If u read my "ahhhh im so mad" and "do u know when everytjing just piles up" post youll have sn that things were about to kick off with my mil. Well now thay have. Hubby spoke to her last night. He was good, firm but fair but fair to her. She was horrendously awful about me. Everything is my fault-as i predicted-i could hear every word as she slagged me off!! Hubby stuxk up for me but in a sugar coated way. She continued her witch hunt and i was resorted to absolute tears. I cried for 3hrs solid. Proper sobs. I felt betrayed de-valued as a wife n nother n so hurt.
Anyway me n oh ended up in a big row as he felt he done his best but after seeing me in such a state realised that obviously there was a reason for me bein so upset.
He had arranged for a meeting on tue(wjich he was going to take day off work for), but ive told him ill not b there. I want nothin more to do with her. Ill b civil for kids under my terms but no more.
My mam n dad had to calm me down.
Well tonight it gets better, hes told her-firmer this time- that it was a a witch hunt, ive done nothin wrong, and laid out our feelings to her. She tried to slag me Again blaming me but he wouldnt have it. So she went lower than low. And said"abd yr grandad, i cant believe you never bothered to see him.before he died". He did!! To which he replied- " right u can fuck right off im goin to hang up now". Poor bugger n nasty bitch!!!! I expected a night of abuse but nothing.
Your MIL sounds horrific, poor you getting all this thrown at you! At least your OH is sticking up for you. I have never been in a situation like yours but didn't want to read and run, I can't offer advice but I can send some X
she does sound like a right nasty person! maybe this is what was needed to get it through to her your family won't be manipulated and after a spell maybe she will change her ways, but if not maybe its best she's out of the picture. your kids,oh, and you deserve better treatment that that.
This is great news. You have all you need now to sever all ties with the woman. Don't let her take any more of your power away. I wouldn't bother taking it any further...
This is what ive in a round about way told oh. I mean how is it ever going to be "normal" after all this?! It cant be. Im finished with her now its just up to him to decide now.
The only way it could be anywhere NEAR normal, is if she realised how horrible she has/is being and came to you with a sincere apology and a guarantee that she would change her behaviour... I don't see that happening.
Yea... we had a huge blowout with her a couple of months ago. She took it all the way back to when the girls were still in the nicu and we wouldn't let her hold the little one because she was still too fragile. Really??? Our families live out of town, and when we do visit, we stay at my moms with the girls because she has 2 cribs for them, diapers, everything we need is there. MIL has nothing. So she is mad bc we never stay at her house. Again, really? How petty can she be?? There was more crap too, but what it comes down to is she doesn't like how we're raising our children and won't see it any other way. We have seen her two times since the fight and it was weird both times. I cannot stand her even more because of this. Holidays will be oh so much fun!
My ex mil was like this too it came to a huge blow out where i was done with her and she was no longer allowed in my house. It was about a year before we even talked again, any dealings with her was done by my ex. eventually she did realize what i was saying was true and that i wouldn't put up with her crap like everyone else does and she did come to me with an apology. so we started out slowly and eventually we came to a point we were on better terms. Now she is a wonderful grandma to my kids and i have no issues with her. and eventually things did get back to not feeling weird and forced but it was a long road to get there. but if she hadn't changed how she acted and treated us and put in the effort to make things work i wouldn't have given her the chance to come back into our lives. as with any relationship it takes two and if she wasn't going to put in the effort to make it work It wasn't worth the stress and energy to waste on all that negativity for me.
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