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Old Nov 12th, 2012, 01:22 AM   1
firstymemommy
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**NEWBIE** hello all! WAVE!!


Hi ladies! I joined BnB almost 5 months ago when i concieved. I had some problems and suffered a MMC at 11 weeks. It was one of many MC ive had. I recently found out that i do have some fertility problems from previous surgeries, and infections. PID, Cervicitis, Endo, and Leep, several vaginal bi-ops, and laporoscopy procedures. All unfortunatley before the age of 21.

I was lurking around in TTC forums as soon as i confirm the MMC in sept 2012, but soon after realized that i wasnt really emotionally ready.So i havent been on BnB in a while. But i think im ready now, so i threw myself back into school in hopes of obtaining a PH.d in Administrative Medicine. I have set up a rigurous class sched and decided not to work until the summer.

Although latley i feel this little grren monster of envy come out of me when i see a pregnant women in stores, or when one of my friends pops up expecting. I wanna be happy for them for having an easy conception and hopefully a healthy pregnancy but part of me just feel cheated. I feel my body is broken and im scared ill never be able to concieve let alone give bith to a healthy baby.

I havent tried any fertility booster or drugs just yet, i havent even really gone to a specialist to see how bad it really is. I guess more out of sheer terror than laziness. I see stories of couples trying for years and some who have never been successful and i just cant bare the thought! So for now im giving myself a 2-year plan before really trying again.

Im want to go to school then move to a university out of state. Finances arent a huge worry, so its almost a fail proof plan -doesnt make it any less of a backup though - Sorry i rambled on, i been holding alot in trying to spare people from my pity party. I think ill join in on the WTT fun! Keep me occupied and hopeful



 
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Old Nov 12th, 2012, 02:12 AM   2
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Hi there,
I am in a sort of similar situation to you - I am 23, in my final year of an honours degree, and I should be due on the 29th of March next year. I should also have a 15 month old. I have had two miscarriages, both conceived whilst using contraception, so falling pregnant is not my issue - staying pregnant is, sadly.
I have been offered investigations to find the cause of my issues (if there is a cause!) but I am way too scared to go through, I am worried they will tell me I will never carry to full term!
My mum also suffered from multiple miscarriages, she now has two daughters conceived naturally so I know there is hope!
Myself and my boyfriend are both quite traditional and ideally we would like to be married before we have children, but I honestly don't think I can wait that long! Realistically, even if we were not married, two years would be a realistic timescale for us, with my university and taking up a full time job when I finish.
All the best!



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Old Nov 12th, 2012, 05:42 AM   3
Wanabemumtobe
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Please any advice would be great!


Hi lovely ladies I'm 22, have been with my fiancÚ for 4 and a half years, we have a lovely home together and couldn't be happier. Except for that one little thing that's missing. Iv wanted to be a mummy since I was 16, and feel its pretty much my purpose in life. I have polycystic ovary syndrome, so iv got the dodgy ovaries, insulin resistance, irregular cycle, excess hair, you name it iv got it!!

My question is, are there any ladies out there in the same situation? And what are your feelings about when to TTC? I'm so scared of waiting until the time is perfectly right and then being unable to fall pregnant. I would much rather have my babies earlier than is strictly ideal than miss my oportunity.

I love my fiancÚ to pieces and know that he will be a fantastic daddy, but what if we wait and then I can't give him babies?? It would break me please any advice would be fantastic. Thanks ladies.



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Old Nov 12th, 2012, 05:44 AM   4
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Sorry wrong page! I'm new lol x



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Old Nov 16th, 2012, 11:00 AM   5
firstymemommy
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Originally Posted by loeylo View Post
Hi there,
I am in a sort of similar situation to you - I am 23, in my final year of an honours degree, and I should be due on the 29th of March next year. I should also have a 15 month old. I have had two miscarriages, both conceived whilst using contraception, so falling pregnant is not my issue - staying pregnant is, sadly.
I have been offered investigations to find the cause of my issues (if there is a cause!) but I am way too scared to go through, I am worried they will tell me I will never carry to full term!
My mum also suffered from multiple miscarriages, she now has two daughters conceived naturally so I know there is hope!
Myself and my boyfriend are both quite traditional and ideally we would like to be married before we have children, but I honestly don't think I can wait that long! Realistically, even if we were not married, two years would be a realistic timescale for us, with my university and taking up a full time job when I finish.
All the best!
I have felt the same way since 16 as well.. I always wondered was that normal.? I just have grown weary with the thought of never having my very own healthy little one. I have gotten pregnant before, however it takes such a long time, and then i never make it to the second tri, which becomes tiring. I deff understand how you feel about waiting, i cant imagine ever feeling "READY" enough. But the feeling of not feeling ready is ringing loud and clear in my head right now. I still feel green thinking about how far along i should be, and my due date...my next prenatal visit just passed not even a week ago. Sigh... boy oh boy. Who ever realized we would have these "issues" right.? As a girl i thought it would be as easy and magical as i would hear it to be, but sadly for some its a task. All the best!



 
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