I'm new to this site and am currently in my TWW. This will be cycle 6 for DH and I ttc baby #1. I turned 35 last month and DH is 47. I have a couple of friends that are pg, one just after a month or two of trying. We are all about the same age and it has really started to frustrate me that DH and I have not gotten our yet.
I have been temping, checking CM, using OPKs... and nada. I have gotten to the point that just seeing a pregnant woman makes me depressed. I know I have to be patient and our time will come but the stress of getting AF month after month is really starting to get to me
I have taken pg test the last two days and all BFN (I know it's to early for a positive but can't help myself ) We really want a baby and at our ages it's better sooner rather later... sigh.
So, if anyone out there is going the a similar situation and has any insight or feedback for me I would greatly appreciate it
So sorry you're feeling down I am 7dpo today too and also feeling really upset. This is cycle 13 for us and nothing! We also tried for a number of years before and gave up after our only bfp ended up as ectopic.
We're on the waiting list for IVF now, but even though I know the chance of getting that bfp naturally are practically zero, I still get consumed by it every month. I am completely obsessed, I will probably take several tests all of which i know deep down will be negative
I know it's hard lovely, but there are so many people on here that can help you. It's nice to know you aren't the only one feeling like this and that it is perfectly normal. Just keep telling yourself that one day it will happen for you.
Have you thought about going to your gp? Perhaps you can embellish on the truth a bit and say you have been trying for more than 12 months, they will give you tests and then at least if you find out all ok with you both you can relax a bit, that's when people tend to get lucky!!
All the best hun hope the rest of your tww is not too painful, I'm right here with you! xxx
So sorry to hear of your struggle over the past 13 cycles, and prior. Also sorry your feeling down as well. So many women take for granted getting pg unplanned or after 1 or 2 cycles. I don't know much about IVF but if that's the route you have to go down I wish you the best of luck!!
I have looked at many topics on this forum and have noted that everyone is very sweet and encouraging. I could really use that right now. I talk to DH about things and he is very attentive and understanding but it's not the same as talking with other women who truly understand how discouraging is is to get a BFN and AF month after month.
I took another pg test this AM and i know it's early but I can's help the urge to POAS every morning. I have been having symptoms that feel like I could be pg: low back pain, ovary pinching/pain yesterday, nausea, headache, bloated, gassy, metal taste in my mouth, extra fatigue and sore bbs. Sometimes I think it's all in my head from reading too many tww symptoms. I guess I just need to be patient, AF is due April 2nd so I'll know soon enough.
I have a appointment with my gp April 10th for an annual exam. I plan to tell her we have been ttc for 7-8 mos. Not sure if there is anything she will recommend till it has been a full 12 mos? We shall see.
Hi lovely, I know exactly how you feel. this is cycle 13 for us. each month gets harder and harder, and everytime I see a pregnant person I want to scream. In my situation, I pushed with my doctor at 8 months, and she had my husband tested his tests came back normal, so than at 10 months, I insisted she take blood test for me, which she did and everything came back normal. I finally went at 12 months for a visit with a fertility specialist, there I had more blood tests (normal) and they did an ultra sound of my uterus and ovaries (all normal). The last test I have to do is the HCG but I was too far in my cycle for them to do it. It is so frustrating for everything to be "normal" and no baby.
I think you mentioned you were 35 - if so, then really it's after 6 months of actively trying that you should be seen for fertility stuff. So tell your doc its been 7 months and I am sure she will at least start with some tests on your DH, and you. Good luck. I know its hard - but you are only 7 dpo, so it really isn't over until you get your period. Best wishes!
Sorry your feeling down.. I think ttc is so emotional ..its hard work and we all feel rubbish at times.. and it can all change in one day esp on the 2ww I was fine this morning, rubbish at lunch after a bfn, cheered up and back to feeling crap lol... And at times I do sit and think how am I going to do this again next month... ?? But then I realise that giving up isn't an option right now... and hope one day it will happen...
I did what Athena said I err embellished the truth lol I've now been trying 14 months but at the time when I went to see my GP I told him it was closer to 2 years, which I'm glad I did because it looks like I don't always ovulate...
I hope you feel better soon... your Definitely not alone x
I totally agree with you about seeing pg women! There are a few a work and they look adorable with their growing bellies but I can barely look at them cause I get a twinge of jealously/guilt! Can't help thinking.. When is our turn??
I turned 35 last month. So not sure if I qualify for the 6mos limit or if it starts from 35 and beyond?? UGH, my moods are so labile, was feeling good earlier today and now so moody and easily irritated The closer I get to AF it seems the longer my tww it is taking.
I had surgery in 2007 to remove uterine fibroids. An ultrasound 11mos ago showed a few had grown back but doc says it shouldn't affect our ability to get pg. I'm starting to feel less convinced as time drags on. It's a tough thing to be told everything is 'normal' yet no baby. So frustrating
I guess I have no other choice but to make it through the next week or so and FXd no but finally get my
I will be sending to you and the rest of us in the tww
The 2ww is officially the worst. I am at I think 9 or 10 dpo, and this morning, I had a little bit of spotting - I usually have spotting before AF but not this many days before (AF is due Friday or Saturday)...I really want to be positive and believe that it is implantation bleeding, but I don't think so. I hope that there is a BFP very soon in our futures!
Its is definitely reassuring to know I'm not alone. And I really feel for you ladies who have been at this for a year if not longer. My heart truly goes out to you. This is not an easy journey but I have to remind myself that the wait will be worth it when I finally get my BFP!
I just don't know what it is about this month though. I have been so down. Prolly not helping that I have been obsessing on line reading forums and tww symptoms and poas daily. It's all just really getting to me this month. Every little twinge or ache I have I attribute it to possibly being pg. But I've had worse symptoms where I thought the same thing only to turn out to get AF each time
You ladies are helping me get out of my funk though with your kind and encouraging words. Much appreciated
Hi Lovely, me again! I know what you mean about the symptom spotting agggh!! So far mine are sore bbs, a few twingy pains in uterus area, some hormonal spots on my chin and a sore throat. Only time will tell I suppose. I do remember a symptom from when I was pg before with my ectopic, and that was that I felt like I had butterflies all the time, like I was really nervous about something, it was weird, but I'm not sure if this is a symptom or because there was something wrong??
I really hope we all get what we desire this cycle, let's hope this is a lucky thread xxx
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