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Old Oct 29th, 2012, 10:41 AM   1
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Lost our baby girls:(


I found out at a prenatal appointment this morning that we lost our baby girls. My OB thinks it may have been due to blood clots in the placenta and umbilical cords, but I don't know that we'll ever know for sure. We've tried so hard for another healthy baby after our boys, but after this miscarriage DH and I are both done. Neither of us can handle the heartbreak of another loss. I was told I may never be able to have kids due to severe endometriosis if we waited, so I'm very thankful we had our sons. We'll always miss our little girls. I decided to be induced and deliver naturally so that I can spend some time with our babies and have the chance to say goodbye. DH wasn't able to come to my dr appt this morning and won't be able to be at their birth because things are so busy at work for him due to the hurricane. It just makes it that much harder, but I also feel like him not having to go through this like I am will make things easier for him, and he has his work as a distraction. I just feel so lost and numb. I wanted so badly for another baby and when we found out we were having twins I was overwhelmed at times, but so excited. We've decided to get permanent birth control, so that we never have to go through this again. DH said he's DONE and no more kids. I kind of feel that way a bit, but a part of my is so heartbroken that I feel like our family will always be missing someone.

We decided to name Baby A Grace Annabel and Baby B Paige Leanne.



 
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Old Oct 29th, 2012, 10:50 AM   2
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Oh no. I'm so sad for you. You and your whole family will be in my thoughts. Give those boys extra cuddles, and please take care of yourself and take the time needed to heal (physically and emotionally).



 
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Old Oct 29th, 2012, 10:53 AM   3
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So sorry for your loss x



 
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Old Oct 29th, 2012, 10:56 AM   4
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I am so sorry for the loss of beautiful Grace and Paige.

There is a thread in the stillbirth, neonatal loss section of things people did and/or wish they did when they met their baby, maybe have a read of it sweetie.

Also dont make a decision of permanent contraceptive just yet, any decent doctor wouldnt do anything just now any way but now is not the time to be making huge life changing decisions like that.



 
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Old Oct 29th, 2012, 10:56 AM   5
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Whaaaat.... Oh my goodness. I'm just speechless. My heart goes out to you and your family. I'm so SO sorry. This is just bloody unfair. I can't imagine the pain you're feeling. Be gentle on yourself and eachother. I hope with the passing of time, it becomes easier to accept.

Treasure those precious moments you'll get with your daughters at their birth.

Rest in peace Grace Annabel and Paige Leanne



 
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Old Oct 29th, 2012, 11:08 AM   6
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This is so shocking. I am soo sorry for your loss. And so sorry you have to go through it alone. Those are beautiful names and your girls know that they are loved forever. You and your family are in my thoughts.



 
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Old Oct 29th, 2012, 11:16 AM   7
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I'm so sorry, my heart aches for you. Please have someone go with you when you deliver Grave and Paige, you shouldn't go through that alone.

I agree with Tasha, you don't have to make a permanent decision right now. You and dh are hurting right now. Give yourselves time to heal first.



 
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Old Oct 29th, 2012, 11:19 AM   8
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My heart is broken for you, I am so deeply sorry for your losses

Thinking of you and Grace & Paige.. XOOXOXOX



 
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Old Oct 29th, 2012, 11:30 AM   9
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Thank you everyone. It was shocking for us too because everything seemed to have been going well and I have been taking my blood thinners as they were prescribed and following the doctors orders religiously. My doctor didn't have a whole lot of explanation, although I hadn't been feeling much movement the past several days and I had been feeling them quite a bit since 17-18 weeks. Hopefully after they're born we'll have some answers. I worry that it's because I started the pregnancy out underweight and still haven't gained much. I was still drinking caffine too, so maybe that had something to do with it.



 
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Old Oct 29th, 2012, 11:33 AM   10
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Oh no! im so so sorry for you and your families loss xxxxx Cant imagine now how you are feeling, the precious moments you get to spend with your girls will stay in your heart forever. Rest in Peace little angels xxxx



 
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