I've been a mom since March 12th, 2012. I was scared to death because I didn't feel like I was remotely ready to take on a baby, let alone two!!
We adopted the boys at 9 weeks old. (well, not officially but for the sake of making this journal easier we'll just say that they are adopted and leave it at that )
The first few days were the hardest, we were trying to follow advice from other moms and my mother was trying to help but things are so different than when she raised hers that it was difficult to gets things into a nice flow. DH and I were overwhelmed and completely exhausted. But after a week we were able to get some semblance of our life back together. We could cook and eat a meal, though not always together and most of the time it was cold.
After 2 weeks we are really getting things down. We can tell who's crying and why... it really is amazing that you can tell this. Nights are easier now that we assign a baby for each of us. The rule is you only have to truly wake up (get out of bed) when "your" baby cries. So nights are much easier. We've also learned that noise is our friend. We always have music, the TV, or the white noise machine going so that the boys feel more comfortable and aren't startled awake by every little noise. We read "The Happiest Baby on the Block" and really take the "S's" to heart. We swaddle, sush, swing, and let them suck to their hearts content. I no longer treat them like little ice sculptures afraid to break them or make them cry. And it's been the best thing for our "fussy" one because it really helps his gas and discomfort to be moved around vigorously, yes I said vigorously. I'm not being rough with him, I'm helping him to work through his discomfort. And I know what it feels like to be colicky and what makes me feel better and vigorous movement works wonders
I feel so much more confident in being a momma now that I've been put into the thick of it. Now I think that having just one baby would be an absolute breeze Maybe one day I'll get to experience that
Sorry this first entry was supposed to be all about gushy feelings of love and wonder, but I have Jackson (the "fussy" one) in my arms and he's demanding some bouncing time so that's where my mind went. Never thought I'd have my own parenting journal, but here I am. I hope I'm here to stay!
What a heart warming story Even more of shock having newborn twins 'land in your laps' out of the blue than It is having 9mths to prepare for the arrivals. I have such admiration and respect for your obvious strength and determination - you seem so calm and collected for new parents. Those two little boys have a very positive future thanks to you both
I was a bit of a shock to have twins come our way We've been wanting a baby for 3 years and though there was a chance for twins with IVF, we never really thought about the reality of it. I guess we might have missed out on the really tough first 2 months, but 9 week old twins just magicked into our lives was amazing and then so so hard.
I just got Jacob down for a nap, DH had Jackson down about 15 minutes ago. They are on a similar schedule though not exactly which makes it a lot easier to handle. I put Jacob in the bumbo seat today and he was sitting up like a champ, though he only lasted about 3 minutes until he was bored and wanted to move on. He seems to be developing faster than Jackson and I think it has to do with the amount of interaction they received from earlier in their lives. We've been doing our best to give Jackson lots and lots of face time and skink to skin contact to help him form bonds with us. So far we've seen a vast improvement in his reactions to me since the skin to skin session a few days after we got him.
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