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Old Oct 12th, 2017, 16:38 PM   33841
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Gigs, I've only had moscato for sweeter white wines so that's all I know about. Not sure how I would feel about the ones you describe, never tried them. I like mixed drinks if I can't taste the alcohol lol. Dangerous, but yummy. I've been drunk once. I told y'all about it when it happened. Oh and sorry about the MIL

Dobs that's awesome that they log everything. I would want to have that for my kid. Love the constant cuddles and attention as well.

Speaking of cuddles and attention, I need some for me.



 
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Old Oct 12th, 2017, 18:19 PM   33842
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Gigs nooo sorry . Maybe she'll miss him so much on her off days she'll volunteer? My mom works full time but she jumps to take him after work or on weekends

Yeah I like them it helps he is the youngest so the others don't need as much holding (though I see them getting cuddles as well).

Awww Shae when do yiu see SO again?

Shit's gonna hit the fan because SO took a dig at me and I pointed out I do tell him shot but he doesn't listen/do what he promises. I liked the attorney and he's open to letting my stepdad do some work to cut down my costs. But a court would likely give SO a few hours each weekend day which terrifies me because he yells at a/can't soothe him



 
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Old Oct 12th, 2017, 22:55 PM   33843
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Dobs yeah I would go for supervised visits only if you do go that route. Mention that he yells at A and can't soothe him to the judge, use that for the case. Again, if you end up doing it.

Not sure when I'll see SO again tbh. Probably this weekend. We don't plan it ahead much cuz of studying being variable. I feel like I'm really getting into the studying spirit cuz I just studied for 2.5 hours straight and I'm proud of myself but tired lol



 
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Old Oct 13th, 2017, 07:44 AM   33844
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Well fxed you get to see him this weekend

I have to sit down and talk it over with my parents. I just don't know if I'm at a point where the shittiness of staying with him outweighs the benefit of being with A 24/7. Like I might just tell him he can have an open relationship because I'm not having sex with him just keep it out of our house and away from our son. Idk. The problem is I really only want to leave if I get full physical and legal custody but there's no way to know if he'd agree to that without telling him how unhappy I am. Plus we'd have to go to court to get mediation and I'm sure by the time we sat down his parents will bitch at him



 
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Old Oct 13th, 2017, 08:31 AM   33845
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If he's yelling at a tiny infant, your lawyer needs to know this. This behavior will only get worse toward A as he moves out of babyhood, and into the difficult toddler years. I would do everything you can to just keep it limited to supervised visits. Any person yelling in an infant's face does NOT get it, and is being abusive. That right there would be everything I'd need to pack my bags and go.

Good luck. I wouldn't even question any of it. You'll find a way to make it work. Even if he does get some custody, I'd resort to a nanny cam stashed away somewhere...



 
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Old Oct 13th, 2017, 09:00 AM   33846
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Dobs, i hate to suggest being sneaky but you know evidence speaks louder than personal accounts. Is there sone way you can record him yelling at the baby? Regardless I think it's great you're exploring all options. I have to disagree with Wook, his behavior now won't necessarily get worse. From personal experience...hibs was awful with baby Des. He could not cope with the screaming. He got much better the older Des got and when he started smiling and the more interactive he became (like finding interest in/reaching out for toys, becoming mobile, etc.).

Just my two cents...

Re: MIL, the problem with her taking the boys on weekends is it takes time with them away from hubs. She definitely still will watch them as time allows though, but man i miss my alone time on week days. The job is only until December but by then SIL needs her to watch her baby as she has a full time job to return to.



 
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Old Oct 13th, 2017, 09:35 AM   33847
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The telling is better not worse. I explained to him how babies work andgowsootging works, and he is trying. A just doesn't give two shits. A wants mom. There's also no proof and no way to obtain proof of him yelling. California is a two party consent state. You can't record people without their stated permission in the recording. So even if I caught his lack of parenting on video it's not admissible in court and cab't be used in consideration for custidy. But like I said the yelling has stopped because I told him off/taught him better.

My worry at this point is A growing up to act and treat women the way his idiotic father does and if he doesn't how vocally displeased he will be



 
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Old Oct 13th, 2017, 10:33 AM   33848
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And idk I think Green and Gigs gets my headspace the most. Gigs with DH having to learn to be a dad to Des and it not coming naturally, and Green with similar experiences and hormones. I just feel like I don't even know what's me and what's hormones at this point



 
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Old Oct 13th, 2017, 17:20 PM   33849
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Dobs, if you can, wait a few more months. Let the hormones settle to be sure it it's you or the hormones. Honestly, I love my hubby dearly and he's great with L, but I haven't felt the same in months. It's hard to explain. Hopefully I'll be back to normal soon..

Remember how mil was all like :"oh let me take L to Timmy's for coffee next time you are doing a market just sent me a text message". Well I did and didn't hear back until the next morning....some lame excuse that her hottub electrician didn't show up on time and she didn't see my message. Oh and by the way she wasn't feeling so well and didn't want to pass it on to L.
Sorry, I don't give a sh!t about your brand new hot tub that you couldn't afford to begin with giving you problems. And for mentioning that you are under the weather as secondary. Ls health should be primary, not your dang hot tub!!



 
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Old Oct 13th, 2017, 18:36 PM   33850
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Yeah pl that would irk me as well. How did the market go? Or was this pre planning?

I'll try. It's bizarre. Fing hormones



 
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