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Old Oct 18th, 2017, 17:55 PM   31
doggylover
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That's so kind of him I had a bit of a meltdown the other week as I found out the mum of my daughter's school friend (the only mum I really chat to, and we would always sit together at things) is a bloody surgeon! And she knows I'm a sahm and i had a bit of a breakdown saying "she must think I'm an idiot who can't do anything" etc. Which I'm sure the poor woman doesn't lol! But my dh was really nice and basically said the same as your oh. So nice to know we are appreciated!

You should look for a breastfeeding support group near you when your next baby comes (hopefully in 9 months!!). That's where I made my friends, and found that we all get along mostly because we have the same parenting styles, one of which has been breastfeeding. It's so tough putting yourself out there though, isn't it? When I had my first my 5 best friends just dropped me, literally one day they all came round to mine for lunch and I never heard from them again. And I was so lonely, and it's terrifying talking to people/other mums at things

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Old Oct 18th, 2017, 18:40 PM   32
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Oh no I'm sure that's not the case we all judge ourselves way more harshly than we judge others! That's great that your hubby is supportive too.

Thank you, that is a great shout actually I'll definitely look into bf groups. Ah it's nice to know others feel the same! Yes I take my ds to groups 3 or 4 times a week but all the other mum's know eachother already and they all seem very nice but it is so difficult.

That's terrible about your friends dropping you like that but sadly it's true. I've lost a few too x



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Old Oct 19th, 2017, 04:43 AM   33
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With our time difference Iíve missed out on sooo much!! I had to catch up now.
I dont even know where to start lol

Itís really great to hear you both have great supportive husbands, that makes me happy. Many of my friends have huge issues with this.

I have a great husband and a fantastic mom that looks after my dd when I work. We have a family business so I only recently started to work fixed hours from 9am-2pm and that leaves me with time to spend with dd every day. Iím really fortunate as all my friends have full time jobs. I have the greatest respect for sahmís they have a fuller and more mentally and physically exhausing day than any 12hour job!! And quite frankly I wish more mothers could stay at home and raise their children, I think it would eliminate a lot of hate in this world!

Ava - im really sorry to hear that you have such little support! I cant even imagine how hard it must be for you!! You sound like an amazingly strong woman to deal with all this on your own! I do hope things get better for you and that you will make new friends soon!

With my dd I had text book symptoms leading up to bfp. Nothing up to 7dpo. 7&8dpo cramps, huge clump of cm 8dpo, constant wet feeling, 9dpo implantation spotting (only around my cervix, at the time i thought i was out as i always spotted a day or two before af), next morning spotting was gone and i kept running to bathroom thinking if afís not here by 12pm iíll go buy a test, if itís not here by 3 iíll test when i get home, until i got home and tested.....faint BFP!! On 10dpo. After 2 years and 2 days tcc. Needless to say i cried uncontrolably for an hour or two lol

I dont know if I can handle another 2 years of tcc but I do believe what doesnt kill you makes you stronger ha ha blah blah

How are you ladies feeling today? I was a ball of symptoms yesterday!! So hoping that just means that my progesterone is really high! I dont expect a bfp so soon into starting tcc. But I will test on tuesday as well if my lp stretches that far and af doesnt catch me.

Doggylover - it does sound like fate has aligned for you this month!!

Fingers crossed for you ladies!!!



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Old Oct 19th, 2017, 06:34 AM   34
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Whoa, Chantal, after two years Iím sure that getting your bfp was incredible!! Fingers crossed this journey is much shorter for you. And I also think it gives you a great perspective on getting pregnant. It was just a year for us getting pregnant with no1, but I also have no expectations of falling pregnant quickly this time because of that. So anything else would be a bonus.

Weirdly no2 was a surprise. But he has been a little monkey throughout so that is definitely his style!!!

