she wont move them into two cots what to do

mummytochloe · Apr 16th, 2012, 05:26 AM

I have a friend with twins, they are 7 to 8 months old and one or both of them can now roll. She only has one cot and is refusing to move them into seperate cots i thought by this age they needed to be in 2 cots or am i wrong, i just dont wanna risk anything happenign to her boys.

Eternal · Apr 16th, 2012, 05:49 AM

I think its her choice, I know plenty of twin mummys who kept them in the same cots until they were standing on each other. It might seem odd to a singleton mum, but most twin mums find their babies settled better together, in hospital theu automatically put them together and they have been together ever since, i will seperate them at some point but not until they are ready for it.

I think she would be offended if you said something, I would be annoyed to be honest because i firmly beleive unless your a twin mum you cant understand, twins have been together in the womb they have a special bond, and each set will be different, unless any actual harm was coming to them I dont see the issue, mine are only 4 months but dont bother each other, if they were hurting each other then i would seperate, but I see no need to yet.

lizziedripping · Apr 16th, 2012, 05:51 AM

Hi there. If the babies are happy sharing and sleep well together, then one shared cot is fine.

One of my friends still had her twins in a Moses basket at a yr old which was risky because they were tightly packed in there and there was a risk of suffocation. However a cot is large enough to accommodate two so long as they have plenty of room around them which they probably have.

My boys were too big to share a travel cot after 5wks so had seperate cots from then. It worked well for us. I'd have been happy for them to share tho if they hadn't constantly disturbed one another by kicking out constantly lol x

mummytochloe · Apr 16th, 2012, 05:52 AM

Thanks, even her HV have said they need to be in 2 cots to her, ive not said anything yet she told me thats what hv said, but they are still together, thats why im a bit worried. Her cot is smaller than a normal cot, it doesnt convert into a bed, i can discribe how much smaller but its smaller then my daughters cot

clarebo9 · Apr 16th, 2012, 05:57 AM

My twins (boy and girl) have just turned 12 and I often find my daughter sleeping at the end of her brothers bed. They still like the closeness

Eternal · Apr 16th, 2012, 06:01 AM

one of the hv who saw me was feel freaked by my twin sharing, she had never dealt with twins before, she went on and on about it and finally contacted several of her collegues who told her it was fine. she backed off then. Most HVs havent seen many if any twins so take what they say with a pinch of salt, the point is, what is the harm? why is it such an issue? I make sure mine have plenty of space, i use sleeping bags and remove all cot bumpers etc, toys etc so they are safe.

mummytochloe · Apr 16th, 2012, 06:04 AM

thanks very much the only reason ive thought it may be as many people before have told me it is now ive spoken to some twinnie mums i know its fine, and i can tell her to ignore her hv, i didnt want to advice either way until i knew

_Vicky_ · Apr 16th, 2012, 08:58 AM

Most HV have never dealt with twins tbh I know mine hadn't. My boys LOVE being together and now they are in beds we had to push them together as they would always end up both in one. They seem to have a special knack for avoiding each other too - I only separated mine in cots because fynn was sickly and I ended up cleaning two babies up in the night! Yhey are always much happier together xxx

Eternal · Apr 16th, 2012, 09:01 AM

Well tell her to be careful, and trust her instincts, your a mum, you know that mummy knows best.

chan8180 · Apr 17th, 2012, 15:24 PM

I know twins who shared still at 12 months, it was all arms and legs entwined but she had zero sleep problems with them unlike my two who were seperated at 5 months.

Apr 16th, 2012, 05:26 AM	#1
mummytochloe Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Apr 2010 Location: Midlands Posts: 9,243	she wont move them into two cots what to do I have a friend with twins, they are 7 to 8 months old and one or both of them can now roll. She only has one cot and is refusing to move them into seperate cots i thought by this age they needed to be in 2 cots or am i wrong, i just dont wanna risk anything happenign to her boys.

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Eternal Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: Swansea, Wales Posts: 8,004	I think its her choice, I know plenty of twin mummys who kept them in the same cots until they were standing on each other. It might seem odd to a singleton mum, but most twin mums find their babies settled better together, in hospital theu automatically put them together and they have been together ever since, i will seperate them at some point but not until they are ready for it. I think she would be offended if you said something, I would be annoyed to be honest because i firmly beleive unless your a twin mum you cant understand, twins have been together in the womb they have a special bond, and each set will be different, unless any actual harm was coming to them I dont see the issue, mine are only 4 months but dont bother each other, if they were hurting each other then i would seperate, but I see no need to yet.

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Apr 16th, 2012, 05:51 AM	#3
lizziedripping Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Oct 2008 Location: Leicester, UK Posts: 3,675	Hi there. If the babies are happy sharing and sleep well together, then one shared cot is fine. One of my friends still had her twins in a Moses basket at a yr old which was risky because they were tightly packed in there and there was a risk of suffocation. However a cot is large enough to accommodate two so long as they have plenty of room around them which they probably have. My boys were too big to share a travel cot after 5wks so had seperate cots from then. It worked well for us. I'd have been happy for them to share tho if they hadn't constantly disturbed one another by kicking out constantly lol x

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Apr 16th, 2012, 05:52 AM	#4
mummytochloe Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Apr 2010 Location: Midlands Posts: 9,243	Thanks, even her HV have said they need to be in 2 cots to her, ive not said anything yet she told me thats what hv said, but they are still together, thats why im a bit worried. Her cot is smaller than a normal cot, it doesnt convert into a bed, i can discribe how much smaller but its smaller then my daughters cot

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clarebo9 Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: east england Posts: 260	My twins (boy and girl) have just turned 12 and I often find my daughter sleeping at the end of her brothers bed. They still like the closeness

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Apr 16th, 2012, 06:01 AM	#6
Eternal Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: Swansea, Wales Posts: 8,004	one of the hv who saw me was feel freaked by my twin sharing, she had never dealt with twins before, she went on and on about it and finally contacted several of her collegues who told her it was fine. she backed off then. Most HVs havent seen many if any twins so take what they say with a pinch of salt, the point is, what is the harm? why is it such an issue? I make sure mine have plenty of space, i use sleeping bags and remove all cot bumpers etc, toys etc so they are safe.

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Apr 16th, 2012, 06:04 AM	#7
mummytochloe Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Apr 2010 Location: Midlands Posts: 9,243	thanks very much the only reason ive thought it may be as many people before have told me it is now ive spoken to some twinnie mums i know its fine, and i can tell her to ignore her hv, i didnt want to advice either way until i knew

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Apr 16th, 2012, 08:58 AM	#8
_Vicky_ Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: May 2009 Location: Derbyshire - UK Posts: 7,315	Most HV have never dealt with twins tbh I know mine hadn't. My boys LOVE being together and now they are in beds we had to push them together as they would always end up both in one. They seem to have a special knack for avoiding each other too - I only separated mine in cots because fynn was sickly and I ended up cleaning two babies up in the night! Yhey are always much happier together xxx

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Apr 16th, 2012, 09:01 AM	#9
Eternal Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: Swansea, Wales Posts: 8,004	Well tell her to be careful, and trust her instincts, your a mum, you know that mummy knows best.

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Apr 17th, 2012, 15:24 PM	#10
chan8180 Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Sep 2010 Posts: 270	I know twins who shared still at 12 months, it was all arms and legs entwined but she had zero sleep problems with them unlike my two who were seperated at 5 months.

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