Ginger can you post the code for religion free ttc? (put a space in it or something) thanks dear
Just found out today that a coworker who is just comin off leave for her 1 year old son is pregnant again...she's 18 and the second was planned. Not judging, just jealous. On the plus side, if I get pregnant soon we can be rl bump buddies!
hi! It's been on here in a while.... turns out this is the only thread I subscribe to that people still write on! Luckily you guys are a pretty awesome group of women. I don't think I could bear to fends through the masses to seek out more like minded people to talk to again. It took me so long to find my few threads of lovely ladies to share this journey with!
A quick update: I'm 7dpo. I'm not symptom spotting or even really thinking about it, but I will be testing on Friday and am mildly curious if I'm pregnant and if so, wondering if it is a keeper. We had two bouts of lovely BDing that could have been timed just right. We shall see.
On a separate note: My friend, and Irish girl, is going to have a baby in June/July. As most of our friends are flighty and unorganized, I told her I would like to throw her a baby shower. Just something small, at her house, with all our girlfriends and lots of food and silly games. They don't have baby showers in Ireland, and she was wasn't sure she wanted people to buy her gifts. I assured her that we would have gifts optional and not the main focus of the party, but yes, this would be an opportunity for friends to buy her something if they wanted to. Due to her financial situation (something she has no problem sharing with people... they can't even afford to take baby care classes, let alone buy clothes and toys) I thought they might be happy to get a few gifts. Anywyas, I Sent her a text last week to remind her that I really want to do this for her, and just to ask her for a date. No reply. On Friday I sent another text asking for the date, no rely. I called her, and she actually ignored my call. A bunch of girls have been asking me what the plan is, since everyone is excited about it, but the mom-to-be is refusing to talk to me. This is all so weird. What am I supposed to do? We had talked about doing it mid/late april, and i really want to get started.
Oh, one of her best friends called me to offer to help, and actually told me that the mom to be would be perfectly happy just going out for drinks with all the girls if I didn't want to do the whole lunch thing. Can you think of anything worse... 7 months pregnant and dragged to a smokey bar with your friends for your Baby Shower???
What should I do??? Go on planning without her or wait for a reply? I already have bought some things, and don't want to spend too much more if she is just going to say she doesn't want it.
Oh, and to add to the name discussion:
Boys - I like Benjamin and Theodore, DH likes Geovanni and we both like Luca.
Girls - We both love Lucy, Lucia, Lois, and Hayes, and I LOVE Hazel, but DH isn't so fond of it.
If they don't do baby showers in Ireland, she may be feeling strange about the whole thing. And especially if she is having money issues, she might really be feeling pressured to do this. You said she doesn't like others knowing about her money problems, so maybe she's afraid that taking part in this strange custom that isn't even a part of her culture will make her seem desperate.
I would remember that the day of the baby shower is supposed to be all about the mother-to-be, and if the baby shower is really going to make her uncomfortable, it sounds like retreating to a place where she feels comfortable (like the pub) might be what she needs. That way it isn't some weird party all around her, it's just some friends meeting up for fun and chat at the pub.
I wouldn't force her to have a legit baby shower if she doesn't want one.
I'm sorry she won't return your calls. You mentioned her best friend...has she talked to her recently? Maybe a surprise shower wold be nice. Although, it sounds as if it might be tough to make sure she shows up. I think it's great that you are trying to help. I hope it works out.
Thanks... She is very open about the money problems and everyone is a bit worried about what she and her boyfriend are going to do.... But besides all that, I had just wanted to do this for her because she's my friend. I just feel weird about it all now. Hope she calls me, I figure the ball is in her court now, if she is really that uncomfortable she should be able to tell me... not tell all our friends about it, then never talk to me about it again. So weird. Oh well.
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