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Old Jan 24th, 2013, 17:34 PM   4791
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Becky - So glad you are feeling better. I experienced the same spotting as you. The only difference is I didn't have the reassuring morning sickness. I accepted that I would miscarry and began praying that God would give me strength to deal with another miscarriage. I was in total shock when I went in for my ultrasound and saw a beating heart. I have a bump buddy that had spotting too. Her doctor said it was basically a pocket of old blood was trapped in her cervix (he described the cervix like a toilet paper roll sealed at both ends only a lot smaller) that needed to eventually work its way out. I believe that's what I had and I continued to spot until I was 14weeks. Being pregnant after a miscarriage is so scary and when things aren't perfect it gets even scarier but God has us covered. Regardless of the outcome He will comfort us. I believe all is well with you and your precious baby.



 
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Old Jan 24th, 2013, 17:38 PM   4792
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Hello there ladies,

I'm wondering if any of you can help me come to some sort of conclusion concerning my situation..

My Fiance and I happily found out we were expecting in December, after months of trying for our first bub. I went through a tough few weeks of bad cramping and spotting which frightened me so much that I didn't want to get out of bed for days on end. Only for us to lose our precious baby on the 14th of January through m/c at close to 8 weeks.

Being absolutely heartbroken, we then came to find out that my younger sister in law who lives with us, and already has a one year old, is once again pregnant. And she too, was around 8 weeks along last time they checked.

Knowing that everything in our life happens for a reason that God intended, I ask you lovely women, what do you believe my lesson will be now? I really don't know how I will handle watching her belly grow at the rate that mine was going to grow, watching her baby be born into the world, very close to when mine was going to be born.. I'm trying to figure out why I will be tortured seeing these things right in front of me? That way I can at least have something in my mind that says the entire process is worth it somehow.


I just felt like the Lord spoke these words to me, 'If i put you in a comfortable situation, i would expect you to feel comfortable. But it is when i put you in a challenging, that i want to see you rise.'

So often we feel that when we are placed in situations that are in our ability to handle, we are able to conquer the mission, to pass the test. But that is far from where God wants us to stay. Unfortunately we live in a world that is unjust, that is unfair and sometimes we have no choice but to stand, be the strong person we don't feel inside and stride ahead. Our heart and mind may not necessarily be inspired to be brave and to show happiness to those around us, but soon enough, God sees that we are trying, and allows our body to catch up with our mind, so that we are intentionally doing good in his eyes.

Now i'm not speaking from someone who hasn't got a clue what your going through, infact the situation you are enduring was infact mine mid last year...

My SIL (as lovely as she can be) found out we were pregnant at the same time as her (she announced it alot sooner then we did) and it wasnt long before she told me exactly how she felt about our pregnancy. 'I should of waited a year until she had all the attention' 'I should of pre-warned her that we were trying' 'She wanted to be the only person in the family with a baby' etc. It did more then hurt, i was heartbroken. We miscarried a week later.

I'm not a quick learner, I learnt the hard way. I told my husband we couldn't see them anymore, had endless amount of arguments, i couldnt deal with the loss. I put our m/c before my SIL, before my marriage, and before God. I had nothing else left emotionally, that one day i went to her house and left my bitterness at her door.

I was that determined to rid my body of resentment i did everything my heart did not want to do.
- I looked after her baby during the night the first week she was born
- (Im a child's photographer as a second job) so i took her post baby photo's inc her maternity
- I prepare meals for throughout the weeks after the birth

Everything i didnt want to do, i did. For the grace of God. I knew the more i pressed on, the more resentment left my body and i was able to deal with my grief, knowing 'This was a difficult situation for me, God wanted me to rise above it'

I pray that God will use you during your pain, that you will break through the hurt of seeing her belly grow & watching her progress. So that you will be able to see what yGod has in store for you, knowing heartedly that he is looking out for you, even if you do not feel or see it.

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Old Jan 24th, 2013, 19:00 PM   4793
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Hello there ladies,

I'm wondering if any of you can help me come to some sort of conclusion concerning my situation..

My Fiance and I happily found out we were expecting in December, after months of trying for our first bub. I went through a tough few weeks of bad cramping and spotting which frightened me so much that I didn't want to get out of bed for days on end. Only for us to lose our precious baby on the 14th of January through m/c at close to 8 weeks.

Being absolutely heartbroken, we then came to find out that my younger sister in law who lives with us, and already has a one year old, is once again pregnant. And she too, was around 8 weeks along last time they checked.

Knowing that everything in our life happens for a reason that God intended, I ask you lovely women, what do you believe my lesson will be now? I really don't know how I will handle watching her belly grow at the rate that mine was going to grow, watching her baby be born into the world, very close to when mine was going to be born.. I'm trying to figure out why I will be tortured seeing these things right in front of me? That way I can at least have something in my mind that says the entire process is worth it somehow.
I'm so sorry to hear this! I had a miscarriage recently and know just how painful it is. Time is the only thing that will heal the pain and the Lord will help you through this time showing you His love every step of the way. I know there is nothing I can say to make you feel better now, but know that your Father loves you very much and that I am praying for you.



 
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Old Jan 24th, 2013, 19:04 PM   4794
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I am feeling much better and definitely more optimistic today and I know that is because of you wonderful ladies. Your prayers and stories really helped. I even called and made my first doctor's appointment, which I was putting off in case the worst happened. It's not for another three weeks(!), but I feel safe in the Lord's hands.

