I think I have gotten so used to feeling so big and miserable, I forgot what being normal is like... like, jumping out of bed in the morning, or being able to hold my pee until arrive to my destination, you know... normal.
I wanna know how did you FEEL after delivering twins? The answer can be how you felt physically, emotionally, or both. Can you describe the feeling the moment the babies came out (c section or otherwise)? What about a week after their birth? Do you even remember feeling tired or miserable once they are born?
There really is no wrong way to answer this question, as everone is unique and I just LOVE reading all about your experiences. My c section is in 10 days and I really could go into labor anytime since I am considered full term this week. I guess I am just lookin for some motivation to get me through the last push (hahahaha, pun intended!)
I had my twins naturally and I remember just bursting into tears after having them! But I think it was actually from shear relief all that pressure on my ribcage just disappeared!!! Then those first few hours I just stared at them I would like to say with joy but I think it was more disbelief!! I had 2 babies!!!!obviously I knew this while pregnant but once they were there reality kicked in!
Physically I felt brilliant I could move around again and see my toes!!
Pure joy on hearing the girls take their first cries.............but
I have to say I hated the birth - c section - and next day as I just didnt' feel they were anything to do with me as the midwives/childrens nurses were doing everything and I just felt like I was watching from the sidelines - wasn't allowed off the bed for 48hours as my urine output wasn't enough and they wouldn't take out the cathetar so I didn't get to do anything with them bar a few hugs when they were given to me to hold (felt like very rarely that happened as they were small we were told to leave them alone and that they needed their sleep - I wanted to curl up in a ball and just cry. 50% of midwives were nice the rest really weren't! I did a lot of crying in that time! I wish now I'd have had a natural delivery and been able to take my girls home and look after them with hubby. Sorry to sound down about it but that's my truth! I love my girls to the end of the earth but just wish the whole experience had been nicer. I'd never been in hospital before for me so was petrified even beforehand.
I also tried to breastfeed the girls and they wouldn't latch so felt like a failure there too. Stayed in hospital for 10days trying to get this to work - wish I'd have just given a bottle earlier and got home quicker - they were saying don't give a bottle if you want to breast feed so I tried and tried and tried with them still being tubed....
Sorry you asked for how we felt and for brutal honesty.
I hope you have a better time than I did! my best wishes to you x
I had mine by csec and knew they were going to be taken straight to SCBU so had kinda prepared myself to have a fleeting glance of them. I had got myself in a bit of shock about the csec so it was a bit strange when I saw these two little faces presented to me. OH was crying, I was just shaking (prob from shock) but I saw beautiful little faces and thought "they can't possibly be mine".
Same as Ahbon I kinda felt like I wasn't really a Mum for 24-48hours as I didn't get to go to SCBU till night (I had them at 10.00am) and in the meantime I was sat on a ward with 3 other Mums with their babies all cooing over them and I was sat reading in bed (the joy!) with only balloons floating up from my bed stating I had a boy and girl
When they came home the word that described me was KNACKERED it is tiring when they want feeding every 3 hours and especially if they wake up at different times like mine did as they had introduced that in SCBU as they can't deal with two babies wanting food at the same time.
BUT as I said on another thread, days become weeks and weeks become months and it gets easier. Mine are being cool at the moment, bed at 8.00pm now (I'm making it earlier each couple of weeks) and sleeping till 5am so I get time with OH at night and we get a decent sleep. I LOVE looking at the smiley little faces on a morning when they get their bottle and they know they are staying up with Mummy. When they get personalities it's mega
Physically I was in pain for about 4-5days with the csec, I personally felt they sent me home too early. But it was prob my own fault as the lift was broke at the hospital so I was walking the long way round to SCBU three times a day. I was later told when they say "walk about" they mean to the bathroom and back not a ten min trip to the other side of the hospital so bear that in mind, GET A WHEELCHAIR!
Other than that, getting back into my skinny jeans was BLISS!!!! Being able to run up and downstairs, jump in the car, go shopping!! All the things you take for granted suddenly become amazing. I remember getting back in my car 6 weeks post op, OH had the babies at home and I went to go get some shopping, I turned my music up full blast, put my foot down and sped down the road in the sun and FINALLY felt like me again
All the best hunny you will be fine, I know you will xx
i was an absolute state from about an hour after they were born - i gave birth naturally - but hearing their first cries --- you honestly cant describe it. its so overwhelming - and although it sounds a bit mushy you just get this unbelievable sense of love and happiness and everything else thats going on around you just dissapears for a few seconds...
then you get 4.5 months in and they are screaming at you... ARGG lol
I gave birth vaginally and the moment twin one came out I just burt into tears. I was just so happy and relieved that he was crying and healthy. Then I continued to cry after twin two arrived four minutes later. I was a title scared about having a normal delivery as I was told by some that identical twins are at rish of ttts while being delivered (don't quite understand how, ESP as they did have it while I was pregnant), so I was just so relieved they were fine. I fell in love with them instantly. I just couldn't get over the fact that I had twins. But the newborn stage was hard work and I felt physically, emotionally and mentally drained. I think the worst thing for me is that I just couldn't give my eldest the attention and love he needed. I felt so drained that if he wanted cuddles or kisses or to talk to me, I just kept telling him I'm tired and to leave me be. I didn't mean to, but looking back, I can see I was pushing him away and I feel so guilty for that. I also would panic if I was left with the twins completely alone. I felt that I wouldn't be able to cope if there wasn't someone there with me. Physically I was ok. Things got back to normal pretty quickly. I could see my toes again! I could bend to pick things up! I could sit without feeling like my organs were being crushed! I write a blog about the twins and would often write about my feelings there to offload so feel free to have a read Hun, it best describes what i was going through. The link is below.
You all are so amazing and I appreciate each and every response. I was just explaining to my hubby that I dont remember what it feels like to be UNAWARE of my ribcage. I am so used to their movements that I no longer feel half of them (this usually puts me in a state of panic every evening because I think they havent moved all day) and I HAAAATTTE not being able to clean my own house to my standards... my hubby tries but its not the same.
I am still in a state of shock that I came as far as I did. Having TTTS, we were given a pretty grim prognosis and I thank all that is holy that I still have BOTH my boys. I dont want to appear as if I am complaining, I'm not. I have just been so sick and so tired since 5 weeks gestation that I now realize I took so much for granted. I am looking forward to that moment when they pull the babies out and I can breathe deeply for the first time in months!
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