I so agree with you Fidgets Mammy I actually think I burnt myself in the end. I started partying at 16 and finished partying at hmmmmmm probably 29. I never thought I would ever have children, I always used to say "if I haven't had them by 35 I'm not having any" and to be honest it never phased me, I never had broody moments, I was just bothered about having a sports car, having a tan and nice nails and having my hair highlighted once a month. Looking back now I never thought I was so superficial but now after becoming a Mum, me and OH coping on the breadline, no tan, no nails, grey hair coming through............ I never been happier Nothing matters to me like that anymore, I can barely be bothered to stick my make up on most days those two little people have changed me so much I even "feel" like a kinder more considerate person nowadays and I actually love the person I am now instead of the drunken, argumentative, dolly daydream I used to be xx

He he that was me. I used to live for nights out, spent a fortune on clothes always looked immaculate. Lnow i dye my own hair get it cut once a blue moon and spend all my money on finn. And i toovhave a different outlook. My oh wasvthe same. We were both popular and made the most of it. Yet now we adore our life and people say werevthe perfect family. My friend told me that im the mam she looks yp to be like. That makes me so happy. People used to want my hair cut or shoes. Ha ha.

How old are you now fidgetsmammy? I am just gone 27 and will have 4 kids! Not the life I expected but when I was 20 I was married and started trying for my 1st baby at age 21 thinking it could take up to a year to fall pregnant.... 2 weeks later I got a bfp! I actually take more care with my appearance now than I ever have because before kids I was a bit over weight and clothes were just there to cover my flaws. Then after kids I got thinner and LOVE clothes now!! Well not so much right now obviously but in general!

im 30. 31 this yr. i still get asked for i.d though. i got married last yr after 7 yrs together to my soul mate. we used to play together as kids then got together when i was 21, he left me for someone else, and i never got over him, i went out with other people but it never worked, i told people that hed one day realise i was the for him(i didnt believe it), and hed come back. he did!! i was amazed, everyone said i was a fool to take him back, only a few people told me to go for it, well weve never bn apart in 7yr, have finn who is 5 and twins on the way so i guess somethings are meant to be.

i still take care of myself, i have to my oh is stunning, but i dont spend the selfish amounts i used to. i put make up on every day and ensure my clothes match, but catch me ona bad day and god im a clip.

i think my life just has a meaning now, i honestly was a bit wild, out thurs fri sat and sun nights, go to work come home, go to bed and do it all again. oh was the same, he was a bar manager and got LOADS of attention and knew it, i was the pretty cute (hate cute)girl, a bit stuck up at times, so i suppose we fitted well.

im still a bit stuck up-ha ha -well standards i call them-but we laugh at how we used to be. my oh is a much nicer person now than he was.

go back ten yrs and i would never had guessed id have 3 children. but i wouldnt channge a thing.

Just seen this - you are truly blessed Chetnaz - congratulations! We would love to have another 1/2/3 etc but highly unlikely

Thank you ahbon, I feel blessed. X

are u going to find out whatsex the baby is?

Yep, I'm too impatient not to. I found out with all my boys too. Although I've decided I'm not going to tell anyone. I want to be able to announce the baby's gender with the bit announcement. I have my first scan tomorrow morning, can't wait!

Good luck for ur scan

Hope you have a good scan!!!