Ava, I actually donít go to any groups now with Oliver. I hate mums and tots groups for the reasons youíve said about other mums knowing each other. And I always feel so awkward. I went to loads of stuff with Isabelle, but mostly classes so it was more structured and I didnít feel weird not talking to people! With Oliver he has second baby syndrome lol! He just gets taken along to isabelles things or to see our friends, but luckily they all have kids and some are his age, plus he has 3 cousins so I tell myself he gets to see plenty of other kids and I donít need to worry about not taking him to mums and tots!

And Chantal thatís great about working from home, but still having so much of the afternoon free with LO. Thatís ideal really

Part of the reason I donít have a job is that all the jobs that do come up for teaching my subject are really far away and full time and I would just never get to see the kids. And any part time ones there are so many applicants itís ridiculous.



 
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Old Oct 19th, 2017, 12:30 PM   35
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Chantal it sounds like you have a great balance there! 2 years must have been so stressful. We tried for a year after an ectopic when i fell with ds.

Doggylover i don't blame you! If i had friends with little ones i probably wouldn't bother going. I do it as it fills the day and ds gets to socialise but tbh i hate it.

So this afternoon (TMI) I've had a big glob of what I can only describe as snotty cm! It is white with a very very slight yellowish /green tinge. Very stretchy like ewcm. Very gross- sorry! I'm certain it's not an infection. It looks like mucus plug...

So I've been crazy googling! I'm hoping it's a good sign but I don't remember this with my ds.

How are you both today?



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Old Oct 19th, 2017, 13:46 PM   36
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Goodness I havenít heard of that before! Have you found anything from google??

Iíve never actually experienced losing my mucus plug really, I was induced both times and assume it went somewhere during that, but donít know for sure!

The one thing I do take Oliver to sometimes is gymnastics mornings. Not sure if they have any near you? But here the gymnastics centres (and even some leisure centres now) open up their gym in the morning for parents and toddlers and it ends up being a bit like soft play but with actual gym equipment, so itís pretty fun!

Iím ok today, really sore. With my first pregnancy I had some sciatica but when I was pregnant with Oliver it was awful, I could barely move. And itís kind of hung round since he was born, and the last few weeks itís been getting worse. And today is very bad. So Iím limping about like a pirate! Itís one thing which I really am not looking forward to about being pregnant again.



 
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Old Oct 19th, 2017, 14:00 PM   37
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I've been obsessively googling! Some sources say its a rise in progesterone that can cause it, which would make it fairly normal after o. And I've found a lot of old threads where ladies have gotten their bfp after it, something to do with the mucus plug forming i think. Time will tell! Fingers crossed for the latter.

That sounds great, yes theres something similar but not close enough to get there for 9am really. Our mornings are very slow!

Oh no, that doesn't sound good. I too get sciatic pain from time to time it's agony. There are some brilliant stretches you can find on YouTube that always help me relieve it, but I'm sure you know that already! Get your dh to give you a nice firm massage on the lower back too! X



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Old Oct 19th, 2017, 15:18 PM   38
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Weirdly mine is all down my upper thigh, never ever in my back. I know it stems from there, but the pain has never been there. I had to go to physio when I was pregnant last time for it, and it was bloody agony but worked wonders. She gave me acupuncture for it too, not sure if it helped but was interesting!

Connected to the acupuncture, a few people I know have mentioned about fertility acupuncture, apparently itís supposed to be very good. I think if I havenít got my bfp by the new year I may look in to that.

Oh, 9am would be an early start to be out somewhere! I was the same when Isabelle was younger, we often didnít get up until 9am. I remember it fondly... as we now trudge to school at 8.45! Luckily the school is a stones throw from the house... but still not ideal!



 
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Old Oct 19th, 2017, 16:10 PM   39
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Funny you should say that, I contacted an acupuncturist recently and thinking of getting some treatment starting next cycle. I've had acupuncture before for my endometriosis pain and it was incredible, I'm a firm believer in it. If nothing else it's incredibly relaxing!



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I just had a little session as part of my physio, but it seemed to work! So I am definitely up for it for fertility as well. Especially since I basically have heard everyone gets it and is pregnant a few weeks later!



 
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