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Old Feb 20th, 2017, 10:23 AM   51
BelleNuit
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I know what you're getting at Wrapunzel, but when it comes to infertility there are some conditions where no amount of relaxing will work. A person with bilateral tube blockages isn't going to get pregnant by relaxing. A person who doesn't ovulate on their own isn't going to get pregnant by relaxing. A couple with MFI won't suddenly get pregnant by relaxing.

While my infertility is unexplained it doesn't mean that there isn't something "wrong" I have a 1-4% chance each cycle... whether I relax or not. I suspect our issues may be due to thin lining and poor quality eggs/swimmers (microfragmentation). Relaxing won't fix those problems... but fertility treatments can help to over come them.

I took a cycle off last cycle where I didn't track anything, we didn't try (but didn't prevent) and I didn't get pregnant. I've had other cycles during the year where I had so much going on (moving, travel, getting a puppy, etc.) that I barely thought about TTC, and I didn't get pregnant. I've gone on vacations and didn't come back pregnant lol. I go to acupuncture weekly which I find immensely relaxing, I do yoga weekly and walk my dog which I also find relaxing. I don't symptom spot (which is super duper relaxing) and I'm not pregnant LOL.

I think you get my drift Thanks for your thoughts though. If anything I think your friend was just very lucky. No one hears the stories of people who adopt children and DON'T suddenly get pregnant on their own, but that is what happens the majority of the time.



 
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Old Feb 20th, 2017, 11:33 AM   52
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Thanks for all your feedback! I am going to do my best not to stress about it. It does help when I remind myself that I have felt this way before and was wrong, so I shouldn't get my hopes up. It also helps when I remind myself that chances are I won't get pregnant on my first IUI, and even if I don't, I still have next month to try, and the month after, etc. I also tell myself I believe I will get pregnant one day, so it's just a matter of time, and when it happens is when it's meant to happen. It would be nice if it happened this month, but if it doesn't, that is okay too. I am trying to stay level-headed about this.

Any recommendations for good foods to eat for implantation/early pregnancy? I'd be interested in hearing more about that.



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Old Feb 20th, 2017, 12:43 PM   53
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Im one of the ladies who gave up on ttc then it jus happened. After a year ttc my son and 6 losses we was told my dh can't concieve naturally and ivf was our only chance. So we gave up. No opk, no temping no symptom spotting. Just enjoying eachother. Then bam, 17dpo and dark bfp on an ic. That boy is a happy almost 4 year old now. It happens.



 
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Old Feb 20th, 2017, 15:42 PM   54
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Sounds to me like there is validity to both experiences. I am sure there are many people who become pregnant after not trying so hard, but I also agree that some people will not get pregnant unless they receive the necessary treatment. Every couple is different.



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Old Feb 20th, 2017, 15:48 PM   55
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I am so excited to join! We just started trying this cycle. I just got off of birth control so I have no idea what my cycle is going to look like, but I did get pregnant right away with my son.

I'm on CD8, so I won't be testing for a while... but according to Glow, maybe around March 8th (CD24)?



 
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Old Feb 20th, 2017, 16:02 PM   56
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I think there will always be the lucky few who get pregnant after they stop trying. However, I think its a misnomer to suggest that there is a causal effect between the relaxation and the pregnancy. Those people likely would have gotten pregnant whether or not they relaxed and stopped trying. Statistically there are always a few who will get pregnant naturally even after years of trying, but those are the lucky few. They are the exceptions.

I really do think there is harm in telling people with infertility to relax and stop trying because we know from research that TI and fertility treatments increases the likelihood of pregnancy. Encouraging people to stop trying might prevent pregnancies for people who would have gotten pregnant had they pursued treatment.

I think the message should be "relax, it will happen, unless it doesn't, in which case feel free to freak out a little and pursue treatment if that is what you want." My average every day stress hasn't caused my infertility And relaxing won't cure it, although it has certainly helped me feel better throughout the process.



 
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Old Feb 20th, 2017, 16:45 PM   57
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Welcome johnsa! I put you down for 8th, can always move it later if necessary.



 
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Old Feb 20th, 2017, 18:18 PM   58
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Testing March 7th! My birthday!

Unfortunately I think the odds of a BFP are low. DH and I have been on opposite schedules. Little time to BD...



 
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Old Feb 20th, 2017, 18:49 PM   59
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My af is due 13th march I may test early depending what my temps do x



 
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Old Feb 20th, 2017, 20:08 PM   60
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Hi ladies! Witch got me 2 days early this evening, so I'll be testing on March 20th



 
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