Hello All

I was just wondering if anyone ever had the same problem as myself.
I wanted to be a mother my entire life & now that its hear & i'm having 2 instead of 1, i can't help but feel scared.

I just broke down & cried asking myself how am i going to do this with TWO.
I read that when one has twins ur on ur feet 24/7 & that the first few months are worse than you could ever imagine.

How do i handle this?
I'm excited, by at times feel SOO overwhelmed!! Just thinking about it, my heart starts pounding out of my chest. What if i can't do it??

Anyone ever felt like this??

My first daughter was very colicky due to acid reflux and we had SUCH a hard time with her. The twins have been a BREEZE compared to how difficult it was with my first, so to me, it really isn't THAT bad. Sure you have to feed TWO babies instead of one, and change TWO babies instead of one, but otherwise I really haven't felt like it is DOUBLE the work. Heck, my hubby and I said the other day, if we knew having another child would be this easy, we would have had one a few years ago (and we ended up with two this time)...

Don't freak yourself out, it isn't bad. Tiring at first, but manageable for sure. My girls are 12wks today and they are starting to sleep through the night now, so only a few weeks of being super tired. :-)

Ohh I was so where you are- I think the combination of not knowing what its like to be a parent along with the fact that ITS TWO OMG OMFG ITS TWO! lol just blows you away.

Just try not to think about it would be my advice - its amazing how instinct kicks in and you just do it. I have to pinch myself sometimes when I am doing it and I think doing it bloody well - even if I do say so myself.

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The twins were my first so I had no experience really at being a parent. My sister had my niece who is now 5 but I think you cant use that as experience cos when its your own its a completely different experience!

I was so worried but excited too, I wanted to be the best mum I could and I thought ahh this will be hard and what am I going to do.
Well I am still here to tell my story and its hard but the rewards outweigh that!
The girls were born early and that was a struggle but as a mum you find the strength and you just battle on through.

Do what YOU feel comfortable with. I started by feeding 4 hourly but it didnt suit us so I changed it myself. I fed on demand and this worked best for us, I fed them at seperate times and changed them at seperate times. This way I managed to actually get out the house. I went back to work when the girls were 4 months old and they went to nursery, They have loved their space from me and I have too, I always tell anyone if you have help available use it. Its a great thing. My mum and dad are great and OH mum and dad are too, they will have the girls for us anytime. We just get on with what needs doing whether its a big clean up of the house or going out together and having some 'us' time.

Your going to have two babies who are going to share something special. They will have each other and sometimes they may use that against you but you will be just fine and you will soon learn to handle them and find your own ways!

I have learnt if I take the girls food shopping OH has to be there. If OH is not there I leave them with either my mum or his mum! We also have our own time. OH goes to football and I go to slimming world and to see my friend. Its nice that we share our parenting, makes it that much more enjoyable!

Hi hun - this anxiety is perfectly normal, and a sign that you are already going to be a brilliant mum!

I have 4 kids, the most recent were my twins, and I have to echo what lady potter said that these have been my easiest babies. A combination of experience and chilled out bubbas I think. One twin is more difficult to settle, but my first baby was soooo difficult that I learnt how to deal with grumpy babies

The first 3 months are tiring, but it does get easier and is short lived. My advice - recruit all the help you can and get babies into a good routine from day 1. Feed and wake them at the same time, and quite quickly you'll get into your stride hun.

I was terrified for the first 3 months of this twin pregnancy, the hormones made me very depressed about the whole thing, but very quickly you'll find that that passes and you start to get excited. We're all here to help and support you my sweet, so keep in touch x

Dawn, i was EXACTLY the same. In the scan room at 9 weeks, when she said there were twins i freaked out. I was shaking, crying and just couldn't believe what she was saying to me. I was kind of upset, didn't understand how there were 2 when id only been imagining 1. I felt awful. I was wondering how the hell i will cope with 2, financially, mentally and physically.

But now i can not tell you how excited and blessed i feel. They aren't here yet (so maybe my feelings will change, lol) But honestly it is just SUCH an amazing thing that has happened to us. We WILL get through it, of course things will be hard, especially at the begiunning, but with double the work comes double the love, double the smiles and double the hugs.

Keep positive, strength of mind is everything, and you will be able to do it. And as people keep reminding me 'Wow, you get 2 for the pain of 1!' xx

Hello
Thanks everyone for your replies. Its good to know that my anxieties are normal & other felt it. So weird how many of you say that your twins were easier than ur single babies. A friend of mine said the same thing.


Vicky u nailed it when u said....... the combination of not knowing what its like to be a parent along with the fact that ITS TWO OMG OMFG ITS TWO! lol just blows you away.

I read a thread on here from a lady that said really scary things & thats all i keep thinking about. She said something like the first few months are 100x worse than u could ever imagine & she wishes that she never had her babies. All they do is cry all day long & her life is a total mess, etc. Scared the crap out of me!

But thanks again for all ur replies!
I really appreciate it.
I do have the support of my OH & my parents & niece & nephew who just live 1 miles away from me. I'm sure i'll do fine, the first few months just scare the heck out of me.

well I can honestly say I have NEVER EVER for one second wished I didnt have the boys xxxxxxxxxxxxxx

It is very very very empowering too I use the experience every day - when I was at the gym doing a REALLY hard class I wanted to rest but thought I gave birth to twins ffs I can do this lol

hahah Vicky! haha
No i could never wish not having my babies either, even though they aren't hear yet.
I can't imagine it being so bad that someone would wish that!

Vicky do you have a OH, or DH or are u doing all this solo?

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I read a thread on here from a lady that said really scary things & thats all i keep thinking about. She said something like the first few months are 100x worse than u could ever imagine & she wishes that she never had her babies. All they do is cry all day long & her life is a total mess, etc. Scared the crap out of me!
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Wow i missed that thread! Yes first few weeks are hard work but i for one have NEVER thought that i wished i never had them! They are my miracle! I look at them and i;m just filled with awe and so much love for them that all the hard work is sooo worth it. you will be fine hun - just take it one day at a time and take all the help given. and remember, they are a blessing xx