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Old Jul 30th, 2012, 02:12 AM   11
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I agree with wellsk: you could keep putting off trying so one more thing slips into place to make it a more ideal time, but you'd wait forever! I've always said I wanted to be a young mum, so at 23 I feel it's the right time. Im a registered nurse with a salary that isn't too bad for my first job and mentally I'm ready to be a mum. I do get anxious tho because of my partner. He worries he's not going to be a worthy father because he has no career (works as a dispatch co-ordinator) and he's 30. He is excited but he's always been the practical one, the one who thinks things through (sometimes too much). I suppose that's good but it means he worries more than I do. Of course I'm worried about being a good mum, but I do believe that we can make it work and make it work very well.

I know what you mean about family too. We are worried they'll start telling us we arnt ready etc, but then my partner thinks his mum will soon warm to the idea (she has expressed many times that she wants to be a grandma) and my mum will find it scary but I know she'll do what she can to help

At the end of the day, if it's right for you it's right for you! I think everybody will get nervous at some point tho. Even if you had tonnes of money!



 
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Old Jul 30th, 2012, 03:03 AM   12
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My OH melts my heart when I see him with other peoples LO's too, we were at a christening yesterday and he was cooing over his cousins baby! So cute!
We took a trip to asda on the way he to get something in for tea and strolled into the 'George' section and he kept holding little baby suits up... He's definitely getting used to the idea of trying!

Jary I think mums just worry, no doubt we'll be the same when our LOs are growing up! X



 
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Old Jul 30th, 2012, 04:19 AM   13
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Thanks Jary
Someone said on one of the other threads that if you weren't worried and didn't care about how you'd cope then that's a worrying state of mind for someone who want's to be a mother.

My DH smiles at babies, but he won't hold them or touch them. My close friend had a baby a couple of months ago, and he point blank refuses to hold him. Simply because he describes it as 'that baby is that person's whole world, it's too much responsiblity to take on. If I drop it, it's not like a phone. I can't pay to replace the damage.'
Bless him.



 
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Old Jul 30th, 2012, 05:31 AM   14
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I think it may have been me who said that wellsk ha, I keep getting myself all exited as it's my turn in my next cycle!!! X



 
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Old Jul 30th, 2012, 05:37 AM   15
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Oh!
Although I wanted to warn you (although I sound like a right party pooper!), most people don't get pregnant on their first cycle, or their second, or probably their third! It's an incredibly hard disappointment to deal with. But you'll get through it, and hopefully it won't be too long until we can post our BPFs!



 
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Old Jul 30th, 2012, 05:46 AM   16
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Ooh I know hun (my mums OH is a fertility expert) I'm under no illusion that it may take a while to concieve, what I meant is 'it's my turn to start trying' :-) xx



 
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Old Jul 30th, 2012, 05:50 AM   17
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I don't think I've asked you yet, but please excuse me if I have!
Are you charting or temping or anything? Or are you just gonna see how it goes?



 
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Old Jul 30th, 2012, 06:13 AM   18
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I'm not doing any chick, I'm pretty much in touch with when I O, I have got opk test sticks just incase I want to test for the exact moment I O but mums OH said I'm better just relaxing and BDing every 2-3 days x



 
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Old Jul 30th, 2012, 06:58 AM   19
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That's fair enough. It is best that way I think. I wish I had that option



 
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Old Jul 30th, 2012, 07:00 AM   20
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Aww I know, it must be so difficult for you
How do you cope (I have a high sex drive and OH generally can't keep up with me ha!) x



 
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