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Old Jun 12th, 2018, 19:57 PM   37821
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Ha, I am one of those people I don't believe in spanking, smacking, etc. it's my personal belief that as adults we should not let kids get the best of our emotions, and also that hitting kids is almost always a result of rage during the height of that negative emotion. I have a lot more to say on that HOWEVER this is just my opinion and I know others won't agree. Everyone needs to do their own research and make the best choice for their own kiddos.

All that said...he is too young to understand what I am saying when i explain "it hurts" so a bop he gets! I might have to try the biting, lol. Not as hard as him of course! He breaks skin!



 
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Old Jun 12th, 2018, 20:48 PM   37822
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Lol yeah my parents said they just did it hard enough to be felt not any real harm. We were never spanked or had any major physical punishment( once or twice kneel in a corner).
We all turned out great.



 
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Old Jun 12th, 2018, 21:01 PM   37823
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I think kids just have to understand their are consequences to actions. However people do it is their prerogative. I was spanked with a belt or palm of backside of a hair brush, and yeah it sucked but it never really affected me emotionally. But I know people who have been really messed up by it. I just had bigger stuff to deal with at age 4.

I’m curious to see how I manage A. So far he gets away with murder lol. I’m hoping I’ll be authoritative with him like I am with my students



 
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Old Jun 12th, 2018, 22:19 PM   37824
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Once we hit somewhere between 8-10 my mom had us do planks as punishment lol longest minute of your life.



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Old Jun 13th, 2018, 02:13 AM   37825
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I was never hit by my parents, and I don’t think I’d hit Evie, when she bites me she gets put on the floor in the hall with no toys for a minute, because there’s no way she understands what I mean when I say don’t bite. She learned quickly, a week and a half of consistency and she hasn’t done it since! But parents should parent how they want as long as they are not hurting the child.



 
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Old Jun 13th, 2018, 03:39 AM   37826
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A has a fever (102.1 rectal, 103.7 armpit) despite being on Tylenol and Advil all day for his mouth sore pain. My family abandoned me because god forbid I ruin my stepdad’s only vacation with my single mom problems. Couldn’t tell me fast enough to just not go to work. So here I am at 2am on the last day of school with a baby in front of the fan on 3/5 speed and a diaper on and a cool washcloth and alternating Advil and Tylenol who is still burning up and no fucking clue what the fuck I am supposed to do because I have no child care and no sick days with a maxed out credit card, an overdrawn checking account, no sub plans or materials for the end of year party



 
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Old Jun 13th, 2018, 03:41 AM   37827
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And since he isn’t really in respiratory distress i’m Supposed to stay home and twiddle my thumbs even though this exact Shit is what happened before my son went fucking septic and was hospitalized with pneumonia for a week but you’re right I can calmly sit my ass at home and twiddle my thumbs



 
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Old Jun 13th, 2018, 05:03 AM   37828
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Dobby I am so sorry, I wish I had a solution for you! Can your mom just taje him for the school day?

Yeah my dad hit us all and I had SOOOOO much resentment toward him. It was other stuff too, I guess the way he disciplined in general and how he treated me but I hated him growing up. We have a good relationship now but as a kid I wished all the time my parents would divorce and I could live with my mom.

I know a lot of people who WERE hit and say they turned out fine but also these same people have issues, relationship issues, mental issues, eating disorders, anger issues, esteem issues...and yeah can't blame it all on being hit but can't rule out it could be a contributing factor.

Cpp not saying you're in that category, just thinking right now of my BIL who cannot express himself and always resorts to threat when he gets really frustrated, even just if a conversation has been escalating. -- just re read you WEREN'T smacked, so yeah definitely not about you!

Ohhh I like the idea of doing planks lol. But would that cause an aversion to exercise down the road?

ANYWAY...feeling sick this morning. Also had a dream last night for the second time this week that i miscarried



 
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Old Jun 13th, 2018, 07:26 AM   37829
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Congrats PL!

Iíve been lurking but not posting lol but wanted to see if you guys see anything on this test!

Ok I do not understand how to load photos anymore? It says everything is too big! lol



 
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Old Jun 13th, 2018, 08:13 AM   37830
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My cheer team was punished with extra exercises like run a team mile or five minute wall squats blah blah lol. Idk it was firmly instilled in me that you don’t argue consequences/you behave to begin with so it never bothered me to do them even though I was respectful it was everyone else lol

His fever broke at about 3am so even though he shouldn’t go to daycare he is going to daycare. My mom is in San Diego. Everyone left. They were supposed to leave Monday morning but stayed until I got home from work yesterday. But like they knew he was getting worse so idek why tf they couldn’t wait one more day

I know my issues are not from the spanking but it was never excessive and it was always a discussion so we knew why it was happening. Like he wasn’t screaming and just hit us. He sat us down, calmly explained it, then whap done deal. My issues didn’t step in until my first bout with racism. And when I really think about it, that incident caused a series of issues of betrayal and feeling worthless and that’s when my life turned upside down. But I won’t spank lol as I tell people all the time if I can get 30 unruley hormonal fifth graders to follow expectations without hitting them or screaming at them then I hope I can teach A to follow then without hitting or yelling

So far it’s not working cuz I think everything he does is adorable



 
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