I had another thing of spotting today, but it was lighter in color and there was less of it. The weird part is this happens at the same time every day, how strange! I think like HisGrace mentioned maybe there was a pocket of blood trapped and walking around for lunch helped it get loose. That's my story anyway



 
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Old Jan 24th, 2013, 19:26 PM   4795
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Thanks for your prayers and kind words, ladies! Our Maximus seems to be going downhill quickly. From what I can gather from DH & my human medical knowledge, physical exams of Max several times a day, and reading I've done, we are looking at aggressive Stage V metastatic lymphoma.

For the past few weeks, his appetite has waned - we thought he was eating stuff when he was outside (both of our dogs tend to eat anything we have planted back there). He's really lethargic, been drinking excessively (and the requisite frequent urination to go along with it), had a couple bouts of vomitting last week, the lymphnodes in his neck, his right ear and in the "pit" of one of his arms are all swollen to the size of golf balls or larger and he has tumors popping up all over his body - this morning's new find was one 4cm long on top of his spine. There are a couple different treatment options, but with it being this far progressed, they would just be delaying the inevitable at a cost we really can't afford - especially when we're revamping the budget for our little slugger who will soon be on the way.

I've got a great family friend who has offered to cremate him free of charge when we put him down. We also put the call in today to our vet to get his advice on if that time should be sooner, while he's not in pain yet, rather than later (He and his wife just got a 4-week-old foster baby - it may take him a day to get back to us haha).

Though this "Job Time" (LOVE THAT TERM!) is super crappy, I see God's glory in all of this. I just have to keep that in mind. I also have to keep in mind that I'll be with Donald Duck in 2 weeks and have my Mrs. Coach jacket a couple weeks after that!


Sarah - Check your boxer for lumps every now and again, apparently they're VERY prone to lymphoma, but if caught early it's very treatable. YAY FOR AGREEMENTS AND APPOINTMENS!!!! PRAISE GOD!

Becky - Hallelujah! I'm so glad your little bean is sticking!



 
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Old Jan 25th, 2013, 06:20 AM   4796
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Becky so glad to hear you're feeling better!

Queen, sorry your pup is going downhill so fast. We want all the time in the world with them and when something comes so quickly I know it's hard to take in. If it helps any, a coworker of mine has rotts which are prone to cancer and she's had to put a couple down in the past. She always puts them down before the pain sets in so they don't suffer too much. I know it's hard, but something to consider. I think I would do the same. If treatment won't help, you don't him suffering for nothing. How old is he?



 
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Old Jan 25th, 2013, 07:43 AM   4797
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Loss--God Understands


He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds.
Psalm 147:3

It is an unfortunate reality that when an infertile woman finally conceives, only to have the much-desired baby is lost to miscarriage or stillbirth, the devastation of her heart defies description. The heartbreak is often misunderstood, and consolation comes in well-meaning but inappropriate condolences such as “Oh honey, you’re young! You can always have another one!”

Surely there is no sorrow so great as the death of a baby. You cannot believe that what started out as the most wonderful, exciting experience of your life has left you heart-sick and confounded. If you are at the point of falling apart, may I suggest a soft landing spot? As you fall, fall into the arms of God. They're loving arms, strong enough to hold you and they'll catch you every single time!

If anyone has ever known what it feels like to lose a child to death, God knows. Remember that His Child died too! God, the Father, stood heavy hearted on the precipice of Glory and watched as His Baby died. He understands when your heart cries out that your baby didn’t deserve to die—His didn’t either.

God knows your heartache. He understands your fear. He stands ready to bring peace and healing to you. This same God, this grieving Father, loves you, will bear the burden of your grief, and will lovingly bind your wounds. If you feel that no one understands your hurt and your pain, cry out to God.

He understands.

-Beth Forbus



 
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Old Jan 25th, 2013, 19:56 PM   4798
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Queen, sorry your pup is going downhill so fast. We want all the time in the world with them and when something comes so quickly I know it's hard to take in. If it helps any, a coworker of mine has rotts which are prone to cancer and she's had to put a couple down in the past. She always puts them down before the pain sets in so they don't suffer too much. I know it's hard, but something to consider. I think I would do the same. If treatment won't help, you don't him suffering for nothing. How old is he?
He's 8, which is in the later years for boxers. Just got back from the vet. Biopsy confirmed our fears. We took the option of putting him on prednisone, which will put him into a remission for 3-6 months, giving him a chance to gain some weight back, for the lymphnodes to shrink a bit (allowing him to bark & do his happy howl again) and help him feel like his old self until the time comes to put him down. We were prepared to put him down in the next week if the news was any worse, but thankfully we can put that off until we get back from vacation and don't have to worry about our sweet house sitter having to deal with an incredibly sick dog while we're gone.

Thanks so much for all of the encouragement and prayers, ladies! This situation has been a nice escape from my mind being so intently focused on babies and pregnancy. I had some spotting yesterday (CD 9) which is really unusual. Thinking it may have been some leftover from AF knocked loose from BD - but at first I was tripping out thinking I'd O'd early or O'd again really late in my last cycle and was implanting.

Hope everyone else is doing well!



 
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Old Jan 26th, 2013, 06:22 AM   4799
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Glad to here of a good outcome queen. That will give you guys more time with him and hopefully he can get back to himself and enjoy this time!



 
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Old Jan 26th, 2013, 14:16 PM   4800
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Hi All!

I don't usually get on here on the weekends, but just wanted to let you know I'm thinking about you and praying for you.

Hope you are all enjoying this beautiful day the Lord has made



 
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