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Old May 20th, 2012, 08:31 AM   1
2011butterfly
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Don't know what to make of this


I've never had any trust issues with my partner or I've never thought he'd cheat. We've been together 2 years.

He left his facebook open and I noticed he had a new message from a girl. Now I don't mind him talking to girls, as long as he isn't flirting/cheating. The thing that got me was that he's told her he's single It's like he's ignoring my complete existense.

I'm mostly shocked, never thought he'd lie and say he's single.
Does anybody have any advice?



 
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Old May 20th, 2012, 10:07 AM   2
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wow I dunno what to say if that was me part of me would want to know how far he'd go with this girl..if he'd lie about his status what else would he do? but that's just me hun, I wouldn't want to confront him now cuz If he got caught before he did anything serious id be thinking what he could have done and would have serious trust issues..but on the other hand u could nip it in the butt hmm



 
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Old May 20th, 2012, 10:13 AM   3
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That's exactly how I feel.



 
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Old May 20th, 2012, 11:59 AM   4
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I dont think anybody can tell you what to do, must be so difficult. I would say go with your gut instinct but be careful not to lie to yourself.

Let us know how it goes and what you decide



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Old May 20th, 2012, 12:09 PM   5
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Oh god, that's really shocking. :/ I don't know what to advise, because it's never happened to me (not to my knowledge, anyway), but
Keep us updated with whatever you decide to do.



 
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Old May 20th, 2012, 12:22 PM   6
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Wow! I agree that you have to go with your gut, but if it was me I'd ask him about it. Not asking could lead to more trust issues and worry whereas talking to him now might bring a resolution. Good luck and let us know what happens.



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Old May 20th, 2012, 13:04 PM   7
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I will talk. Just know if I do it now I'll shout, and will not listen to a word that he says. Problem is, something like this does create trust issues. No matter what he says back of my mind, every time he goes out I'll think the worse



 
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Old May 20th, 2012, 13:39 PM   8
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ouch... I'd almost have this like dissapointed feeling if I was in your position, when your in a relationship and let someone in your heart you trust them enough not to hurt you.. but to deny a status with someone you 'love' is just dissapointing and heartaching.. I'm so sorry you have to go through this, but you will need to face him about this one day or another because thats not fair for you.. I know all ladies would just want to yell, but maybe that'll get him frustrated and deny the whole thing, but if you do it in a way that you have a sad tone in your voice, that'll make him feel pretty bad about himself.. just my opinion..

Again so sorry and I hope this gets settled out hun ..



 
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Old May 20th, 2012, 15:42 PM   9
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First of all...

I've never experienced this but whenever OH does something to p*ss me off and I confront him, I know I have to wait. It's no use getting in a huge slanging match, you need to figure out how you're feeling and be able to tell him without getting too angry. Easier said I know.

Good luck with your chat!



 
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