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Old Jan 31st, 2013, 03:20 AM   1
xLeeBeex
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Anyone with an unknown length of waiting?


I know there's been a few posts about this, but thought i'd start yet another one as I can't find the other ones.

I currently have no idea how long we'll be WTT. We want to wait until we have a house, and the OH wants to go on a few more holidays as a couple, and this year we'll begin our savings for a deposit. We've got no idea how long it will take to save enough, so can't really give ourselves a date, which is making it difficult as it currently seems endless.

I've been broody for a few years now, i'm nearly 23 and the OH is 32, and we've been together for 5 and a half years. Recently the broodiness level seem to rise and fall throughout the day. In the evenings i'm really broody, but in the mornings i'm all set and focused on the things we have to do. I'm getting on my own nerves now.



 
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Old Jan 31st, 2013, 04:52 AM   2
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Me!

My OH and I are both 23 and living in our own place but we have no date (or even a rough time frame) for TTC as my OH insists on us being financially stable before we have a LO. He's the only one currently employed since I was made redundant 18 months ago. I'm not on job seekers or anything though. I've just been using my savings to pay for bill and such but I probably only have about a year left on them. Because of this, it has been really hard to save money and my OH wants a little nest egg before we have a LO.

I've been broody for almost 2 years but it only got really bad in October last year. It's driving me (and my OH) crazy now! It feels like everyone around us has either just had a baby, is pregnant or is trying. I'm tired of being the only one without a date!



 
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Old Jan 31st, 2013, 06:03 AM   3
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Well at least you aren't alone!

I shall have a look at your journal when I'm not at work.



 
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Old Jan 31st, 2013, 07:03 AM   4
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Me! I'm 24 and DH is 29. We agreed to wait atleast 3 years before getting married but then I got all broody and thats how I've been for the past 1,5 years...so I guess I have a minimum of 1,5 years wait and no idea how long it could be on top of that...

I am doing well financially and careerwise but its DH who isn't and I do understand his reason for wanting to wait..its just hard when I'm all ready and I have pretty much achieved everything I have wanted to achieve before starting a family. My DH has just opened a company and has a part-time job to help us manage the bills but cant really take a fulltime job because of the company and the time it takes. I have noo idea how long it will take for it to be making enough profit for him to take a decent salary out of it. I have no SAHM dreams though, definitely planning to be a working mom once LO is 10-12 months old. And we don't need to wait until having a downpayment for a house, we are happily renting from the government, cheap and our location is great! Houses here would cost a fortune and I don't fancy moving to a crappier location.



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Old Jan 31st, 2013, 07:08 AM   5
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We're in the same boat insofar as having an unknown wait time goes. For us, there are chriteria that have to be met (financial stability, him working and me being able to be at home again, etc etc), so there really looks like there will never be an end to it. It's extremely frustrating for both of us because we're both in our thirties and the clock is tick-tocking away. DH is feeling it a lot more too, because he says stuff to me pretty regularly about it like "Do you love me? Do you really? Will you have my babies?" And of course, the answer's always yes, because I've been super broody since DS was around a year and a half old (he'll be seven this month coming!), but it's at least gratifying to know that DH is broody, too.



 
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Old Jan 31st, 2013, 07:25 AM   6
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It's nice to know I'm not alone. No one else I know IRL feels the way I do. In fact, I think many would think I was crazy for wanting to start a family. It's annoying more than anything not to have a time frame. Finances seem to be the big issue for a lot of people, that or buying a home!



 
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Old Jan 31st, 2013, 17:08 PM   7
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Hiya!

I don't have a date either. My OH and I had a talk about it last night and we're still no closer to having a date. Just that we have goals to meet and until those goals are met, we're WTT. Most of our goals are financial...we need to be more financially stable and we're just now finally on our way to that since we both just found decent jobs. Fortunately, I'm pretty young still (21) so we have plenty of time to get our goals completed, however this feeling I have is absolutely driving me nuts. I've been WTT since May of last year, and it's been a rough wait. Nice to see other ladies in the same boat, though, even though I wish you all didn't have to be.



 
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Old Jan 31st, 2013, 17:51 PM   8
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Yep, mostly seems like everyone is waiting for financial reasons. Poxy money! Think we should start a thread for the unknowns!!



 
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Old Feb 1st, 2013, 16:59 PM   9
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I'm in the same boat now :-/
Both me and OH are 23 and we are getting married in August!! Originally after I miscarried I wanted to NTNP a couple of months before the wedding but now we have decided we are going to go on a big honeymoon and I don't want to be pregnant for that! And we talked about it the other night and we decided we want to get things finished around the house before we start TTC! This all has pretty much pushed it back about a year maybe more!!
Not knowing sucks but I guess I have lots to look forward to this year!



 
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