Support thread for all the atheist,agnostic,non-religious and secular humanist TTCers

@uninspired.

Hi, and welcome to the thread, and BnB

Originally Posted by Uninspired

Hello Everyone,
This thread was a great idea. It's so frustrating for me and uncomfortable when all the support threads read, as someone mentioned, "God says it's not your time" or "God has a plan for you". I don't have a problem with people having their own faith, I just wish they wouldn't assume that I feel the same way. I've only recently "come out" about my atheism to my family. That was a relief. Of course, they all think I'm going to hell but at least they know the real me.

So here's my story:

We have been trying to conceive for 8+ years. We're going on 10 years married this August I am almost finished with a degree in graphic design. Since schooling is wrapping up for me, we are taking it to the next level. I have an appointment with a reproductive endocrinologist next month and I'm excited. We are doing what we can at home, for example, we both have lost weight and changed our diets drastically. I know we are in much better shape than we ever were and because of that I'm positive the doctor will be able to help us.

Good luck to everyone!

It is a little uncomfortable for me too - all this "God's plan" stuff. It would be nice if the world just made sense that way, but I don't believe it does. To each their own. How did your appointment with the RE go? I'm going to the obgyn for this first time in a week and a half to get checked out and don't really know what to expect.

Hi All!

I love this thread! Hadn't seen it before. Just wanted to tag myself on it, stand up as a devout atheist, and send all of y'all lots of !

Hello everyone! I just wanted to poke my head in and say that I love this thread! It seems like many TTC conversations always end up with someone stating that "God has a plan" and that is totally fine for them (whatever helps them and gets them through), but I just don't really believe that. Of course, if you tell anyone that you get preached too and then they seem to act like maybe you shouldn't get to share in "God's greatest miracle." Ugh, it's just so hard! I'm glad I found you guys~

So what would you ladies think about this: my brother and sister-in-law, who we're very close with (heck I was her "birth coach") just had a baby, and they are much like myself and DH with their beliefs. They also believe in some kind of spiritual higher power, but don't get into organized religion. They want to have their daughter baptized so that as she grows up, she can have the choice to join a church youth group or whatnot and proceed with any regional religion as an adult if she chooses. I support their decision, but if they ask us to be her "godparents" that day, is it odd for two atheists to stand in a church and profess all the things they have godparents profess during the ceremony?

On one hand it seems hypocritical, but on the other hand who better to be her spiritual guide and the people who promise to always be there for her and take care of her than us who love her so much and who are open to all different types of spiritualism without judgement? Maybe that's what kids need more than cram-religion-down-your-throat people.

Hi ladies just thought i tag in and say great thread. I understand how complicated the whole thing can get. I was baptised a protestant and communioned as a catholic. I don't follow either one. I do however believe in a fate by which we make but i guess that's just what i believe. My husband is an atheist and doesnt believe in anything. I would like to think that when we raise our children we give them the chance to choose and support them no matter what they wish to believe or not believe in.

Originally Posted by RoccoBoxr

So what would you ladies think about this: my brother and sister-in-law, who we're very close with (heck I was her "birth coach") just had a baby, and they are much like myself and DH with their beliefs. They also believe in some kind of spiritual higher power, but don't get into organized religion. They want to have their daughter baptized so that as she grows up, she can have the choice to join a church youth group or whatnot and proceed with any regional religion as an adult if she chooses. I support their decision, but if they ask us to be her "godparents" that day, is it odd for two atheists to stand in a church and profess all the things they have godparents profess during the ceremony?

On one hand it seems hypocritical, but on the other hand who better to be her spiritual guide and the people who promise to always be there for her and take care of her than us who love her so much and who are open to all different types of spiritualism without judgement? Maybe that's what kids need more than cram-religion-down-your-throat people.

That's a tough one! I'd ask them very specifically want they'd want/expect of me in that role before I made the decision. Then consider very honestly if I'd be able to fulfill that role.

Good luck!

Completely random question: How many of those who are on this thread are trying to come up with NON-BIBLICAL baby names? I am, and it's really tough! Seems like the majority of "traditional" names in America are from the Bible, and I'd really like to avoid that.

Thoughts?

Originally Posted by pbl_ge

Completely random question: How many of those who are on this thread are trying to come up with NON-BIBLICAL baby names? I am, and it's really tough! Seems like the majority of "traditional" names in America are from the Bible, and I'd really like to avoid that.

Thoughts?

Norse mythology? (like Thor, Embla, Hekla and such...)
I´m just being silly ya know.

Also flower, and bird names, modified. (that´s what my grandmother did).

Hi ladies!

Hope you don't mind me joining this thread! I was so glad to find it after countless times I've been involved in other threads and felt so disappointed and bordering offended by people replying 'I'll keep you in my prayers' or 'it's all part of god's plan and you will be blessed with a child when he decides it's your time' etc, I have never commented in response to the religious content specifically, for fear of offending others or starting a virtual riot, but then again it does bother me that so many on here assume everyone is religious and shares the same religion they do.

I went to a Christian school, and although my family were never particularly religious, I loved the whole idea of it when I was younger, you just kind of grow up believing that's how it is when you're told that by teachers every day! But as I got older and learned more for myself about the world, it just didn't make sense. Seven years ago I lost my best friend in a car accident, and I lost my dad two years ago this week in a horrific hotel fire where 28 innocent people including children lost their lives, and I think that was the final straw with me and my mum. If god exists, where was he that day and why did he allow it to happen. Doesn't seem like a good plan to me for any reason.

Since that, although I always wanted a church wedding, I realised it was for the wrong reasons and I ended up having a civil ceremony as I thought a church was too hypocritical. Last year myself and DH were asked to be godparents to our friend's son, and I felt so awkward and out of place that day. A lot of our friends have young children and are all getting them christened even though they're not religious at all, which I don't understand.

DH's family are Catholic, and the older ones in particular are quite strong believers still, and I think they're disappointed in those of us that don't follow. Fortunately DH isn't interested in any of it at all.

Anyway sorry for the long post! I'm 30, DH is nearly 31, we just got married in May and have been TTC since then, although still waiting for my cycles to get back to somewhere near normal after BCP.

Good luck to all! xx