with the others, it sounds like a very miserable way to live. Not dtd for 2 years?? I thought my husband and I were bad enough because we can go 6 months without dtd. I hope you get things sorted out soon because it sounds so stressful.

Glad this pregnancy looks positive for you Claire and its awesome you were able to have an appointment so soon! Hope everything continues to go well!



 
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