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Old Dec 11th, 2012, 07:28 AM   4491
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Joseph
The Forgotten Member of the Christmas Story

There is no doubt that you are being bombarded with everything Christmas. Itís everywhere you look. Turn on the television and there are commercials offering you the greatest bargains you could ever hope for. Decorations line the streets and radio stations blast ďJingle BellsĒ and ďWe Wish You A Merry ChristmasĒ. Itís hard to feel merry when you are struggling with infertility, and all you want for Christmas is a positive pregnancy test. Your heart is filled with so many questions, and in this time when our attention is turned to Godís plan for humanity, you canít help but wonder about His plan for you. Today would be a good day to sit down with Joseph. Share a few moments with the man who adopted the Savior. The one who wiped His nose and taught Him a trade. The one whose heart must have carried as many questions that first Christmas as yours does this Christmas.

Have you ever really thought about Joseph? What he thought and felt? He knows all about a life that doesnít go according to a plan. He thought he would marry the girl down the road, heíd build her a nice home and theyíd have children--together--and theyíd be like everyone else. Sound familiar? He had no idea that God had such a plan and that he would play such a role. Donít you imagine he must have scratched his head more than once as he pondered the part he was to play in this scene? ďGod, why me? Why did You choose me? I donít know if I can do this.Ē Canít you see his face as he tried to get Mary settled in a stable for the birth of Jesus? ďGod, Iím failing you. Iím failing her. Iím failing Him. I canít do this right. I just canít do this. I just wanted to get married and have a family, God! I feel like such a failure.Ē

Scripture doesnít tell us much about Joseph so we donít really know if he felt like this or not. We do know that he must have loved Mary, and that he trusted God with all of his heart. No matter what his exact thoughts were, he had to be amazed at the magnitude of the role he was called upon to play. I believe there were times when his calling felt too heavy, the job seemed too hard. Does yours? Does the burden of infertility weigh too heavily on your heart? Especially during times when society focuses so intensely on family and children? Think again on Joseph.

During the times Joseph must have struggled in feeling like he wasnít doing enough for his unique family, he must have felt like a failure, yet Heaven must have smiled. Why? Because Josephís trusting heart was leading him down the path Heaven had planned for him. He couldnít see the entirety of Godís plan and couldnít understand all that he was asked to do, but his servantís heart trusted God. He was playing a role in the events that would change not only his world, but the world.

There are times as you are called upon to carry the burden of infertility when you are faced with facets of Godís plan that you do not understand. You may feel like a failure, much like Joseph may have. You may feel as if you are failing your family by not giving your spouse a child or not giving your parents grandchildren. Somehow, your servantís heart keeps trusting in God and His magnificent plan for your life. And Heaven smiles because your trusting heart keeps you walking the path God has planned for you even when His plan has included infertility for a while.

Joseph may have winced when he looked inside that dirty, little stall where his sweetheart would labor to bring the Savior into the world. He may have thought he was doing Him an incredible injustice by not providing better. But God led him there just as He led the shepherd and the Magi there. Just as He led you to your physician or support group, or into the care of your supportive friend or the church family who loves you not even knowing the struggle you face.

And Heaven smiles.

-Beth Forbus



 
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Old Dec 11th, 2012, 11:05 AM   4492
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Hi everyone.

Ok, so this really has nothing to do with baby making, but I am so excited that I just had to share! I have been searching and praying for another job - yes, the one I have is full time, but it's horrible and I really don't enjoy being here. Most of the people I work with are obsessed with having the whole office immersed in drama... constantly, the office used to be an old horse barn, so it's not the most pleasant place to work, and (since it's a family run business) myself and the other 2 newest ladies get treated horribly.

Anyway, I have been searching for months for a new job, as well as praying for guidance from God, but there has just been nothing. Earlier in the year I applied for a program where they would train you to be a Continuing Care Assistant, but was wait-listed because I had a full time job. I was super upset about it, since I would love to be a CCA but can't afford to go back to school. Well, today one of the ladies from the program called and asked if I was still interested! They are starting a new class in February and I already qualified and everything last year. Right now I am waiting for a call back, but I am praying that this is really going to happen for me.



 
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Old Dec 11th, 2012, 11:21 AM   4493
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Hi everyone.

