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Old Aug 19th, 2015, 15:24 PM   1
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Twin biting...


frat twin boys...just turned 2...one of my boys bites and has been doing so for quite a while..he was also the hair puller when they were super young...anyway...its the smaller more energetic one that bites and the bigger but more docile one that gets it and refuses to bite back.....hes leaving marks..like..horrible you can see every tooth scraping marks...he never does it when we are in the room but it takes like 5 secs for us to be out and the other one is bitten...legs..arms..back..fingers..anywhere....its getting to be ridiculous...we do spank and I pop his butt and put him in his crib for timeout but it doesnt even phase him... I have a special needs LO as well so cant be in the room (completely baby proof and safe..just not bite proof lol lol)...he will go weeks without doing it and then bam few times in a row......any suggestions?



 
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Old Aug 19th, 2015, 17:52 PM   2
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We had a lot of problems with biting. I think it started around 19+ months but can't remember now. It started with one and the other didn't fight back then as they got older the other started too.

At the beginning I think it was a way of the one twin getting my attention and she didn't realise what she was doing as such just that it drew my attention (particularly if I was doing stuff in kitchen etc). As they got bigger it became more like fighting and bickering over toys would lead to biting.

It got worse for awhile and then they started to realise that it wasn't acceptable. And they often apologise straight away and offer to kiss it better. It does still happen but infrequently. I think it's just a phase but obviously a really ugly one.

We had some pretty bad bites that left blood blisters and bruises.

I think my main tips are to not leave them alone when they are highly stressed i.e. hungry, tired etc as this always seems to precede trouble and they are more inclined to get really frustrated. Obviously this is gonna happen sometimes though.

They way I deal with it is to say "we don't bite you have hurt your sister" and remove biter away a bit and spend lots of time and attention soothing bitten child. I then ask if they want to say sorry and usually they do straight away now and they mostly don't even need prompting now they just come up and say sorry and kiss the other twin. Then I just reinforce that "you don't do it again".

I think they only really started to "get it" at like 2.5 that it's really not ok. It takes some time for them to understand.

I prob wouldnt go down the spanking route as it sends out a mixed message about violence i.e. how it's not ok to bite but it is ok to hit in some circumstances. Sort of "do as I say not as I do". But biting is a particularly hard one to discipline I think because it's so dangerous - I swear mine could bite through a finger if provoked!

I think you should find it will improve with their reasoning improving. From what I remember from dates you are in the worst of it now!



 
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Old Aug 19th, 2015, 18:32 PM   3
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yeah its soo bad I almost wish the other would bite back because I think that might teach a lesson..but oh well..just deal with it as we can I guess lol lol..glad to know they eventally show remorse lol lol



 
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Old Aug 22nd, 2015, 12:50 PM   4
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Going through a lot of biting here and they are only 11 months and hardly have a few teeth They do it when excited, when angry, when jealous, as a way of giving a hug... I read there is a book out there that's called something like Teeth are not for biting, might give it a try, hoping mine will grow out of it X



 
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Old Aug 30th, 2015, 15:04 PM   5
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Mine started the biting around 13 months. I think it's a combo of not understanding that it hurts and has to do with teething.
I just tell them no, pop their hand or butt and tell them we don't bite, kiss the bite. That sort of thing. They are just now starting to realize it's wrong, but I still catch them trying to do it here and there. With time I think they will understand.



 
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Old Sep 4th, 2015, 16:03 PM   6
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My two boys bite each other and I don't think one biting back will necessarily teach the other it hurts and so not to do it. I haven't found the solution yet, but just this past weekend one bit the other so hard on his back that it left scabs. It didn't bleed, but it scabbed over. Usually the fight is over toys and one of them in particular is an instigator and will purposely take a toy just because he knows the other wants it. I do make them apologize before they can come out of time out. I can't wait until this stage is over.



 
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Old Sep 7th, 2016, 09:23 AM   7
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It is difficult to stop. i try teethers when i notice one biting a lot.



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