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Old Feb 11th, 2012, 12:30 PM   1
Mrs R
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How to manage naughty behaviour?


Experienced mummies, please help!!

My twins are 16 months, and my boy is becoming a handful. He is a typical boy and much more boisterous than his sister. He has started getting quite rough with her and frequently grabs her hair or clothes and makes her scream bloody murder lol He has also started throwing toys, throwing himself about etc

When I tell him off he just laughs. I know he's wee to understand that he's done wrong and shouting is pointless.
So what should I do?? When he does it, we try to make him rub his sisters hair to show him to be gentle, but that doesn't work with throwing toys or himself about.

DH and I are quite strict and this is really frustrating for me!

Any suggestions



 
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Old Feb 12th, 2012, 06:23 AM   2
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I hate to throw this out to ya and then run, but I was just up to pee.

Have you ever heard of Love & Logic? It's a fantastical philosophy for raising children as well as students (I'm a teacher--no kids of my own yet). So, obviously I'm not an 'experienced mom', but just wanted to offer what works for me, my students, my youth group kids, my camp kids, my younger cousins and the parents and teachers I've trained.

However, I thoroughly respect that I've never dealt with my own children. Just trying to help... Hopefully, you'll get great advice from the experienced mommies! Great luck!!



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Old Feb 12th, 2012, 10:49 AM   3
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hi im anursery nurse so may be able to help a little, as they are still qiute young tthere are limited startegies to use but here goes.
yr doing right by teaching him the "gentle kind hands approach" when he goes to hurt her. keep this up. when he does hurt her pick her up or fusss over her and say ah poor ....... youve hurt her, but ignore him. alot of unwanted behavior is attantion seeking and any attention is good attention. hell eventually learn that if he hurts her she is the one who gets attention not him, also i wouldnt emphasise the sorry business as hes very young but ask him to hug her or rub her better then praise him for doing so

as for the throwing toys this is qiute normal in one yr olds so dont worry too much, the best thing to do is either ignore it which can be hard to do if it is causing a problem, or say no when he does it "no throw" "play nice" then show him how to play with it. if he persists in throwing a toy then take it away from him, then when he stops the behavior praise him and return the toy. babies of one yr to 3 can only understand the last few things you say so if you say "ah no ...... thats not nice you dont do that" hell prob here "do that." which is why its best to use phrases of few words such as "no throw, no hit, kind hands" always show him how you want him to play with things, children dont always know how to play and often need to be shown.
they also love praise and do well from it, really emphasise it, clap hands fuss over him etc.
hope this helps
(ive 12 yrs in the job working from birth to 5.)



 
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Old Feb 17th, 2012, 08:27 AM   4
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Thanks for this. Will give it a go



 
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