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Old Oct 18th, 2017, 06:21 AM   21
ChantalLee
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I am 4dpo today as well and am trying really hard not to symptom spot.

On 2 & 3 dpo I had this underlying burning crampy feeling below my right ovary and I tried really hard to ignore it. This is the first time I have ever felt this feeling, usually I get twinges around 6 or 7 dpo and for 2 or 3 days and then af arrives.

And today my lower back has that same burning paining feeling which again is really strange because I never get a sore back at any stage of my cycle.

Surely this is hopelessly to early to see any sort of symptoms right?? I always feel so silly when I symptom spot and then get af and now I'm going to feel even more stupid because for the first time I'm actually putting it down on "paper" for every body to read lol

Some how my body always manages to find new and improved symptoms "that I have never had before" to mess with my head and make the tww even more draggy lol



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Old Oct 18th, 2017, 07:17 AM   22
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Haha don't worry I am such a symptom spotter! Although I've been pretty good so far. Saying that it's only 4dpo so there's still time!

I am absolutely sure I felt implantation on 6dpo with my son and just had that 'feeling' which is why I tested so early. So I definitely believe if you are in tune with your body you can feel slight changes.

No such feeling this cycle for me but it's so early still.



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Old Oct 18th, 2017, 07:33 AM   23
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Sounds like some good symptom spotting - anything out of the ordinary is certainly worth note, Chantal!

Ava, yes Oliver is super high needs as well. Even though certain things helped (no dairy etc) he's just always been high needs. I remember when I was pregnant with my first and I would be reading threads on here about high needs babies and it sounded kind of bad but I was just like "whatever, all babies cry"

silly me!

I'm about 6dpo now, feel absolutely nothing at all! Usually in the run up to my period (well the last two since it came back) I get tender nipples while feeding about 4/5 days before af shows, so I'm on the lookout for that.



 
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Old Oct 18th, 2017, 08:31 AM   24
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Oh and with regards to my supply when pregnant, it's hard to know actually. I had day weaned and just night weaned, so she was only getting fed for nap and bedtime, and we were transitioning her off those. So I found out I was pregnant and she had her last feed 3 nights later. Not because I stopped, but she had just turned two and she was ready for it herself.

I will say I had been having some nursing aversions before I found out I was pregnant (I was 9 weeks when I found out so a good chunk of first tri under my belt!) and sometimes it did feel like she was dry nursing.

With my friends a fair few have had their supply dry up by 4 months



 
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Old Oct 18th, 2017, 08:45 AM   25
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It was crazy because he was my first, I just couldn't believe how hard it was and felt like I was completely useless! It wasn't until I started going to groups etc that I realised he's not quite like other babies haha! And I stayed at my mums one night and she took him for a few hours so I could get some kip. She came in at 3am like 'you've got to take him, he just doesn't sleep! At all!!!!' And shes had 4 kids. Haha. That was the one and only time my parents have offered to help!

But you do just accept it and get used to it don't you.



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Old Oct 18th, 2017, 09:04 AM   26
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It's always amazing to get that.... I dunno what the word is? Someone saying to you "this is not normal. This is harder than it should be for you". I remember at Olivers 16 weeks check explaining to the HV what he was like and her jaw dropped! And she said "there isn't anything wrong with him (that was after I had stopped dairy etc) but it's normal behaviour" and I cried. I was so relieved to have someone say that!

My first wasn't overly laid back, just totally normal I think, so he was just something else. Still is!

So I worked out if I am now 7dpo my due date will be my birthday! And the age gap between Oliver and baby would be the EXACT same as between Isabelle and Oliver! (That actually takes in to account the extra 13 days of me being overdue and waiting to be induced again!)

So I just have to be pregnant now. The fates have aligned or something



 
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Old Oct 18th, 2017, 09:09 AM   27
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Sorry to hear you don't get much help from your parents though. That makes life tough.

I am a SAHM (partly through choice, partly through not being able to get work ) but my dad in particular has always been great about helping if I need it. And if I do ever work (I'm a teacher so sometimes I do substitute work) he has Oliver and collects Isabelle from school. My husbands parents live in another country though, so he is the only help we have and it can be really tough feeling like you've nowhere to turn on a bad day. Do you get help from your in laws,



 
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Old Oct 18th, 2017, 09:47 AM   28
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Oh doggylover it's got to be your month! Fingers crossed for a bfp! When are you going to test?

Yeah, it is what it is. We live about 45min drive from my family so don't see them very often. But despite living down the road from my inlaws we get no help whatsoever! I'm a sahm too, again i don't have much choice. Not that I'm not grateful to spend this time with him



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Old Oct 18th, 2017, 14:14 PM   29
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Not going to test until at least next Tuesday, but will try to hold out as long as possible as I had a super faint bfp at 13dpo with my daughter so don't want to test too early because of that. When are you thinking of testing?

I'm sorry to hear you don't get much support at all from family. Life with kids can be difficult, and a support network is definitely needed. Hopefully you have lots of friends close by instead?

It is definitely great to get to be at home with the kids I think I feel a bit sensitive about it ATM as I would have gone back to work this year but there are just no jobs, so I wasn't able to, so I feel I'm shirking my financial responsibilities by not earning any money. I'm the higher earner (my dh is self employed) so it would be good to have me in work, but there is just no hope ATM. If I was a sahm by choice I wouldn't worry at all. But yet I want to be at home and I love it! I confuse even myself about the whole thing!!



 
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Old Oct 18th, 2017, 16:32 PM   30
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I am going to try and wait until 10dpo. Although because I got such an early bfp with ds it'll be tempting to start at 7.

No, unfortunately I don't! It's just me and my ds. It can be very lonely at times, my partner is a chef so works long hours and all evening until about 12. None of our friends have children yet, so rarely see them and we have just moved to this area a few months ago so don't really know anyone. But I'm sure that will come in time.

Yes I know how you feel about not doing your part financially. I often feel the same but my dp says how much he appreciates me being at home with ds, and not to feel guilty etc.



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