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Old Aug 16th, 2015, 02:22 AM   11
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Oh, side note, just saw your location and oddly enough my brother is moving to your area from cleveland in the next month or so (government job). He's checking out some apartment on the island in the bay (??? Can't remember the name but maybe you know what I'm talking about) and working in the city.



 
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Old Aug 16th, 2015, 11:36 AM   12
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He likes his job for his degree. That's why his boss is forcing him to go get all of these certifications, so that he can move into more of the technical aspect. He also wants to go back to get an MBA in a couple of years. My issue is I did all of that already. I have my M.S., and I'm working for one of the top districts in the area. And seeing as how I have to physically carry the baby and do all that, I don't see why it stresses him out so much. Idk. He has Aspergers so that's what I signed up for.

I'm so sorry to hear that. 10-11 day periods sound awful! That was the one thing I enjoyed about my IUD/ post iud. Most women get heavier, longer flows. I went down to 2-3 days of lighter than usual flow. Why are they so hesitant to do the surgery?

I know what island you are talking about, but I am blanking on the name. It's a really great area (SF Bay) to live. It is outrageously expensive. How is his apartment hunting going? The market is very seller/ landlord friendly right now. I know friends of friends who have been outbid hundreds of thousands when offering above asking price, seen houses on then off the market in days, and rent is just skyrocketing. It is crazy. SO and I rent half a duplex from my parents, so we don't have to deal with it. But we're trying to get this townhouse and it's so stressful. I've had many friends throw their hands up and move to Portland or Austin.



 
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Old Aug 16th, 2015, 18:53 PM   13
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House hunting sucks. I love looking at all the houses but the buying process (bidding and all that) is the most stressful emotional roller coaster ever. Our market when we bought our first house was insane. We had 3-4 offers we were outbid on before we got our house. We had seen several others we wanted to offer on but the seller was not taking any more because there were just so many offers already. And we saw more than I could count....so i feel you.

Though rent for a one bedroom in northern va is about 1500-1800 for an average place. I know it's easily 700 more where you are...my brother and his fiance are going to rent the one bedroom place that is about 2200 a month if i remember correctly, which is a tough pill for him to swallow (he was renting a townhouse for about 1600 in Cleveland).

I was so hopeful about the IUD but knew i'd probably not be able to get it i'm not sure why they won't take my uterus. My thought is as long as an individual knows the consequences and consents to the surgery, why should the surgeons care the reason behind it? I mean i'm not asking for some weird experimental procedure....

So...back to obsessing...my cervix is still being weird. It's super high (couldn't reach the os this morning, now i barely can and it seems slightly squishy and open, which, again, i reported about 7dpo last time). Cm is thick/creamy. Ok, i admit it, i'm having fun obsessing



 
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Old Aug 16th, 2015, 20:42 PM   14
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Yikes, I can't imagine reaching a point of so many offers you don't even want to look at another lol. Glad it all worked out though!

Yeah, it's insane out here. It used to just be the tech heavy cities, but once everything blew up and engineers started moving out of the tech area into the suburbs/ forgotten cities now everywhere is expensive. I've grown up here and went to school in LA, so the rent situation is nothing new to me. But I can't imagine moving into it from somewhere else where 2k was a house mortgage or got you a mansion. I know a 1 bedroom apartment in the city I teach recently sold for almost $2 mil.

Be thankful you can't have an IUD. Having my IUD, for just 3 months, was the worst decision I ever made. I really regret putting it in and I will NEVER get another one unless I know I'm done having kids.

Yeah, I know they are liable for stuff but if you know the risks and consent they should do it anyway. Sorry to hear that. Hope that you find a surgeon when the time comes.

Haha obsess away. Wish I could help you obsess, but I don't check my cm or cervix so I have zero idea what you just said/ what it means hahaha. I just obsess over my temp pattens.



 
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Old Aug 16th, 2015, 21:16 PM   15
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Haha, well usually my cervix lowers, firms up, and points to the side after ovulation. Being high up is unusual....although i did some googling of past threads and found one of mine with this same situation, plus no sore boobs, and i wasn't pregnant...however i was either 1 or possibly 4 days late for my period...i was also sick earlier that month so that maybe have screwed everything up. I pondered a chemical pregnancy but according to my post i was taking internet cheapies and they were negative. Who knows. But i am as clueless to temps as you are to cervical positions

Tell me more of your IUD hatred.....