Ok, so this really has nothing to do with baby making, but I am so excited that I just had to share! I have been searching and praying for another job - yes, the one I have is full time, but it's horrible and I really don't enjoy being here. Most of the people I work with are obsessed with having the whole office immersed in drama... constantly, the office used to be an old horse barn, so it's not the most pleasant place to work, and (since it's a family run business) myself and the other 2 newest ladies get treated horribly.

Anyway, I have been searching for months for a new job, as well as praying for guidance from God, but there has just been nothing. Earlier in the year I applied for a program where they would train you to be a Continuing Care Assistant, but was wait-listed because I had a full time job. I was super upset about it, since I would love to be a CCA but can't afford to go back to school. Well, today one of the ladies from the program called and asked if I was still interested! They are starting a new class in February and I already qualified and everything last year. Right now I am waiting for a call back, but I am praying that this is really going to happen for me.
That is great news hun! Thank you Lord for blessing my sis with this wonderful opportunity, you knew her hearts desire.

Keep us updated on how things go!



 
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Old Dec 11th, 2012, 11:38 AM   4494
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Hi ladies! In need of prayers please!! I took test yesterday with a faint positive but then again this morning and nothing so I am trying so hard not to lose faith that the Lord has blessed us but I just dont know??



 
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Old Dec 11th, 2012, 11:49 AM   4495
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Pv praying that everything works in your favor. You will get a call and it will be everything you want it to be. I pray the Lord blessed you in this new opportunity greatly!

Willow I know what you mean about maybe maybe not. Maybe try having faith that whatever the outcome God is in control. This may be easier than trying to keep the faith that something is there and a hit less nerve wrecking too. But I do hope that God blesses you with a wonderful bundle!



 
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Old Dec 11th, 2012, 12:35 PM   4496
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I got a call back. I have to get an updated Criminal Record Check for them and in January I will be called to go for an interview with the employers. I am hoping that since this will be my second year going through this process, and the fact that I was #2 on the wait list last year, I have a better chance at getting a spot in the class.

Thank you ladies for your prayers, I really appreciate them.

Willow: I will be praying that you get answers soon, and hopefully the Lord has blessed you with a tiny little bundle to call your own.



 
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Old Dec 12th, 2012, 09:05 AM   4497
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A Christmas Secret

Shh! Can you keep a secret? You canít tell! My husbandís Christmas gift has been sitting on our kitchen counter for two weeks and he doesnít know it! Itís wrapped up in a beautiful, decorative box that is quite ornate. The uniquely shaped box he assumes to be a new Christmas decoration is actually a gift he has been hinting for quite some time. He walks by it every day and has no idea. He stands within inches of his present and reads the mail! I have to admit, I enjoy being a little sneaky and the thought of hidden treasures makes me smile.

Do you realize that God has hidden treasures all around you today? He understands that infertility can take a toll on your heart--especially around the holidays. He knows the burden that baby hunger brings, so He gives you an extra measure of love. He may not have placed them in brightly colored boxes on your kitchen countertops, but they are there.

Where are these hidden Christmas gifts from God? Perhaps God has given you a measure of His love in a phone call from a friend who just called to check on you after she knew you had an important doctorís appointment. Just the fact that she cared spoke volumes to your heart. (A word aptly spoken is like apples of gold in settings of silver.--Proverbs 25:11) Remember your pastorís sermon that really seemed to speak to your heart? Maybe God was being a little sneaky and placed that in your pastorís heart just for you. There are many times we receive emails telling us that one of these devotions was just what someone needed for the struggle they were going through on a particular day. God had placed a hidden treasure right in front of them--right on their computer screen! Something as simple as an encouraging book you find in a Christian book store, or even a song on the radio can remind you of the love God has for you in troubling times. Perhaps youíve never considered that encounters such as these can be more than just coincidences and could actually be hidden gifts from God to help you through this most difficult journey through infertility.

Remember when you were a little girl? Did you sneak around the house at Christmas time, trying your best to find the Christmas gifts you knew were hidden somewhere just out of sight? Why not be like that again? Look around you for the hidden treasures of Godís love.

As women who want to get pregnant we are absolute professionals at looking for signs. Every time we are in the midst of a two-week wait between ovulation day and day 28, we look for a sign we are pregnant. Could that twinge mean anything? I donít think I feel very well today. Could that be morning sickness starting? Why not put this unintentional talent to work for you? Look for a sign that God is offering you extra encouragement today? ďCould that song be Godís way of reminding me that He really is Emmanuel, God with me? He wonít leave me--even through infertility!Ē
God loves you.

