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Old Apr 5th, 2012, 04:51 AM   1
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Support thread for all the atheist,agnostic,non-religious and secular humanist TTCers


Hi ladies,
I got this idea from the Christian TTC thread and hope that no one takes offence, just different beliefs!

I find that I sometimes feel left out as an atheistic leaning agnostic and thought it would be great to have a support thread for those without faith or whose religious beliefs are more personal as opposed to religious. I think we get a little forgotten

So I welcome anyone from the strong atheist to those whose personal spiritual beliefs only really fit into the "other" category. We can chat about the unique issues surrounding TTC or parenting without faith and with questioning faith!



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Old Apr 5th, 2012, 05:57 AM   2
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I'm in! I'm still trying to figure out what I define myself as, but I don't think there's a higher power with a particular plan. I'll get pregnant if or when I do, not because it's part of any kind of plan. I'd love to chat with others!



 
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Old Apr 5th, 2012, 05:59 AM   3
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Hi, I don't have any particular faith. Think it would be great to have a thread to support each other.



 
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Old Apr 5th, 2012, 08:45 AM   4
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Great! im glad that at least a few people are on board hopefuly more will follow! sometimes I feel like declaring your self irreligious (particularly atheist) is sort of like coming out of the closet! lol. I was worried no one would respond or simply call me a heathen.

My story, raised Roman Catholic (catholic school junior kindergarden-grade 12 boo...) but pretty early on decided it wasnt for me. I have a degree in biopsychology so I pretty strongly believe in materialism. I am not an atheist per se, as to state something with 100% certainty that cannot be tested or measured would not make me a very good scientist now would it lol.

my TTC philosophy is certainly not one where im banking on a man in the clouds "bless" me with a child. I believe that I need to prepare my mind and body (both equally important) for pregnancy.

I also believe that one can find spirituality all around us, it doesnt have involve some god/gods. the complexity of even the simplest things in nature can still be appreciated without the need for gods... in fact I think it makes it even more amazing.

sorry for the long post



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Old Apr 5th, 2012, 09:22 AM   5
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Thanks for the thread! While I am totally open to the beliefs of religious people, I am not a follower of any particular organized religion. Especially when it comes to TTC! As a native american, I feel that there are many powers and spiritual things that work together to try to keep our earth harmonious, and I think the same things apply to our bodies when we are TTC. We need balance, we need good energy, we need good nutrition, and we need emotional support. We do not need people saying "god will just bless you when he's ready" I'm also a lab scientist, so I'm with you that I have a hard time not correcting someone when they say "god must not think it's your time", um no, anovulation and low sperm motility says it's not my time!! But all in good humor, I don't take offense when someone offers me a belief-based opinion if it's in the spirit of trying too be supportive, and as long as you don't mind my belief-based opinion either! Most people are good people, trying to be kind to one another. Good luck to all of us!



 
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Old Apr 5th, 2012, 16:51 PM   6
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I have a hard time not correcting someone when they say "god must not think it's your time", um no, anovulation and low sperm motility says it's not my time!! [/QUOTE]

I love that! very funny!

I tend to abide by the rule that extraordinary claims require extraordinary evidence, and so far ive not seen any, so I am going to put my lot in with the atheists & agnostics



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Old Apr 5th, 2012, 20:36 PM   7
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westfall, I also grew up Roman Catholic. I'd been searching for a more progressive Christian faith, all the while knowing I was likely only "believing what I wanted to believe" and also what was culturally acceptable. However, more recently, I realized that I couldn't ignore the fact that really horrible things happen to the poorest people (natural disasters for example) and there is no god or force that intervenes. Whether there is a god or not, I don't know. But, I don't think I believe in an all-powerful, interventionist god.



 
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Old Apr 5th, 2012, 20:39 PM   8
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RoccoBoxr, I also try to think similarly, that people are trying their best to be supportive and find meaning in difficult times when they offer religion-based comments. Makes me feel like an alien though! That's just not how I look at life and how it's all connected.



 
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Old Apr 6th, 2012, 05:33 AM   9
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readerwriter: thanks for sharing! Ive found myself in a long period of searching for faith which now at 25 I am only just beginning to become confident with. I always had a feeling that I really WANTED to believe in some all caring god and afterlife but no matter how hard I tried I knew that in the back of my mind I just did not and I had to be true to myself.

It can be really hard to accept and also hard to fit in! I know that people are well meaning with their religious "inspiration" but it still rubs me the wrong was to assume in such a multicultural world that I automatically share their beliefs.

So what will you guys do when parents? what will you teach your children about faith and how do you think your (possibly) religious family will react to your irreligiousity?



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Old Apr 6th, 2012, 06:12 AM   10
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I have no religion although I am, somewhat, spiritual. I don't believe in the Christian God and I cringe a little at the "God has a plan" type reasons for why I'm not pregnant yet. As with a previous poster, annovulation and low sperm count is why I'm not pregnant.

We will bring up our child(ren) the same way we were both raised - in a house that has no religion but allows everyone to figure out their own path.



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