 
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Old Aug 16th, 2015, 22:56 PM   16
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Aw, yeah that's bizarre. Being sick around O can delay it, but who knows what our bodies does sometimes.

Well, I got a Paragard because it was non-hormonal. I didn't stop to think that maybe sticking copper in my uterus wasn't a good idea. It essentially works by physically blocking sperm, but also creating a mild enough infection/ reaction with your uterus so the lining is weak. Anyway, three guns said you can pull it out any time and start trying right away. That it doesn't have any lasting effects. But as soon as I started googling it my first month TTC, there were so many horror stories. My periods have been irregular since. I am still ovulating, but I've Oed anywhere from CD 12 to CD 28. It's insane. As much as I liked the 2 day period, it obviously can't be good that I'm not shedding the crappy lining. So I was glad that my last period was heavier and a day longer. So 5 cycles later and I'm JUST starting to go back to regularity.

I know people say a healthy couple can take a year to conceive. I come from a long line of fertile women and SO comes from a long line of fertile men. I get pregnant easily (keeping them is the issue). So going from a broken condom pull out with immediate soapy shower and plan b bfp to 5 cycles of nothing with perfect timing... I'm calling IUD bulls* on that.



 
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Old Aug 17th, 2015, 07:25 AM   17
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I'd have to agree. Also, maiy i add that ob/gyn's need to better inform us? After all my bc fails (including 4 years of treatment, 7 types of pills and the nuva ring), my ob insisted i try the depo shot. I got it right there, that day in her office. Worst thing i could have done for myself....she said i would stop bleeding withing 5 days and call her if i didn't. Well, 7 days later i was still bleeding, i called, and she goes, "hmm. Well something continuous bleeding can be a side effect. That should be better next time." ARE YOU FUCKING INSANE, WOMAN? I bled for 120 days and was a complete emotional wreck for the first couple weeks (geeze, who would have thought pumping that much hormone into your body would do that?). That was the final draw for me, i'll never take bc of any kind again.

The IUD I was looking at was the copper one for that reason. Maybe my inability to get it is a blessing in disguise.

And on another note, i'm also of the belief that fertility is genetic. My mom's mom had 7 kids. My mom had multiple pregnancies but 3 live births (i was the last one, conceieved on the pill...so then my dad got snipped). Hubby's dad has 4 kids with two different women. We got pregnant on the first try.

I guess this fuels my concern this cycled about getting knocked up when we weren't being totally safe....though i remain doubtful :P



 
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Old Aug 17th, 2015, 21:00 PM   18
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That is awful! Yeah, it is crazy what they say is no big deal and then it just wreaks havoc. I used to love my bcp, but something about when i hit 24/25 it just started screwing with my body. I started asking around my friends and found how common it is. I remember being single and telling guys I wasn't on any form of contraceptive and explaining why only to have them say they have many female friends who experience that so they understand.

I agree. My family is outrageously fertile. We're full of unplanned babies. Which, as much as I love my family and this is going to be mean haha, probably isn't good for the world for such low quality people to be reproducing.

You never know! It just takes one!



 
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Old Aug 17th, 2015, 21:59 PM   19
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That's what they say...but really it kind of takes millions haha. Or at least several thousand. I was reading some article that said only about 12-50 sperm actually make it to the egg. Can you imagine that?! From millions to 12. Crazy.

I'm 5dpo today....still obsessing but my boobs are finally starting to hurt now. I know every pregnancy is different but my lack of boob pain in the tww with my son was my biggest tip off, as they hurt right up until i bleed. I did mention they got tender but then all that pain went away about 8dpo...so i'll be doing a lot of boob squeezing over the next fews days (as i already have been haha).



 
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Old Aug 17th, 2015, 22:17 PM   20
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Technically, it only takes one just the probability of that one making it is so low we use millions to up the chances. but yeah it is not easy for the little guys. I did read some samples of pre-ej contained 300k sperm. And people get pregnant from condoms breaking in their vaginal cavity. So if the universe aligns...

Haha I bet DH enjoys that my boobs are too small to ever be sore or hurt or do much of anything. SO, my mom, and I have already discussed getting a breast enhancement once we are done having kids/breastfeed



 
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