Rant to everyone who says how much they'll help but really just want to hog my babies
I really want to put this on FB but I don't know if I'm actually going too. But I'm sick of being told all these people want to help me and how apparently that only applies to after the babies come so they can cuddle with my children.
It's nice that I have all these people who talk about helping me out so much, but don't worry I get it. You really don't care about helping me now when I need it too, you just care about babies. FYI, helping me with these babies does not mean you will be coming over for a nice visiting session where you actually do noting to help me but hog my children, so if this is what you all have in mind for "helping me" don't bother. If you really want to help me, you could start now while I can't hardly do anything, especially since I'm on restricted activity and am home by myself with my 3 year old all the time. Oh it's not just about babies, you actual want to help? Well then get to helping because there is a lot more to "helping" the cuddling with cute newborns.
I completely understand where your coming from. I am having twins and was just put on hospital bed rest and it amazes me the amount of people who promise to be there but think they have to be holding the twins to help.
Yea, they promise to be there and do "anything to help" but when it comes down to it, aren't doing anything! My mother lives 10 minutes away 10 MINUTES and hasn't been over my house for any reason, much less to help me with anything in probably at least 2 months! I shouldn't have to ask for her help when she's offered it, but when I do she makes excuses. She doesn't work and is ALWAYS home and I mean ALWAYS. She's sleeps all day and is up on facebook playing farmville all night, and I mean this literally. I keep asking her how if she sleeps all day and doesn't get out of this sleep patten how she's going to possibly help me with the babies when they are born, and all she says is she'll fix it before then, yea right.. I'm so sick of hearing "Oh I feel like my purpose in life right now is to help you with these babies" and apparently that means her purpose in life is to oogle over them when they are born.
I worked until 2 am the other day and asked her if she would mind coming the night so I could get a few extra hours sleep the next day because my son usually gets up at like 6, but she was too busy. Then I had to work the next night to until about 1am, and I can't nap during the day because my son doesn't usually nap anymore. It's not like I expect her or anyone else to come over and clean my house and do my laundry and make dinner every single night, but it would be nice if I had SOME help SOMETIMES. I'm not supposed to do laundry or dishes, bend or lift, basically the only difference between what I'm on and bed rest is that I don't have to be in bed and I can still work (for now). and my poor husband who works 40+ hours every single week tries to pick up the slack and do it all, along with the massive mess our toddler leaves every 2 seconds and I feel so guilty I end up doing things I'm not supposed to be doing.... Then I supposedly have all these friends who want to help.... but at least they aren't my family so it's not so hurtful....
I am so with u on this one. I too am gettin no help from family, im on the sick,oh works 12hr shifts so im left on my own to do everythin. My mam and dad live 5mins away and his live 10mins away yet none of them offer to help. Not even to pick up sone shoppin for me.
Yet i know fine well thar when isla and lilly make their appearance theyll never b away.
That will so pee me off. And under no circumstances is sitting hogging MY babies helpful. Doing my dishes, puttin a wash in thas help.
My friend who has twins said everyone said this to her... Then never showed up! Or just showed up once, then not again. She said she never let anyone hold them or anything, all she did was feed them and put them back to sleep again for the 1st month,(they were 37 weeks born) and barely got time to cuddle them herself! She said "If I cant cuddle/play with my babies, no one else can either"!
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