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Old Apr 30th, 2017, 20:42 PM   11
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Generally my cycle is 26 days, more often than not, but it isn't always. According to FF it's 95% regular. I have been casually tracking my periods for years, but I recently started seriously tracking temps, CM, everything. My first attempt at tracking temps was wrong, because I would do it whenever I got up instead of at the same time every day. But I only seriously started tracking when I decided to have a baby on my own. I was divorced and then was in another relationship ( which is how I ended up on the other side of the country ) We were supposed to have a baby, but then he dumped me, so I decided since relationships don't work for me, I would just try for a baby without one. I was kind of lazy with my temping sometimes, so my chart is incomplete. Now I am very diligent about it. Especially now, when I think I might be pregnant. I try to keep the mindset that it won't happen, but I can't help but hope. Then if I'm not it just makes it worse.



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Old Apr 30th, 2017, 20:53 PM   12
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We all, even the long termers, hold out that hope every month. Sometimes its just a little bit and sometimes it grows. If you are normally 26 days cycle then you probably ovulate on cd 12-14 and I'd still say cd 11 is good for insemination. If you could do it two days in a row even better.



 
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Old Apr 30th, 2017, 21:17 PM   13
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Thank you, I feel much better about my timing. I was second guessing everything. I did one insem on CD9, two on CD10, and one on CD11. FF said i ovulated on day 10, but I'm not sure how accurate that is. Other apps have my ovulation way later so I was worried, about which was more accurate. Like I said I was kind of lazy with temps, and I didn't get a solid positive with OPK. I just had one that was pretty dark then negative ones after.



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Old Apr 30th, 2017, 21:29 PM   14
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Well,I would advise, if you happen to not get pregnant this cycle, to do 2 opks a day starting on cd 9. Do one earlier and one late after noon or early evening. Some women have short surges and may see a positive on one phase of the day the lh surges.
Your insem timing sounds fine to me though. Could be perfect 1-3 days before is best and up to 5 can even work if you have fertile cm that early to sustain the sperm.
I have my fingers crossed for you, hon.



 
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Old May 1st, 2017, 09:58 AM   15
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Thank you. I checked my temp this morning and it went up a hair. I'm kinda stressed about temps (I know I shouldn't be) because I have no idea of norms for me. This is the first cycle I've started temping and I was doing it wrong in the beginning then I was just lazy. I don't know if I will have a slow decrease until AF or just a sharp decline. I know I shouldn't even worry about being pregnant right now, because there is nothing I can do about it one way or another. But I seem to be worrying about everything right now. I worry about not getting pregnant, what if it really doesn't ever happen? I worry about getting pregnant, and if the baby will be ok without a dad? I worry about what my temps mean. And I worry about every little symptom, is it all in my head? Do I really feel these things or am I making myself feel them, because I want this soo badly? I'm not sure if I can handle a BFN, because that means I have to start this whole process over again. Find a donor, coordinate dates, and have a very limited amount of time to somewhat get to know them, stress about timing, and then second guess said timing the whole TWW. I'm sorry I'm being such a downer, but I literally have no one else to talk to.

Also you asked about my LP length right now it's estimated to be 11 days, but i don't know how accurate that is. FF doesn't have that info yet as I just started tracking. Other apps say 11 days because of my cycle length.



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Old May 1st, 2017, 11:37 AM   16
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It will take at least 3 tracked cycles before you can confirm you LP accurately. An 11 lp is healthy and fine, but with a 26 day lp you are more likely to have a 12 or 13 day one.
Your temp can go up or down in the 2ww and be perfectly normal. It's typically a good sign if it keeps going up. Most women tend to see a temp drop the day AF will start or a day or two before. Usually this temp drop will be around the coverline temp or lower.
As to your other fears, those are normal and you'd have other fears if you were in another situation instead. Kids can grow up fine without a dad- I generally recommend getting some kind of positive male model in their life one way or the other- family member, big brother's program, friend. Otherwise though I think you'll do fine being a single mother. Most single mothers thrive. You seem like a strong woman, making the choices you have and I know you will do fine.



 
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Old May 1st, 2017, 14:32 PM   17
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Well my temp is still way above the coveline, so maybe that's a good sign? 12- 13 days for LP sounds about right. Does that have anything to do with why some women get BFP on 8 and 9 dpo? If they have a shorter LP, does that mean AF comes sooner? I have been talking to a few donors, just in case I'm not pregnant. One suggested shipping sperm. I'm not sure about my chances of conceiving that way vs. fresh sperm, but it would be a lot more convenient as far as timing. I can wait as long as I need to verify fertility, and I can have inseminations throughout my whole fertile period. I'm just not sure how viable the sperm will be. It would be overnight shipping, so 24-48 hours depending on the weather. If I did go that route, I think I would request fresh samples. One donor says he has tubes already, but I don't know how long he has been storing them. And I don't think it's like a cryo bank with nitrogen storage. At least if it is as fresh as possible hopefully my chances will be higher.
Can I ask you, when you do inseminations, do you use a soft cup? I have never even heard of that until recently. It seems like it would be complicated to use. I heard people say that you put the sperm in the cup first, then insert it. How would that even work? Are there any real benefits to using one as opposed to not? If it does work better I might consider using one, especially for shipped sperm, to give them the best chance. Do you know of anything else that would help increase chances?



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Old May 1st, 2017, 15:05 PM   18
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I posted a reply earlier, but when I submitted it it said it wouldn't be posted until it was reviewed. That hasn't happened before. I wonder how long that will take? I don't want to repost in case it shows up later.



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Old May 1st, 2017, 16:17 PM   19
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That's odd and has never happened to me... Did you have a link or something in it?



 
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Old May 2nd, 2017, 06:40 AM   20
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It did post eventually, it's the one above the reply where I said it was being reviewed. I took my temp this morning and it was way up from 97.77 to 98.18. That should be a good sign, right? I will probably take an early pregnancy test tomorrow morning. The other tests I have been taking were the ones that came with the ovulation tests, and I don't think they are that sensitive. I think with those you take them the day after you miss your period. I have one first response, and one clear blue (not digital) left. So now I just have to wait and see. How are things going with you?



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