Looking for a bit of support please tell me this is normal....

Kielee · Apr 7th, 2012, 13:04 PM

Iv been having a freak out all day on and off....

It's really hitting me in just over a weeks time im going to be a mum and not just one but two

So many things are going round my head, what if they hate me and gang up on me, what if im a bad mum, what if I don't know what they want....What if what if what if.

My OH isn't freaking out at all, his mum had a breakdown when he was 14 so he looked after his baby sister up until she was about 3. He did the night feeds and nappy changes, baths the lot...

Please tell me im not alone because right now I feel like im failing already

x

IrishDaddy. · Apr 7th, 2012, 14:36 PM

HI

Im not a mum im soon to be a dad but all you can do is keep your head up high and your babyies will love you as much as you will love them.
And i know what your talking about but you will be a verry good mom

And you wont be alone because id say your OH will be there for you the whole way through ...

Kielee · Apr 7th, 2012, 14:37 PM

Thank you

x

ems1 · Apr 7th, 2012, 15:38 PM

Ahh you will be amazing!!! My twin boys are my first and I had all the same worries as you. Your babies will love you just for being their mummy. I know it seems daunting but they will let u know what they want, I can tell which baby is crying through the baby monitors!! My boys gang up on me to give me hugs and kisses and it the best thing ever, and we all gang up on daddy to tickle him. Best of luck for the birth. Xx

Kielee · Apr 7th, 2012, 15:40 PM

Thanks Hun, it's very daunting I never been so prepared and unprepared for something in my whole life lol xx

ems1 · Apr 7th, 2012, 15:56 PM

I know exactly how u feel. My boys surprised me and arrived at 33 weeks so it was even more daunting than I was expecting. It's hard work but amazing. You will love being a twin mummy. x

Kielee · Apr 7th, 2012, 15:58 PM

Wow early then, it's such a hard thing to get your head around x

mechanica · Apr 7th, 2012, 16:05 PM

I think it's perfectly normal to freak out but honestly you will be fine, especially if your husband is useful! The first few weeks are tiring but it gets better and you learn to read your babies' cues! You will be a wonderful mummy - just the fact that you're worried about it shows that!

Kielee · Apr 7th, 2012, 16:06 PM

Thank you, all of you ladies make me feel so much better about things x

IrishDaddy. · Apr 7th, 2012, 16:28 PM

no problem

Apr 7th, 2012, 13:04 PM	#1
Kielee Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Sep 2011 Location: Lincolnshire Posts: 914	Looking for a bit of support please tell me this is normal.... Iv been having a freak out all day on and off.... It's really hitting me in just over a weeks time im going to be a mum and not just one but two So many things are going round my head, what if they hate me and gang up on me, what if im a bad mum, what if I don't know what they want....What if what if what if. My OH isn't freaking out at all, his mum had a breakdown when he was 14 so he looked after his baby sister up until she was about 3. He did the night feeds and nappy changes, baths the lot... Please tell me im not alone because right now I feel like im failing already x

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IrishDaddy. Father to be Active BnB Member Join Date: Apr 2012 Location: ireland Posts: 22	HI Im not a mum im soon to be a dad but all you can do is keep your head up high and your babyies will love you as much as you will love them. And i know what your talking about but you will be a verry good mom And you wont be alone because id say your OH will be there for you the whole way through ...

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Kielee Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Sep 2011 Location: Lincolnshire Posts: 914	Thank you x

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ems1 Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Apr 2010 Location: UK Posts: 292	Ahh you will be amazing!!! My twin boys are my first and I had all the same worries as you. Your babies will love you just for being their mummy. I know it seems daunting but they will let u know what they want, I can tell which baby is crying through the baby monitors!! My boys gang up on me to give me hugs and kisses and it the best thing ever, and we all gang up on daddy to tickle him. Best of luck for the birth. Xx

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Apr 7th, 2012, 15:40 PM	#5
Kielee Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Sep 2011 Location: Lincolnshire Posts: 914	Thanks Hun, it's very daunting I never been so prepared and unprepared for something in my whole life lol xx

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Apr 7th, 2012, 15:56 PM	#6
ems1 Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Apr 2010 Location: UK Posts: 292	I know exactly how u feel. My boys surprised me and arrived at 33 weeks so it was even more daunting than I was expecting. It's hard work but amazing. You will love being a twin mummy. x

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Kielee Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Sep 2011 Location: Lincolnshire Posts: 914	Wow early then, it's such a hard thing to get your head around x

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mechanica Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Oct 2010 Location: UK Posts: 326	I think it's perfectly normal to freak out but honestly you will be fine, especially if your husband is useful! The first few weeks are tiring but it gets better and you learn to read your babies' cues! You will be a wonderful mummy - just the fact that you're worried about it shows that!

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Kielee Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Sep 2011 Location: Lincolnshire Posts: 914	Thank you, all of you ladies make me feel so much better about things x

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IrishDaddy. Father to be Active BnB Member Join Date: Apr 2012 Location: ireland Posts: 22	no problem

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