Heís passionate about you. He wants to show you His love for you. And when you find His gifts of love, I believe He smiles.
-Beth Forbus



 
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Old Dec 12th, 2012, 19:42 PM   4498
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Hi everyone.

Ok, so this really has nothing to do with baby making, but I am so excited that I just had to share! I have been searching and praying for another job - yes, the one I have is full time, but it's horrible and I really don't enjoy being here. Most of the people I work with are obsessed with having the whole office immersed in drama... constantly, the office used to be an old horse barn, so it's not the most pleasant place to work, and (since it's a family run business) myself and the other 2 newest ladies get treated horribly.

Anyway, I have been searching for months for a new job, as well as praying for guidance from God, but there has just been nothing. Earlier in the year I applied for a program where they would train you to be a Continuing Care Assistant, but was wait-listed because I had a full time job. I was super upset about it, since I would love to be a CCA but can't afford to go back to school. Well, today one of the ladies from the program called and asked if I was still interested! They are starting a new class in February and I already qualified and everything last year. Right now I am waiting for a call back, but I am praying that this is really going to happen for me.
That is wonderful! I'm praying for you and this job. It sounds like a wonderful opportunity.

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Hi ladies! In need of prayers please!! I took test yesterday with a faint positive but then again this morning and nothing so I am trying so hard not to lose faith that the Lord has blessed us but I just dont know??
Praying for you! I hope it is a real BFP for you

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Hey ladies!!! Did progesterone test 7 dpo.... Was 1.2 :'( Shows absolutely noooooo ovulation. Last month wass 66 showed strong ovulation. Was 1.6 the first month no ovulation. Now I'm wondering if only my one ovary works. It was my 3rd round of clomid 50mg CD 2-6 and I'm due to see doc tomorrow. Feeling a little down
I'm so sorry! I hate the letdown each month, but hopefully your doctor will have a good explanation.

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Hi Ladies,

Thank you so much for your kind words, encouragement and support. I have decided to take a break from all things ttc while we pray and decide our future.

I need to stop for my own sanity. Checking on this thread has been helpful but is becoming more painful as we face our future - potentially childless.

I wish everyone all the best and hope that you all receive the child of your hearts.

God bless,

Shell
I'm praying for you and know God has wonderful things in store for you. Taking a break is very helpful sometimes though, it has been for me anyway. We will all still be praying for you though.

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Dr advised our only option is IVF. He has ruled out falling pregnant naturally or insemination and we have ruled out donor sperm.

He gave us the IVF sales pitch - as expected but there are so many variables: expense, hormone injections, tests & surgical procedures for both of us. Plus the ethical dilemmas of embryo's.

So, what does God say? He has the final word!
We were just told that IVF is our only option as well! I am here if you ever want to chat! And you are right God will help you decide if this is the right decision for you and yours!
Praying for both of you. How wonderful that God brought so many of you on here to IVF around the same time. What a wonderful support system built in, whether you decide to go that route or not.

AFM, I'm having a low day. AF came and since we started TTC last December, that makes one full year of it. Not a milestone I wanted to reach... No more storms please, I'm ready for my rainbow



 
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Old Dec 13th, 2012, 00:32 AM   4499
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Was at th doc yesterday. It turns out I only have one functioning ovary so only ovulate every second cycle. I only have 6 chances a year to get pregnant... The left ovary show STRONG ovulation. But due to many cysts being removed from the right ovary it is covered in to much scar tissue to be able to ovulate. Doc wants hubby to go for sperm count and me to go check that tubes aren't blocked. Medical insurance doesn't cover any of this Hubby and I chatted and we've decided to go for the tests this month (scratch the money together) cause we don't wanna waste any time. I googled the HSG tube test and it seems really scary! Gosh! Keeping the faith and trusting God will carry us through on every level!



 
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Old Dec 13th, 2012, 04:16 AM   4500
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Dynamic the hsg is not bad. I had to have one last November and was a bit freaked before hand. There is some slight cramping when they are putting the balloon in, just like if it were af. Other than that you don't feel anything. Plus you get to see it while its happening, at least I did. And they will often tell you there what they see, but them say wait for the official from your doc. Nothing for you to be worried about. I'm sure you will be fine!



 
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