Too afraid of disappointment to test?!

xxLivxx · Oct 6th, 2010, 13:55 PM

Hi everyone

This is my first post on B&B, and I'm technically out of the TWW because I could have tested 3 days ago... I've just extended my wait. My boyfriend and I suffered a m/c in the beginning of July, and although we weren't trying (and still "arent", but we aren't doing anything to prevent it) we both realized its a direction we want to explore. I'm 3 days late, having symptoms, etc, and I think that I may actually be pregnant... but I'm afraid to test! I'll be upset if its a BFN, and so will he. Anyone else feel like this?! We're both young, and in good health for the most part, so conceiving again shouldn't be difficult but I've suffered from an Eating disorder for 8 years and even though I've been healthy for almost a year, the lasting effects may not go away, including trouble conceiving due to irregular periods. I want to test so bad but I'm freaking out! Anyone have any advice or similar thoughts!?

CMarie · Oct 6th, 2010, 13:59 PM

Hey

I use to have an eating disorder as well so I completely know how you feel.

If you're already late, you should definitely take a test. If you get a negative, but still no period in a couple days I would retest.

Good luck

rubygirl01 · Oct 6th, 2010, 14:01 PM

liv,gotta give ya praise, i would not be able to wait. I m/c in Feb and can understand what you are feeling, i think you should

the sooner you know you are preggy, the better a job you can do to take care of yourself and your baby. Good luck baby

to you.

mindyb85 · Oct 6th, 2010, 14:03 PM

the only way to know for sure and put your mind at ease will be to take the plunge and take a test hun
I would recommend a first response early result or if you don't have those around a pink dye test for sure!
Good luck sweetie!

xxLivxx · Oct 6th, 2010, 14:12 PM

Wow, I didn't expect to get responses so quickly. Thank you!

Cmarie- Its frightening what E.D's can do to the body, and worse that they tend to strike before we can fully comprehend the damage thats being done. Have you been TTC for very long?

Ruby&Mindy- I think you're probably right. I've been telling myself I'll test on the 10th because "how cool would it be to find out on 10/10/10" but I know its just an excuse not to deal with the disappointment. I think I'll go get a test tonight and test in the am tomorrow. I just hope bf doesn't take it too hard if it didn't happen this month. He wants things to be instantaneous sometimes.

CMarie · Oct 6th, 2010, 14:15 PM

Oh tell me about it...I'm terrified that DH and I are going to have trouble conceiving.

We actually just decided last night to officially start trying

I really hope you get your BFP though!!

xxLivxx · Oct 6th, 2010, 14:32 PM

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Originally Posted by CMarie

Oh tell me about it...I'm terrified that DH and I are going to have trouble conceiving.

We actually just decided last night to officially start trying

I really hope you get your BFP though!!

Well congratulations

I hope everything goes smoothly for both of you!
I'll be sure to let you know if I get my BFP tomorrow *fingers crossed!!*
I'm sure sooner or later you'll be posting yours on here, and if you ever need to chat, I'll be here! Its always nice to have someone to relate to.

CMarie · Oct 6th, 2010, 14:41 PM

Aw thanks, if you ever need to you can talk to me too!

I can't wait to hear about your exciting news tomorrow!! GL

Oct 6th, 2010, 13:55 PM	#1
xxLivxx Trying to conceive (TTC) New BnB member Join Date: Oct 2010 Location: Arizona Posts: 4	Too afraid of disappointment to test?! Hi everyone This is my first post on B&B, and I'm technically out of the TWW because I could have tested 3 days ago... I've just extended my wait. My boyfriend and I suffered a m/c in the beginning of July, and although we weren't trying (and still "arent", but we aren't doing anything to prevent it) we both realized its a direction we want to explore. I'm 3 days late, having symptoms, etc, and I think that I may actually be pregnant... but I'm afraid to test! I'll be upset if its a BFN, and so will he. Anyone else feel like this?! We're both young, and in good health for the most part, so conceiving again shouldn't be difficult but I've suffered from an Eating disorder for 8 years and even though I've been healthy for almost a year, the lasting effects may not go away, including trouble conceiving due to irregular periods. I want to test so bad but I'm freaking out! Anyone have any advice or similar thoughts!?

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Oct 6th, 2010, 13:59 PM	#2
CMarie Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Apr 2010 Location: Alberta, Canada Posts: 2,020	Hey I use to have an eating disorder as well so I completely know how you feel. If you're already late, you should definitely take a test. If you get a negative, but still no period in a couple days I would retest. Good luck

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Oct 6th, 2010, 14:01 PM	#3
rubygirl01 Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Feb 2010 Location: USA Florida Posts: 215	liv,gotta give ya praise, i would not be able to wait. I m/c in Feb and can understand what you are feeling, i think you should the sooner you know you are preggy, the better a job you can do to take care of yourself and your baby. Good luck baby to you.

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Oct 6th, 2010, 14:03 PM	#4
mindyb85 Pregnant (Expecting) BnB Addict Join Date: Aug 2010 Location: Missouri, USA Posts: 2,840	the only way to know for sure and put your mind at ease will be to take the plunge and take a test hun I would recommend a first response early result or if you don't have those around a pink dye test for sure! Good luck sweetie!

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Oct 6th, 2010, 14:12 PM	#5
xxLivxx Trying to conceive (TTC) New BnB member Join Date: Oct 2010 Location: Arizona Posts: 4	Wow, I didn't expect to get responses so quickly. Thank you! Cmarie- Its frightening what E.D's can do to the body, and worse that they tend to strike before we can fully comprehend the damage thats being done. Have you been TTC for very long? Ruby&Mindy- I think you're probably right. I've been telling myself I'll test on the 10th because "how cool would it be to find out on 10/10/10" but I know its just an excuse not to deal with the disappointment. I think I'll go get a test tonight and test in the am tomorrow. I just hope bf doesn't take it too hard if it didn't happen this month. He wants things to be instantaneous sometimes.

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Oct 6th, 2010, 14:15 PM	#6
CMarie Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Apr 2010 Location: Alberta, Canada Posts: 2,020	Oh tell me about it...I'm terrified that DH and I are going to have trouble conceiving. We actually just decided last night to officially start trying I really hope you get your BFP though!!

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Oct 6th, 2010, 14:41 PM	#8
CMarie Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Apr 2010 Location: Alberta, Canada Posts: 2,020	Aw thanks, if you ever need to you can talk to me too! I can't wait to hear about your exciting news tomorrow!! GL

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